Chapter 914: In comparison, I think Lao Xiao is better

"Let me tell you, although I lost my mother when I was very young, I always feel that the way you and your mother get along is a bit strange.

Tell me more about it, and I'll analyze it for you. After all, I studied psychology." Xiaoyan sat on the sofa with her arms folded across her chest, looking ready to answer any questions.

I rolled my eyes, "Haha, that's criminal psychology!"

"Don't worry about such details. Criminal psychology isn't psychology?

Sweet tofu pudding is not tofu pudding?"

“I only eat salty tofu pudding!”

"Okay, don't get excited just by talking about food. Tell me what happened between you and your mom." Xiaoyan laughed and picked up an apple from the coffee table and started to eat it.

I really need to talk and relieve stress. I feel like after I talk about it, someone will share the depression with me.

I talked a lot about the things between my mother and me from childhood to adulthood.

For example, when I was a child, my mother asked me what interest class I wanted to choose. I said I wanted to learn badminton. My mother said no, girls should learn dancing, because it would make them look good.

She asked me what I wanted to eat, and I said fried chicken, but she said no. In the end, I had the bland black chicken soup, the kind with wolfberries.

Also, all my clothes had to conform to her aesthetic. Before college, I hardly ever wore clothes I liked. I would even rather wear school uniforms.

There are too many things like this, especially after I went to college, my mother changed from always dictating what I should do to almost everything I like.

She is just like the Da Piaoliang in the United Nations. Whatever the University of Tokyo advocates, she will vote against it without thinking.

In order to make her happy, I can only compromise again and again. The more I talk, the more tired I feel.

After listening to this, Xiao Yan commented: "It's really not easy for you to grow up to have the personality you have now."

"That's my unique talent!"

"Actually, I think your mom is a typical person with a strong desire for control. Was she always strictly controlled by your grandparents since she was a child? Whether it's academically or in life, she has to follow her parents' standards.

For example, you have to be in the top three in the exam..."

"No, my grandma said my mom always ranked first in exams when she was little."

Xiao Yan chuckled and said, "I'm sorry, I'm not very familiar with the world of academic masters.

Does your mother listen to her parents very much?"

I remembered that she listened to my grandfather and gave her lover to my aunt, so she must be very obedient. Anyway, if she asked me to give Xiao Shiqiu to Deng Sisi, I would definitely turn the table on the spot.

I nodded. "Yes, my mother treated my grandfather's words as an imperial decree!"

"That's right. People who grow up in this kind of environment will regard 'control' as 'love' and 'obedience' as 'safety'.

When they take this logic as their own survival logic, when they grow up, especially when they have children, they will naturally copy this pattern to their children.

The idea that parents should discipline their children and disobeying them is deeply ingrained in their minds.”

Hearing her words, I nodded repeatedly, "That's right, you are my mother's soulmate! I almost want to call you Aunt Hong!"

"You're quite a snob~" Xiao Yan said with a mixture of anger and amusement, "You think your mother likes to go against you after college? It's probably because you're not around anymore and she feels her control has weakened.

So she needs to constantly oppose your ideas to make sure she still has control over you."

"That makes so much sense!" It suddenly dawned on me. We should not treat criminal psychology as psychology. I took out a newly bought and unopened lipstick from my bag and handed it over in a flattering manner.

"Sister, this is for you. I think the color is especially suitable for a modern-day woman like you who is smart and powerful.

What you said just now is absolutely right. I think that's the case. Okay, now that you've analyzed the problem, tell me how to cure her problem."

Xiao Yan didn't hesitate to give me a polite word. After taking the lipstick, she looked at me with a very complicated look and asked, "Can you convince her to see a psychiatrist?"

I shook my head like a rattle. "Impossible! I asked her to see a psychiatrist, but she scolded me so badly that I didn't even recognize my home."

"Then can you communicate with her calmly? Tell your mother what you just said to me?"

"No, she will think that I am holding a grudge and she will explode on the spot!" I get a headache just thinking about that scene.

"Then it's over. If nothing works, there's no point in talking about whether it can be cured or not. For her condition, there's no solution!" Xiaoyan came to the conclusion directly.

I choked. "So you spent all this time analyzing just to watch the fun, not to solve the problem?"

Xiao Yan said slowly, "That's not the case. Although I can't change your mother's bad habits, it's still possible to help you get over this matter."

My eyes lit up again. It’s okay to deal with the current situation first. I can look for her next time I meet her.

"Then tell me about it." I looked at her humbly and devoutly.

Xiao Yan asked me very seriously, "Are you sure you want to get the marriage certificate with Mr. Xiao now?"

I was a little conflicted. "I wanted to wait a little longer, but when I hesitated, Lao Xiao seemed very sad, and I couldn't bear to make him sad..."

I glanced at her and suddenly changed the subject and asked her, "If Ah Zhi wanted to get married with you now, would you agree?"

Xiao Yan's face froze for a moment, and she said sullenly, "Yes..."

I perked up when I heard that. "Then why don't you two get your marriage certificate?"

"...But he didn't say he wanted to get a marriage certificate with me." Xiao Yan sighed.

I was a little bit incredulous. "Well, he's totally devoted to you, and he doesn't even plan to marry you?"

Xiao Yan actually started to feel a little embarrassed. "That's not the case. He told me to tell him when I want to get married..."

It turns out that this brother is waiting for notification. This makes it difficult for me to comment!

I kept asking, "Then why didn't you tell him you wanted to get married?"

Xiao Yan suddenly raised her neck, her aura full of energy: "I am a girl after all, there is no reason for me to take the initiative to propose marriage. Of course I will wait for him to ask!"

This girl has a very powerful aura. If she wasn't a little less beautiful, she would look a bit like Huang Tianyi.

But if it was Huang Tianyi, she probably wouldn't be so awkward. Given her behavior, she would probably just tell Tang Yi, "Will you get married? I'll give you three days. If you don't, I'll find someone else!"

Thinking about it this way, my Lao Xiao is still the best. He is in charge of everything, so I don’t have to worry too much.

Forget it, there's nothing wrong with getting the certificate earlier. I won't have to worry about it in the future. Even if we lie in the same bed again, we will be considered certified.

Thinking about it this way, I suddenly understood. I looked at Xiaoyan seriously and said, "I think I really want to get the marriage certificate again."

"I think you're implying something."