The old lady asked Xu Tao, "Tao'er, tell your grandmother what you think?"

Xu Tao raised her head, looked at the old lady, and said, "Grandmother, isn't getting married just about living with your future husband? Women should follow the three obediences and four virtues. Once married, you should obey your husband and do whatever he says."

The old lady could clearly sense Xu Tao's negative attitude and said gently, "Tao'er, that's true, but how life turns out depends on you. You've grown up in this manor since you were little. Let's not talk about anything else, just look at your parents. Although they only got to know each other after they got married, they were very compatible. After having you and your siblings, they've made their lives very prosperous. Tao'er, life isn't about who listens to whom, but about two people working together. It's about two people getting through things together. That's what life is all about."

After hearing the old lady's words, Xu Tao looked up at her, her eyes filled with confusion.

The old lady said, "Your eldest sister has been with your aunt since she was a child. Whether it's managing the household or handling interpersonal relationships, she's impeccable. But after she married into her husband's family, she had a few years of hardship. Tao'er, you have a gentle nature. The Feng family is different now than before. In the future, you will not only have to listen to your husband, but you will also have to help your mother-in-law manage the household affairs well, and help her handle the Feng family's interpersonal relationships with other families outside."

Xu Tao's face turned somewhat unpleasant. The old lady said, "You also learned how to manage a household from your mother. Tell your grandmother what you learned."

Xu Tao thought for a moment and said, "Tao'er learned to read account books from her mother. Her mother said that to live a good life, one must know the market prices of things outside. I went to the street with my nanny to see what people were selling, asked them about the prices of various things, and then came back to check the account books. I also learned to cook a few dishes from my nanny."

The old lady sighed repeatedly as she listened, saying, "Good child, living a good life isn't just about looking at accounts and cooking a few dishes. How much have you learned about social interactions and worldly affairs?"

Xu Tao said somewhat shyly, "Grandmother, Tao'er is not good at socializing, so when I encounter something, I always check the precedents from previous years, then choose something of appropriate value, ask my mother, and then send someone to deliver it."

The old lady said, "That's fine, Tao'er. After you get married, you'll have to support yourself. You and your husband will live with your parents-in-law. If anything happens, your parents-in-law will be there to help you. But if your husband is sent to a post in another region, you'll have to go with him. Tao'er, you'll have to help your husband get along well with the wives of his colleagues. You'll be your husband's biggest asset."

Tao'er's face already showed some fear. The old lady said, "Tao'er, this is not something to be afraid of. You still have more than two months before your wedding. In the meantime, your grandmother will send someone to teach you properly, okay?"

Xu Tao said somewhat, "Grandma, what if I don't do well in my studies?"

The old lady said, "No one is born knowing these things. Listen to your grandmother, don't rush, and learn well from the people I've hired for you. Once you've learned something and it's in your mind, that's your skill. Do you understand?"

Xu Tao nodded and said, "Grandmother, I will listen to you."

After Yao left with Xu Tao, the old lady looked at the teacup in front of her. Granny Shen poured her another cup of tea and said, "Old Madam, please don't be in such a hurry."

The old lady sighed and said, "Why does our second daughter seem so uninterested in her marriage? This is her own marriage, her own future. What do you think she really thinks?"

Granny Shen said, "What are you thinking? A young woman is actually very afraid when she gets married. She has lived in her parents' home for more than ten years and was treated like a treasure by her family. Who knows what kind of life she will have after she marries into her husband's family?"

The old lady said, "What you said makes a lot of sense. Guixiang, go and invite Granny Lu over. This time, we still need to trouble Granny Lu to help us find a suitable person to properly teach our second young lady. If that doesn't work out, she can accompany her when she gets married, so our second young lady can take care of him in his old age."

Granny Shen said, "Yes, I'll go right away."

When Granny Lu was invited over by Granny Chen, she frowned and thought for a moment after hearing the old lady's request. She said, "There aren't many girls my age who are still unmarried after being released. They are all younger than me. They are fine to teach our second young lady, but it's hard to say when they will get married."

The old lady said, "I know it's not easy to find someone like this. I have no other choice. You know our second daughter's temperament and personality. If she really marries into that family, who knows what will happen to her in the future? They are all my children and grandchildren, and of course I hope they will all be well."

Granny Lu waved her hand and said, "I know what you're thinking, Madam. I can only say that I will do my best, but I can't guarantee whether I can find a suitable candidate."

The old lady said, "Of course. We have so many daughters in our family. One is married off, another is about to get married, and there are still seven left. If all the later ones are like the second daughter, I'm really worried. Why don't we take advantage of their young age and teach them these things properly? What do you think?"

Granny Lu said, "My dear old lady, your third mistress is a hands-off manager. She avoids all matters, big and small, in her courtyard whenever possible. I don't have the energy to teach the young ladies anymore."

The old lady said, "I was just thinking of asking you to invite a few more nannies over. You have so many connections, finding a few people would be a piece of cake for you."

Granny Lu smiled and said, "I think you've spent a lot of time with our Brother Bai, and you've learned how to coax people to do chores for you."

The old lady smiled and said, "No matter what, as long as you can help me, that's fine."

Granny Lu said, "Alright, I'll help you, okay?"