That being said…
But the influence of elders on marriage cannot be underestimated.
Take the marriage between Qiao Qingqing and Lu Heng for example, wasn’t it also a marriage arranged by Grandpa Lu and Grandpa Qiao back then?
Unless one wants to turn against his family, no one can ignore his mother's attitude towards his marriage.
Unfortunately, Qiao Qingqing and Yao Xiaoman both knew very well that it was impossible for Zhou Lanfang to break up with her mother.
Apart from anything else, the Zhou family has actually been very good to their daughter. In this era where there is a serious preference for boys over girls, the Zhou family's attitude towards their daughter can be considered quite good.
Going to the countryside was not forced by her family, but was Zhou Lanfang's own choice.
——When Zhou Lanfang decided to go to the countryside, compulsory going there had not yet begun, so there was no need for the Zhou family to force her.
Rather than sending their daughter to the countryside, it is actually more in the Zhou family's interest to let her get married.
What's more, after Zhou Lanfang went to the countryside, her family helped her from time to time.
This alone is enough to prove that Zhou Lanfang was not treated badly at home.
Because of this, Zhou Lanfang fell into deep self-doubt during this period.
Her expression in the letter also revealed her dilemma.
"Xiaoman, Sister Qingqing, I originally thought that my parents were different from those male-biased parents in Hongsheng Brigade, especially Feng Guiying. However, when my father said in person that he wanted me to marry his leader's son because he had a wealthy family and could not only afford three roubles and one ring, but also promised to arrange a job for my brother in the future and find a way to solve the housing problem for my brother..."
"At that moment, I felt like I was struck by thunder. But after these days of tossing and turning and reflecting, I suddenly realized: Where is the selfless love and selfless dedication? It is true that my mother loves me, but that is not selfless love, and they cannot make selfless contributions. My mother has already secretly marked a price for my love. She let me study because the more girls study and the higher their academic qualifications, the greater their "capital" will be, and the greater the investment they can get in return."
"Agreeing to let me go to the countryside is a manifestation of my active response to the national policy. It will not only bring honor to them, but also to my future in-laws. Now, I have found a partner without their permission. They think I will soon be out of control and that this partner does not conform to their core interests. So they have taken an unprecedentedly strong attitude and asked me to stay and get a marriage certificate with the son of his leader. After that, his leader will naturally find ways to transfer me here."
"But Sister Qingqing... I could never have imagined that my parents would marry me to a fool who can only drool and giggle for the sake of my brother and my younger brother's future."
"My heart is torn in two. One half says that your parents gave birth to you and raised you, and they have never treated you badly. Now for them, it is right to sacrifice your lifelong happiness. Think about Sister Qingqing! How pitiful she is. Her biological mother would rather abandon her for her adopted daughter, and her adopted mother even abused her since she was a child. Compared with her, you are much happier, aren't you?"
"But the other half will ask: Why? We are both my parents' children, and I am not the only one who is loved by them. My brothers and sisters have also been loved by them since they were young. But now, why should I be sacrificed to fulfill their wishes? Why should I sacrifice myself and devote my life to their selfishness? They are not my children!"
"Until now, the two selves in my mind have not come to an agreement. Sister Qingqing... Xiaoman... I think I'm going crazy."
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Seeing these contents, Qiao Qingqing and Yao Xiaoman felt very distressed.
Yao Xiaoman was young, and when she got angry she immediately said that she would write a letter to Lan Fang, telling her not to give in or compromise!
However, Qiao Qingqing held her back.
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