Chapter 371 No One Wants to Suffer

Shen Nanzhi's analysis is not without reason.

Some people are just that way by nature.

Coupled with the environment in which they grow up, they will all have a certain degree of inferiority complex.

You may not care much about it at ordinary times.

But once you meet the person or thing you want, it will be magnified infinitely.

Knowing the gap between himself and others, the endless inferiority complex is so thick that it seems to wrap him up tightly.

The other party's initiative will naturally make him feel like retreating.

It’s not a question of whether you like it or not, but whether you are worthy of it.

It is because I like her so much that I refuse girls from getting close to me.

After hearing what Shen Nanzhi said, the girl hurriedly asked: "But I don't mind his original family at all. How should I break the situation? My parents also said that they don't care whether my partner is good or bad in the future, but he must be motivated and treat me well."

[Do families like this still exist in today's society? Why haven't I encountered any?]

If you can't find the right person, it might be because you're not good enough to be in that circle. Anyway, none of my relatives or friends ask for a dowry, and even if they do, they'll let their daughters take it all home to start their own family after marriage.

This is the correct use of betrothal gifts. Whether it's buying a house or betrothal gifts, it's for the parents of both parties to support their new family, not just one-sided poverty alleviation.

[That's right. If that's the case, I'm willing to give any amount of betrothal gifts.]

[Hilarious! How can one sentence bring out so many freeloaders? They know they'll get the full amount back, so they're fine with 888,000. But if they don't, do they think even 88,000 is too much? Just like that guy who just killed himself.]

I think you're exaggerating. The requirements for betrothal gifts vary from place to place. Some places simply want a betrothal gift without any dowry at all. In our place, the betrothal gift is given to the bride's family, and then the bride's family gives an equivalent dowry.

[You've strayed from the topic. Now I'm asking how to pursue that boy.]

[Emm, this involves my blind spot in knowledge. I have never pursued anyone in my life. It is always others who pursue me.]

I know how to pursue a boy, but I don’t know how to pursue a boy with low self-esteem.

[How about you just find a random guy to be with, and then deliberately go in front of him to annoy him?]

[What kind of dirty trick is this? Sisters, please don't use it. It will only push people away. Initially, they'll feel inferior to you, but later they'll compare themselves to your boyfriend and realize they're not as good as him. Then, they'll disappear from your world forever.]

[Wait, how does the guy above know so much? Could it be... you used to have low self-esteem too?]

【……】

As the barrage of comments refreshed, Shen Nanzhi slowly spoke. She said: "This thing is hard to say, but sincerity is precious. You can try to understand his world first."

The feelings are mutual.

A relationship like this, where two people have very different living environments, requires more time to adjust to each other.

If you want a relationship to last a long time, one party must accommodate and the other party must understand.

If you don't have either, then it's better not to be together.

Why torture each other and become enemies in the end?

"His world?" The girl hesitated. "Do you want me to integrate into his world?"

"no."

Shen Nanzhi corrected: "The message now being made clear is that you and he grew up in different environments. You can eat, drink and have fun with your classmates without any worries at school, but he can't. He needs to do part-time jobs to maintain his daily expenses."

"This also shows that if you are together, one meal may be equivalent to his income for several days."

The girls rushed to say: "Then we can eat at a roadside stall!"

Shen Nanzhi gave a hypothetical question, "If all your friends are posting photos of themselves eating at high-end restaurants, would you feel a sense of disparity?"

As soon as the problem arises.

The girl on the microphone became noticeably quieter.

Not as decisive and efficient as before.

It seems like he is playing a game with his left and right brain.

[As expected, love is too cheap. When it comes to money, everything else is just a passing cloud.]

Isn't this normal? Relationships aren't a necessity in life. Once you enter society and get married, it's all about the daily necessities of life.

[What the above person said is right. You can tell at a glance that they are experienced people. Those who are willing to do anything for love are just young people who are just starting out. After a long time, they will understand the truth.]

I think it's responsible to each other to think through all these things before starting a relationship.

[Sister, if you feel you can't accept this kind of life, I advise you not to pursue it anymore.]

Let me tell you a story. My aunt once faced the same problem as you. She also fell in love with a poor boy. Despite her family's dissuasion, she overcame all difficulties and insisted on being with him. Now, what do you think happened to them?

[Are you together?]

[No, we've been divorced for two years, and both children live with my sister-in-law.]

Why divorce?

Because the man cheated on me. When he was broke, he was really rude to my aunt. He didn't want her to do any housework. He was willing to spend 2,990 yuan on her out of a 3,000 yuan monthly salary. Later, when he started his own business and had more money, he had more social engagements and all sorts of new things he had never seen before. He couldn't resist the temptation and started having affairs with other women.

[Tsk, a man is only honest when he is hanging on the wall.]

【Hehe, isn’t it the same for women? 】

【……】

The girl was silent for about a minute and a half. She said, "I think I can accept it in the short term, but if it continues like this for a long time, I may not be able to accept it."

A very pertinent answer.

No one wants to suffer.

Especially those who are already wealthy.

Being willing to endure hardships with someone and go through the most difficult times is because you love them enough.

It’s not that she likes or is willing to endure hardship.

If you think she likes to suffer, it means that you don't love her enough.

Just like when you raise kittens and puppies, you are willing to give them the best within your ability.

The same goes for people.

Shen Nanzhi said: “Then you can give it a try first and try to understand him.”

From the few words just now, Shen Nanzhi concluded that girls' understanding of boys is only one-sided.

Love may also come very suddenly.

Ninety percent of the time it's just a spur of the moment thing.

For a relationship like this, you have to think it through in advance.

Otherwise, it will end up in a bad mood and as enemies.

When you are in the most difficult time, you are willing to spend 1,800 yuan to buy a bouquet of flowers. That shows how generous you are.

Wasn’t Shen Nanzhi like this before?

For Lu Yanzhou, I am willing to do anything.

On every holiday, gifts would be delivered to Lu Yanzhou on time.

Although the further it goes, the less the man cares.

At least when it comes to this relationship, Shen Nanzhi has a clear conscience.