Whether in her past life or this one, love is merely a supplement for Fang Yan, not a necessity.
Her attitude towards love directly determined her attitude towards men.
Which of the male and female protagonists in romance novels isn't universally loved and admired?
Zhang Jizhou's status as the male lead directly determines that he will definitely have a constant stream of romantic interests around him.
Fang Yan, who neither competes with nor cares to compete with anyone, would never allow herself to be constantly drawn into endless competition.
Life is short, and there are other men in the world besides the male protagonist. It's only a fool to waste such precious time competing with women.
Fang Yan refused.
So from the very beginning, she had decided to stay away from the male lead.
"Mommy, what's divorce?" Little Fish asked in his childish voice after taking a sip of duck soup.
Fang Yan didn't avoid the question, and tried to explain it simply in a way that a child could understand: "So, Mom and Dad aren't living together anymore. Do you want to stay with Mom or Dad?"
"Mom!" Little Fish said without thinking.
This question is not difficult to answer at all.
Because he has always been with his mother.
He's not familiar with his dad, so why is he following him?
Zhang Jizhou glanced at his own son but didn't say anything. When his gaze fell on Fang Yan's face, he slowly said, "Before, I thought that if I sent all my allowance back home and used it to support you, I would have fulfilled my responsibility."
Today, I realized that what I've done is far from enough.
Especially after listening to Zhang Zongde recount the entire process of the family division, as well as the life Fang Yanyan and her children had lived before.
Furthermore, after the family split up, Huang Hongmei even brought her daughter-in-law and daughter to try and rob Fang Yan of the money she had earned. Only then did Zhang Jizhou realize how utterly irresponsible he had been before!
"I'm sorry!" Zhang Jizhou felt really bad.
Fang Yan felt much better after drinking the duck soup cooked with spring water.
“Your apology comes a little late. She’s no longer here. I can’t make the decision for her, whether or not to forgive you,” Fang Yan said calmly.
The reason why Zhang Jizhou and Fang Yanyan's marriage ultimately ended up like this is...
Objectively speaking, aside from the influence of the author's settings, both Zhang Jizhou and Fang Yanyan bear some responsibility.
In fact, Zhang Jizhou and Fang Yanyan's personalities are very characteristic of people from the 1980s.
Most adult men of this era, with a few exceptions, are conservative in their thinking and taciturn. Even between husband and wife, they rarely communicate with each other about everything.
Especially someone like Zhang Jizhou, who joined the army in his teens and has been surrounded by men ever since, might not even know how to get along with his wife.
Therefore, they could only learn from the experience of their comrades-in-arms. Seeing that they did the same thing, sending their allowances to their families, they could not help with other matters even if they wanted to, because they were separated by thousands of miles.
Because everyone around him was doing the same thing, Zhang Jizhou naturally assumed that what he had done before was right and that sending the allowance back was enough.
But he didn't know that not every family is loving and harmonious, with loving parents and friendly siblings.
In addition, Fang Yanyan was illiterate and introverted. She also inherited the "good qualities" that women of this era had—the belief that they should endure as much as possible and not talk too much in front of men, so as not to make things difficult for them.
Most married women in the 1980s were born in the 1960s.
Women born in the 1960s were deeply influenced by the feudal ideas of the older generation.
They all believed that a woman's ultimate path was to marry and have children, devoting herself to her husband's or her own family, to her husband, and to her children, even unto death.
Influenced by this mindset, coupled with her introverted personality, and the threats posed by Huang Hongmei and others to Xiaoyuzai, Fang Yanyan faced even greater difficulties in dealing with the Zhang family's problems, and could only endure and tolerate them.
Even when Zhang Jizhou came home to visit his family, she didn't dare to utter a single word to him.
She wanted to write a letter, but she couldn't read.
Unable to communicate with Zhang Jizhou by letter.
Just like that, all the suppressed emotions could not be released.
And that's when things went wrong?
What's frightening is that, under the Zhang family's pretentious act and Fang Yanyan's silent and submissive acceptance, Zhang Jizhou actually believed that she and the child were living a good life at home.
Arranged marriages and silent marriages are not terrible.
What's truly terrifying is continuing to remain silent after marriage, bearing all the hardships and suffering alone without uttering a sound. Even though you're living in dire straits, others might think you're living a happy life. That's what's truly frightening.
Women, in particular, often feel that as daughters-in-law, wives, and mothers, they should sacrifice themselves in everything to benefit their husbands' families.
For the sake of her husband and children, she would rather endure all the hardships and suffering herself than let her husband be caught in a choice between herself and his family.
Fang Yan felt that when she discovered that Huang Hongmei and the others pretended to be very nice to Zhang Jizhou in front of him, but were secretly abusing them both physically and mentally, she should have found a way to expose them to Zhang Jizhou on the spot.
If Zhang Jizhou can handle this matter fairly and justly, then so be it.
If he dares to favor his parents, then goodbye!
However, when she thought back to Fang Yanyan's personality, she secretly twitched her lips. With the original owner's personality, even if the sharp-tongued Ji Xiaolan came, he probably wouldn't be able to persuade her to expose the hypocrisy of her in-laws and do something as shocking as divorcing Zhang Jizhou.
Fang Yan didn't mean to criticize the original owner, but she still felt that there was a saying that was quite true—character determines destiny.
She doesn't encourage all women to live a life of violence and bloodshed.
However, she still hopes that women will cherish her more.
Don't always put your family, your husband, and your children first, while neglecting yourself.
As someone who traveled from the future, she was somewhat selfish.
She believes that all women should be a little selfish, and should always put themselves first, before being a wife or a mother.
Furthermore, all women must maintain their personal and financial independence.
Because this determines whether you can stand tall and make any decision that aligns with your own will when faced with any unexpected changes.
This is the legendary source of confidence.
"Do we have no choice but to get a divorce?" Zhang Jizhou asked in a low voice after a moment of silence.
Fang Yan nodded, "Yes."
"Why?" Zhang Jizhou frowned. "Can you give me a reason?"
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