Chapter 190 Tribal Members' Views on Life

All living beings, including people on Earth today, have their own ways of living: some live one day at a time, with the mindset of just going through the motions; some see through the illusions of the world and enter the Buddhist order, believing that is their ultimate destination; some choose to give up, believing that death is the end; and some strive and work hard to pursue a better quality of life, ultimately succeeding. This seems to be the true meaning of living.

There are many reasons for living, but two main ones are relationships and career. Let's talk about career first. Everyone hopes to achieve something and make a name for themselves.

But this process is long and arduous; surviving it is a victory. Not everyone can achieve great success or turn the tide.

So what should you do when you encounter setbacks and failures? Should you keep complaining? Should you resent others, resent yourself, resent God for being unfair? Should you continue to persevere or give up?

It seems that fate is fair to everyone; everyone has an equal opportunity, it just depends on whether you can seize it. Usually, when fate closes a door, it opens a window. Those who encounter failure and setbacks should pay attention: if you maintain a clear mind and carefully analyze your current situation, you will find that window and seize the opportunity to turn things around. Conversely, if you spend all your time dwelling on things, complaining, and wasting a lot of time, you won't see the window fate has opened for you, and you'll lose the chance to turn things around; you'll feel surrounded by darkness, with no light and a bleak future.

It was cold yesterday, and it's cold today, but it will be warm tomorrow.

"Many people die tonight. Why? Because they don't believe there is a tomorrow. They don't believe tomorrow will be warm, so they give up. And of course, they won't see tomorrow's sun."

Therefore, never give up easily in anything you do: perseverance is key.

Let's talk about relationships. Some people live for relationships, some die for relationships, and some even slit their throats for relationships.

When love comes, we should accept it with equanimity; when love leaves, we should smile and tell ourselves it's nothing. Loving and being loved both involve hurt; whoever stops loving first leaves first.

Those who remain, wipe away your tears, find the cure, and slowly heal your wounds. Relationships are inherently two-way; what should you do when the person you love no longer loves you?

Ha Gang chuckled lewdly and said thoughtfully, "People are fickle. Don't think you're so great that you can easily see through other people's thoughts. In fact, some people just want to show you the side of themselves that they want to present, but no one knows their true side."

People are multifaceted. One second they might be chatting and laughing with you, and the next they might treat you like a stranger. Life is so long, and you'll meet so many people, all sorts of strange and wonderful individuals. Some might become important people in your life, while others might just be a fleeting glimpse, ultimately becoming passersby.

Of all the people in the world, some are worth cherishing and investing in, while others are simply meant to be known.

Pingyao, not to be outdone, immediately chimed in: "Sometimes, the friends or besties you think you are often the ones who hurt you the most."

I once witnessed such a story firsthand. I never imagined it wasn't just a plot from a novel or TV drama; it actually exists in real life. It turns out everything originates from life. Xiao Ran and Xiao Luo were very good friends. One was introverted, the other extroverted; one was carefree, the other meticulous—their personalities were completely opposite, yet fate brought them together. They had known each other since junior high, were in the same class in junior high, high school, and even university, though in different majors. Their friendship was very strong, but because of someone in university, their relationship changed.

It turns out that long acquaintances don't guarantee lasting friendship, and not everyone will stay with you until the end. Those who, because of your excellence and what you possess that they lack, are ultimately not on the same path. We will eventually drift apart from these people. It's best to keep them at a distance; too much interaction will only hurt you and destroy your perception of their kindness. They hurt us out of jealousy; they flattered us because they wanted something from us; they treated us like slaves after achieving success, expecting us to obey their every command; and when we fell on hard times, they ignored us. Just let these people go, let them fade with time. Don't force it, because they weren't truly sincere towards you.

Those who truly care for us won't ignore us when we're in trouble, nor will they stab us in the back. They'll make us laugh and bring us joy when we're sad; they'll give us a hug or companionship when we're lonely; they'll share our successes; and they'll encourage and give us confidence when we fail. These are the people we should cherish. We should hold onto these people, because it's through them that our lives become rich and fulfilling.

Human hearts are unpredictable; some people are worth cherishing, while others are best left as acquaintances.

Slowly, I've learned to bear the wind alone, no longer expecting anyone's help. The world is unpredictable, and people's hearts are hard to fathom. If you can bear it yourself, then bear it. Don't make a fuss. Your grievances may just seem funny and pretentious to others.

People with principles are respected by everyone. Times have changed; the "nice guy" isn't popular anymore. Having a temper is also a sign of true character. Swallowing back what's on the tip of your tongue may indicate maturity, but speaking up when necessary shows responsibility.

The person you'll spend your life with in the future is, at the same time as you, enduring the same loneliness. That person must also be filled with anticipation and possess a surge of courage, traversing the vast sea of ​​people to come and meet you.

You must have had moments like this, wanting to confide in someone, only to find no one around. So, you got used to loneliness and learned to be strong.

Don't speak too intimately with casual acquaintances. Some excitement will eventually fade away. There's no need to say too much to people you don't truly respect.

The four great tragedies of life are: being too poor to do bad things, being too familiar with someone to be lovers, being too hungry to know what to eat, and being too tired to fall asleep!

Time is the biggest liar, but it also teaches you that nothing in this world is irreplaceable. Cherish what you have, and what you can't get is not important.

The gap between ideal and reality is like picking up a piece of meat and thinking it's meat, only to find out it's ginger when you bite into it.

All the things I did in an attempt to move you only ended up moving myself.

Happiness is something to be felt, not compared. Life is something to be lived, not something to be calculated. Happiness is like drinking water; only you know whether it's hot or cold. Your happiness isn't in the eyes of others, but in your own heart.

Don't inquire about the scenery you've already passed by. Once you've chosen a path, the scenery along the other path becomes irrelevant to you.

Some things aren't that we don't care, but rather, what can we do even if we do care? Life has no "what ifs," only consequences and results. Maturity is facing all the little things with a smile. Only when you're at your lowest point will you know who the fools are who truly care about you, and who the bastards are who treat you like a stranger.

The reason you feel lost is often just one thing: at the age when you should be working hard, you think too much and do too little.