Xiao Hua found He Yan's words laughable and ironic.
"Do you know why women have favored boys over girls for thousands of years? They are women themselves!"
He Yan had never thought about this question before, but it seems that women have always preferred sons and grandsons. Is it because opposites attract?
He thought he shouldn't offer any opinions, lest he upset Xiaohua again.
"Because the essence of valuing sons over daughters is that men are valuing sons over daughters. For thousands of years, women have needed to depend on men for their lives, in order to please men and to integrate into men's families."
The idea of giving birth to a son for a man to carry on his family line is actually a pledge of allegiance to him in order to join his family. In essence, it's about pleasing the man by bearing him a son, so that she can have a better life under his control and be looked up to by his family members.
This kind of indoctrination, passed down from generation to generation, seems to have ingrained a visceral memory in women. Gradually, women no longer understand why they favor sons over daughters; it's as if women are inherently expected to do so because giving birth to a son brings them benefits in the husband's family, while giving birth to a daughter only makes their situation worse. So, who is truly favoring sons over daughters?
He Yan looked at Xiao Hua with a surprised expression. He didn't understand why Xiao Hua had such unique insights that were beyond the reach of this era. He even suspected that Xiao Hua was still the same Xiao Hua, only her body hadn't changed, only her soul had been replaced.
"Now that you put it that way, the people who truly favor sons over daughters are indeed men, and women are merely men's henchmen."
He Yan thought Xiao Hua was right and he was completely convinced by what she said.
"Do you really think so, or are you just trying not to upset me?"
Xiaohua felt that no man would ever think from a woman's perspective.
“I really think so. I think you are right. I believe you. I have also thought about it. Since ancient times, most women have married into families where male families regard having sons as the hope for the continuation of the family line. Women who marry into such families will definitely want to give birth to sons in order to gain a foothold in the family. In essence, it is still men who favor sons over daughters. Most women who favor sons over daughters are just their henchmen.”
Xiaohua nodded: "That's exactly what I meant."
"Xiaohua, believe me, I would never have such thoughts. I have always believed that having children is not about passing on a surname, gender, or the hope of a family, but about passing on love and the ability to love and be loved."
Just like you and I love Kang'an very much, we want Kang'an to know what love is and teach her the ability to love others. When she grows up and has children, she will pass on the love she learned from her parents to her children.
In this way, love is passed down from generation to generation. I think this is the greatest meaning of having children, rather than having to have a male heir to carry on the family line.
"How big of a family would it take to need to pass down its legacy? Even Qin Shi Huang, the first emperor of a unified China, only lasted two generations before his dynasty collapsed. We're just nobodys; we can't even talk about family legacy."
He Yan's words made Xiao Hua look at him with new respect; he did seem to be different from other men.
"Would you like to have a son?"
No matter how much you say, it's useless; you have to look at what's truly in your heart.
He Yan thought for a moment and said, "I won't say whether I want it or not. To me, whether it's a son or a daughter, they are just my children. I won't show any favoritism or expectation towards either gender."
My only regret is that I couldn't be there for you through your pregnancy and childbirth. Perhaps selfishly, I wish I could have been there with you then, but I know you wouldn't want that, so your feelings are the most important.
Instead of giving a direct yes or no answer, she rambled on about a bunch of irrelevant things. Xiaohua thought maybe she was being too extreme in this regard!
Whether he wants it or not is none of her business; she will definitely divorce him.
Right now, let's focus on treating her father's illness first. After that, we can... then turn our backs on each other! Let him make up for the past three years of neglect he's caused her and her child!
"Alright, let's not talk about this anymore. Let's go back. Kang An will cry if he wakes up and doesn't see me."
Xiao Hua and He Yan started walking back.
On the way, He Yan, trying to make conversation, asked Xiao Hua, "Do you think there are things in this world that science can't explain?"
Xiao Hua paused for a moment. He Yan must be guessing her identity. It makes sense. The Ye Xiao Hua of the past and the Ye Xiao Hua of now are two completely different things. Even a fool would be suspicious. Only her parents and brothers can't see the problem.
"Believe it or not, there are too many. The end of science is theology. Didn't Einstein eventually start studying theology? I don't think we humans evolved from anything else. It's very likely that we were programmed by a more advanced species. Each of us is like a set of pre-written code..."
Xiao Hua paused here, thinking that He Yan also couldn't understand any code.
When He Yan saw that Xiao Hua had suddenly stopped talking, he asked, "Why did you stop talking? I was listening intently."
Xiaohua rolled her eyes at him: "So I was telling you a story from One Thousand and One Nights? And you were really engrossed in it."
"That's because what you said was novel and interesting, which is why I was so fascinated. Xiaohua, you have an unknown charm that makes people want to get closer to you and explore you."
He Yan's heartfelt thoughts.
"Unknown charm? You're just lustful at first sight. If I were still a fat man weighing 180 pounds, even if I were full of knowledge and martial arts, you still wouldn't see my charm. You men are nothing but shallow and superficial things!"
Well, his attempt to flatter backfired.
"Putting aside the aesthetics, 180 pounds is unhealthy and can easily lead to high blood pressure, high cholesterol, and high blood sugar, right? Haha..." He Yan laughed awkwardly.
When they got home, they heard Kang'an wailing loudly. Xiaohua quickly ran into the room and saw Kang'an with snotty noses, waving his hands and shouting, "I don't want Grandma to hold me, I want Mommy to hold me, where's my mommy...?"
Seeing her daughter crying like a flood had burst its banks, Xiaohua quickly went over and hugged her tightly: "Sweetie, what's wrong? Mommy just went out for a walk, why are you crying like this?"
He Yan quickly stepped forward to comfort him.
Kang An removed He Yan's hand from her head, then tightly hugged Xiao Hua's neck, sobbing, "Mom, I dreamt that you didn't want me anymore, that you wanted me to go with Dad, but I don't want Dad, I only want Mom forever, Mom, I'm scared, I'm so scared."
Xiao Hua quickly patted her back to comfort her, saying, "Silly child, those are just dreams, they can't be real. Wherever Mommy is, that's where you'll be. The only thing you'll do is grow up and drift further and further away from Mommy. Mommy can't bear to leave you on her own."
He Yan was even more embarrassed: the child dreamed that he followed his father away, and then... he was so scared that he cried. How could it not be embarrassing?
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