"This problem can be solved very easily."
When Li Baiwei's troubles came to light, Jian Shui'er said confidently, "Matters concerning love between men and women are very emotional. When you're not feeling it, no matter how outstanding a guy is, you won't feel the slightest bit moved if he pursues you. But when feelings come, you can't control them even if you want to, and you'll throw yourself at the other person regardless of everything."
"So, the answer to whether or not to fall in love in college is not to dwell on it. The key is to not suppress yourself, but to let nature take its course. Don't deliberately pursue it, and don't deliberately reject it either. Just wait for the feeling called love to arrive."
"Of course, this applies to the general public, not my values in love."
"Is that so?" Li Baiwei nodded blankly. Jian Shuier's words did not convince her.
Lin An basically came to the conclusion when Li Baiwei asked him about his worries, "Should I fall in love in college?"
Li Baiwei herself longs for love and believes that "love is necessary in college."
She came to the Love Research Institute to ask about her troubles, not to listen to their scientific views on love.
Instead, they need to convince themselves and admit that they want to fall in love in college.
However, Lin An has a different opinion: "Whether or not you should have a relationship in college depends on whether you want pure love, ordinary love, or even fake love."
"What do you mean?" Jian Shui'er leaned forward, more interested than Li Baiwei.
Lin An continued, "Pure love is giving your all, ordinary love is growth through trial and error, and false love is satisfying needs."
"Pure love generally occurs on campus, unaffected by material circumstances and social realities. It relies on the emotion of 'liking' to commit wholeheartedly, willing to give one's all to the other person. It is passionate, pure and beautiful, but it can also bring deep pain."
"Universal love is the love of the vast majority of people. There are no romantic comedy scenes where people pretend to be boyfriends or girlfriends, no tragic Shura scenes where childhood sweethearts compete with girls who fall from the sky, and they may not even meet someone for pure love. For them, love is a natural process that occurs when all the conditions of age, physiology, environment, and experience are met, just like an animal in estrus: when the time comes, it must be estrus. Therefore, for ordinary people, college is the time to fall in love, and once you enter college, you have to fall in love. Of course, for the vast majority of ordinary people, love is generally not something they can talk about even if they want to."
"Fake love, on the other hand, is about satisfying needs: satisfying each other's physical, mental, and social needs. It's not about wanting to be in love, but about needing to be in love. Love is a fast-moving consumer good. Therefore, men and women who engage in fake love can't sustain a relationship for long, and it's bound to break up."
"Student Li, if you want to have a relationship in college, whether you want pure love, ordinary love, or fake love, all three are love, there is no distinction between high and low. Also, regardless of whether you are a boy or a girl, don't have too high expectations of love. Reality is not a virtual world. If you have too high expectations of love, you will only be deeply disappointed in the end."
Li Baiwei thought carefully for a while before answering: "If I want to have a relationship in college, I want a pure love."
"That is pure love! I'm sorry, I think it's better for you not to have a relationship in college, because the ratio of men and women who can have pure love in college is only 1%. Among 100 couples, there is only 1 couple in pure love. So, people who don't have too high expectations of love are suitable for dating." Lin An said.
"I don't agree with that," Jian Shui'er retorted loudly, "We only have one life, and it's very short. The meaning of life lies in devoting ourselves wholeheartedly to every stage of our lives. Love is one of the most beautiful journeys in life, and we can't be so perfunctory. Loving someone sincerely and purely is a very wonderful feeling. If you miss out on pure love and fall in love just for the sake of falling in love, then you might as well be single and love yourself."
"That's basically the kind of bad talk only virgins would say. So for most people, the best approach is to quickly find someone to date and become disillusioned with relationships early on. That way, they won't dwell on trivial matters like whether or not they should have a relationship in college."
"Hey, I think you're offending me, and I've already told you that if you're not willing to settle for a relationship, you might as well be single and love yourself!"
"I think so too, but if you miss it, you miss it. You can't have pure love in college anymore."
"What do you mean?" Jian Shui'er didn't understand it very well.
Lin An poured the three of them some brewed black tea and sat down on the sofa, saying, "Pure love only sprouts in junior high and high school. It's a relationship without any lust or material conditions. It's pure affection, and even just holding hands would make you blush shyly. This is the psychological state that best aligns with pure love. But here in our country, the attitude towards premature love is completely hostile. Everything is centered around academic performance, which stifles romance in junior high and high school. By the time you enter college, your mental and physical state has matured, and it's too late to pursue pure love. It's bound to be mixed with lust and material conditions."
“No, no, no!”
Jian Shui'er shook her head quickly. "On the contrary, I think the love between junior high and high school students is not pure love. It is a puppet behavior under the secretion of adolescent hormones. It is not a love that they control themselves. It is a behavior dominated by adolescent hormones. That's why there is the saying of forbidden fruit. When they go to college, their minds and reason are mature enough. The love they have in this way is pure love under their own control. Moreover, the love in junior high and high school will not be strangled. It is put on pause and officially started in college. College is the most suitable stage for pure love. College students can achieve pure love through their own efforts."
"Is this the reason why you didn't fall in love before college?" Lin An asked unconsciously after hearing Jian Shuier's words.
"That's right, what's the problem?" Jian Shui'er was very calm.
"It's nothing. This is very consistent with your personality. You are the kind of person who doesn't believe in fate and will create your own happiness with your own hands. But you are an exception. You are not an example and cannot be used as a standard for the general public. Most ordinary people are not as straightforward as you."
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