Chapter 31: She is a career-oriented woman

I asked them to ask questions first and asked Chunlai to record them so that similar items could be combined and answered in a unified manner.

The first question is, I want to promote myself. How can I promote myself on Douyin? First, I can do it in a way that does not disgust others, and second, I can make others pay attention to me.

I smiled and replied, "Please remember this universal formula of mine."

The people below began to pick up their pens.

I said: "[Hotspot] + [Self-introduction] + [Positive energy statement]"

Everyone copied it down.

"The so-called hot spots are events that everyone is paying attention to. If you don't create hot spots, no one will even look at you. Let me give you an example, taking the female restaurant owner just now as an example."

Everyone looked at me.

"Huawei's recently produced Mate60 mobile phone broke the technological blockade imposed on us by certain countries. This is a source of pride for the Chinese people, fully demonstrating that we are not afraid of any powerful force and dare to challenge any Western country that wants to encircle and block us. However, Huawei's technology has always been a mystery.

When others hear this, they think you're going to talk about Huawei or some of the inside stories behind these inventions, and they'll keep reading.

Then just keep talking.

"As a small restaurant owner who has run a restaurant for 12 years, I am proud of Huawei.

[Here, you put yourself in the picture and complete your self-introduction]

Please continue.

"I must learn the Huawei spirit and work hard in the catering industry. I want to reassure customers and satisfy employees. At the same time, at the end of this year, I will reward each outstanding employee with a Mate60 phone.

Welcome to my shop, Chunhua Road, No. 399.

This is a very positive statement. It also promotes your store. People won't be offended by it; instead, they'll see you as patriotic, generous, and upright. Therefore, they'll be more willing to come to your store.

Just now, there were other comrades who could also use this three-part sales pitch, just with a slight variation. For example, the furniture store owner, I'll read it to you right away.

"Huawei's recently produced Mate60 mobile phone broke the technological blockade imposed on us by certain countries. This is a source of pride for the Chinese people, fully demonstrating that we are not afraid of any powerful force and dare to challenge any Western country that wants to encircle and block us. However, Huawei's technology has always been a mystery.

As a small furniture store owner with 15 years of experience, I'm proud of Huawei. My phone hasn't changed in 20 years because reputation is paramount.

I must emulate the Huawei spirit and work diligently to build a successful furniture store. I aim to reassure customers and satisfy employees. At the end of this year, I will award each outstanding employee with a Mate 60 smartphone.

Having said that, I am only using Huawei as an example. You can use other examples, such as a big fire in a certain place that becomes a hot spot. You can also start from the hot spot.

Anyway, using this formula of [hot topic] + [self-introduction] + [positive energy], people will read and pay attention to it, and it won't offend people, it will only give you extra points."

After giving this example, there was applause from the audience.

Here's the question: I'm late for a friend's party, but the more I explain, the less they believe me, saying I just didn't want to come. What should I do?

I smiled and said, "No explanation, just say sorry. Those who can drink will drink three glasses of wine as punishment."

Someone asked, “Why?”

"Because you said you were stuck in traffic, working overtime, or picking up the kids. They didn't see it and thought you were lying, so they just punished you with three drinks. They saw your sincere apology."

"What if it's a lesbian? What if she can't drink?"

"Come on, come on. I'm not good at drinking, but I'm good at pouring. I'll pour everyone a glass of wine first, and then explain everything to everyone. I'll joke around while I do it—to be honest, my husband won't let me come. You're all so good, and he's a little petty."

The audience burst into laughter.

I said, "It's called a joking solution. No one else will believe it's true. But having a little fun can avoid embarrassment."

At this time, someone stood up and said, "Teacher Wan, I just can't speak."

I said, “Be more specific.”

He said, "One time, I was having dinner with my boss, and he said the fish was cooked exceptionally well. I immediately said, 'Yes, it's really delicious and very much to my taste.' Then, we fell silent."

I laughed and said, "Your answer is disappointing. You always speak from your own perspective. 'Yes, it's really delicious and suits your taste' is your own feeling." The leader didn't know what to say.

You changed your perspective and said, "Going out with you means I can eat delicious food. You really know a lot about food."

At this time, when he receives your praise, he will tell you some of his insights on food. Then you will have something to talk about. "

A student stood up and asked, "Teacher Wan, isn't this flattery?"

I laughed. "Next time I come to your house, I pick up a dish and say, 'This is not cooked well.' Then I pick up another dish and shake my head and say, 'This is not to my taste.' Would you be happy?"

Everyone burst into laughter.

I said, "Appropriate exaggeration doesn't count as flattery. Everyone likes to hear nice things. For example, when you're in a relationship, if your girlfriend isn't very pretty, you don't use the language of a lickspittle to say, 'You are the most beautiful woman in my heart.'"

Is she the most beautiful? If Xi Shi wants to marry you, you should immediately stop this one."

The audience burst into laughter again.

"I declare once again that language is an art. If you coax your wife, she'll be fine. If you nag her, she'll dig up all your faults.

When talking to your colleagues, don't tell them you're okay, but tell them you're awesome. Otherwise, they will think you look down on them.

To strangers, don’t tell them your name, but what should I call you?

To people who are not as good as you, don’t say you are stupid, just say you are really interesting.

If you clearly don't know or understand the question raised by your subordinates, don't say "I don't understand"; instead, say "I want to hear your opinion."

In short, language is an art. Once you master it, others will enjoy interacting with you. I won't give you all the examples, but you can experience them in your own life. Why do you have no friends while others do?

There were a lot of questions below, and I answered them one by one.

Finally, the female student came to me and asked, "Teacher Wan, I do run a sex products factory. What special needs do male customers have?"

I said, "I can't say it, I'll write it to you later."

She didn't leave. I waved my hand and said, "Get out."

After she left, I wrote a few words.

I went out and gave it to her. She opened it and took a look. She didn't even blush and said, "Thank you, Teacher Wan. I will definitely develop more models."

I thought to myself, this is a real career woman.

After saying goodbye to Sister Yu, Chunlai and I went back home.