"Of course you can." Qiao Lu kissed his cheek and said affirmatively.
The boy seemed a little bit unbelieving and kept looking at his mother's expression.
It didn't seem like a joke at all, and my tense nerves suddenly relaxed.
She spoke cautiously, "Well, if uncle wants to kiss me again in the future, can I stop him?"
"Okay, as long as you don't want it, just refuse it graciously."
If adults like children, they will like to kiss them, regardless of whether the children are willing or not.
If the child is unhappy, the adults will pretend to be angry, and the more obedient children like Joan will basically choose to compromise.
If the child still resists, some parents will tell him/her to save face: "Let the uncle/auntie hug you and kiss you. It's okay. They kiss you because they like you."
In fact, this behavior is not good, as it subtly blurs the boundary between children and outsiders.
Over time, children will be afraid to refuse and will simply obey, eventually developing a people-pleasing personality.
"No matter who it is, you don't need to consider whether he is your parents' friend or not. Even if it is your parents, as long as you don't want to, you can refuse, understand?"
After saying this, Qiao An's eyes widened.
Uncle Li is a good friend of Mom and Dad. Uncle Li is also very nice to him. He lets him play music on the radio and buys him snacks, including canned yellow peaches!
"Mom and Dad can also say no?" Qiao An found it a little unbelievable.
They are my parents, the closest people to me. It would be bad to refuse them, right?
"Yes, An An, what mom wants to tell you is that if someone, whether we know them or not, or they are our close family and friends, of course, including mom and dad, asks you something you don't like, you can just refuse it. You should refuse things you don't like, instead of forcing yourself to accept them just to please someone, understand?"
The paragraph was a bit long, and it took Qiao An a long time to digest it all.
His mouth opened into an "O" in surprise.
"Did you remember that?"
"Really?" If you're not sure, ask again.
"Really." Qiao Lu encouraged him firmly.
In an instant, I was filled with motivation and determination, and I clenched my fists and swore:
"Yes! Mom, I'll remember this. From now on, no matter who wants to kiss me or touch me, I won't let them because I don't like them kissing me!"
Obviously, the child had wanted to refuse for a long time, but he was afraid that his father and mother would be angry and that his mother would think he was "disobedient". Now that his mother says he can refuse, he must be brave enough to refuse in the future!
"Yeah, that's the right thing to do."
In fact, educating my son on this point is not only to prevent him from becoming a people-pleasing person, but also to prevent some abnormalities, such as homosexuality.
Before traveling through time, Qiao Lu had paid attention to the news in this area. Most perverts like to target insecure, easy-to-control, and well-behaved children, and most of the perpetrators are acquaintances.
For a child like Qiaoan who is used to pleasing adults, it is equivalent to having a label on his face: "I am easy to bully."
So who else would the bad guys go after if not you?
Even though it’s the 1980s, there are still a lot of perverts!
My son is cute, sensible and good at making deceitful. The old mother is really worried about him!
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Li Hongjun stayed at home for dinner. Qiao Lu specially steamed sticky rice dumplings and made sauerkraut blood sausage. She learned the craft from Yu Zhilan. The result was not as authentic as hers because it was not cooked well enough.
After the meal was ready, Qiao An helped his mother to carry the dishes and chopsticks, busying around. Li Hongjun kept praising the child for being sensible and well-behaved.
"My dear, you are so good. You are helping your mother with work again. Come and give uncle a kiss."
This time, Qiao An refused without hesitation: "Don't kiss me."
He twisted his body and dodged it quite nimbly.
Li Hongjun laughed and chased after her: "Just give her a kiss, we are not strangers."
Qiao An twisted around again, avoiding his grasp, and slipped behind Xu Haizhou: "No, no, I don't want to kiss anyone except my mom and dad."
Li Hongjun smiled, but didn't force it anymore, and asked him: "Why, didn't you let me kiss you just now?"
"I don't want to think about it now." The boy shook his head, straightened his body, and said neither humbly nor arrogantly.
Li Hongjun poked him on the head: "You are a fickle kid."
While eating dinner, Li Hongjun reported to the couple what happened after they left.
"Business was especially good during the half month you two were away. I called Caijun over to help on the first day of the new year. The two of you were so busy that I was worried that the inventory wouldn't last until you came back."
"So busy? Then you should pay him for his hard work." It seems that Hou Caijun has gradually become idle after the beating. He has become like a brick, being moved wherever he is needed.
Li Hongjun nodded after picking up a piece of blood sausage and said, "Yes, I will give it. I asked him how much he wanted and he said it's up to him to give it or not. You said how could I let him help me for nothing? But I'm not sure how much to give, so let's discuss it after you come back."
After all, it is not just his stall, and when it comes to money, of course he has to discuss it with the "shareholders".
"You've been helping from the first day of the new year to today, it's been eight days. How much do you think is appropriate to pay?" Li Hongjun said.
"Do you come here every day?" Xu Haizhou asked.
"Yes, every day, about 8 to 7:30."
"So busy?" Normally, we finish work at 6:30 in the summer and 5:30 in the winter. I didn't expect that during the Spring Festival period I would not be able to go home until 7:30.
"Yeah, business is a little slow today, otherwise I would still be guarding the stall now." It's the Spring Festival, and everyone works hard to save money throughout the year, just waiting to spend it big at the end of the year. It's understandable.
After considering for a moment, Xu Haizhou looked at the two and said, "Give me twenty yuan, twenty yuan a day, rounding it up to two hundred yuan."
Carrying and transporting goods is not an easy job, the extra money should be considered as hard work pay.
"Okay." Li Hongjun took out the account book and cash from his big pocket and said, "It's all here, you're right."
Xu Haizhou handed the things to Qiao Lu, who was the "accountant" of the family.
Qiao Lu accepted it and said, "Okay, leave it here for now. I'll take a look at it when I'm free in the evening."
The group continued to eat, and Li Hongjun suddenly asked:
"By the way, do you remember the clothing stall at the corner of Baiyun Street? The one at the outermost one."
After thinking about it again and again, a face finally flashed in her mind. Qiao Lu asked: "The boss with the big haircut?"
puff--
"Big hair with protruding flowers? Hahaha——" Li Hongjun burst into laughter: "Sister-in-law, your description is very appropriate, very appropriate."
Big flower, isn’t it just a big flower?
The man looked to be about 37 or 38 years old, and was obviously a clothing seller. He often dressed up but never paid attention to his appearance.
In summer, he goes out in a pair of sandals and big trousers, but in winter he wraps himself up tightly. Only his big frizzy hair style remains the same in all seasons. He has a generous personality, but recently he has been competing with Xu Haizhou's stall for some reason.
"What's wrong with him?" the couple asked in unison.
Li Hongjun laughed and said, "I've been acting crazy lately and looking for trouble. This is one of the reasons why I asked Caijun to help. He's big and can keep things under control to prevent the old man from causing trouble."
"Looking for trouble?"
"Yeah." Li Hongjun frowned, then straightened his expression and said, "He said he wanted to switch seats with us."
The couple was confused: "What's going on?"
Doesn’t Dazhihua occupy the best stall on the entire Baiyun Street?
Now you want to exchange the worst position with Xu Haizhou, what's the point?