Zhou Mo had tears in her eyes, "Auntie, you are so kind."
Liang Xinyun smiled, held the back of Zhou Mo's hand, and comforted him, "I have also been through your age, and I understand what you are thinking. We are all women, and we all know how hard and entangled it is. There is a saying that goes, why should women make things difficult for women. I hope you and Han Chen can live well, and that your little life can be happy every day. Don't be like me when I was young, busy responding to the pressure from the Han family, busy with work, and not leaving Han Chen behind."
Zhou Mo fell into deep thought.
Zhou Mo couldn't even imagine how much pressure Liang Xinyun was under at that time.
All the work is piled on one woman, and there is no one to rely on. I really don’t know how she can get through this day.
"Actually, I've regretted it before," Liang Xinyun said, "I regretted going my own way and giving birth to Han Chen. Call me cold-hearted or unworthy of being a mother, it doesn't matter. My heart tells me that I regret it. If I hadn't had Han Chen at the time, perhaps I would have achieved higher results at work, and I wouldn't have been unable to devote more energy to work because of taking care of the child, which made it impossible for me to stay in the hospital in the imperial capital. Think about it from another perspective. If it weren't for Han Chen, perhaps there would be one less excuse for the Han family to attack me. Han Chen's stumbles were my fault, and any small mistakes he made were also my fault. Tell me, besides making my life more difficult, how much good has giving birth to this child brought me?"
Zhou Mo thought about it and tried to guess, "Retirement?"
Liang Xinyun chuckled. "Come on, in today's society, as long as you're still in your grave, don't even think about not supporting your children. Look at Han Chen. You say his career is okay, right? But think about it, who paid for this house? Wasn't it all me? I might as well live in a nursing home than rely on him to support me in my old age. I'll be thankful if he doesn't end up with me in his grave on the day I die."
Zhou Mo was speechless for a moment.
Liang Xinyun smiled and asked, "Have you ever thought about what is the most important thing in this world?"
Zhou Mo thought for a moment: "Family, kinship?"
Liang Xinyun shook her head. "Yourself. People live for themselves, and you should put your own feelings and thoughts first. As for the family and kinship you mentioned, it's a chain reaction. If you live well, those around you who care about you will naturally feel at ease. Of course, those who dislike you and obstruct you won't think so. They always want to deprive you of something to satisfy their own narrow-minded pleasures. Whether it's marriage, love, or family, a woman must be prepared to enter and have the courage to leave at any time."
"Take me for example..." Liang Xinyun turned and looked at Zhou Mo tenderly: "I have never been in love in my life, let alone liked or loved anyone, but I don't feel pathetic, nor do I feel that my life is imperfect. Because I have done everything I want to do and can do."
Zhou Mo was surprised and asked, "You've really never liked anyone?"
"Well," Liang Xinyun said, "love isn't necessary, and... I got married at 23, and gave birth to Han Chen when I was 25. Before that, I was busy with my studies and didn't have time to think about relationships. Although I was forced into marriage under family pressure, I can't just cheat just because I don't love someone. Since love has nothing to do with me, I might as well keep to myself. It's fine to be alone."
Zhou Mo didn't know whether to envy Liang Xinyu or sympathize with her.
If I think about it carefully, I still admire her more.
Over the years, whether her husband is there or not, she has always been self-disciplined and has not done anything inappropriate, giving him enough respect.
Compared to bearing the guilt of liking others, Liang Xinyun seems to be more willing to invest her energy in herself.
Even after retirement, she did not revolve around Han Chen, but preferred to do her own thing.
On weekdays, he always asks Liu Xiangru to go out for a walk, or go to the sanatorium to visit old friends there and sing opera together.
Others may think that Liang Xinyun is pitiful and pathetic, and she has never had love in her life.
But Zhou Mo didn't think so, and Liang Xinyun probably didn't think so either.
She has no love, but she has children and a husband. She doesn't have to serve her husband and family, and she doesn't have to worry about food and clothing. She used to be a doctor and enjoyed social status. Even when she is old, she still has her own hobbies.
This is clearly a woman's ideal life.
Love is not a necessity. Whether you have it or not is God's arrangement.
If you have to make a choice, living like Liang Xinyun may be a free and easy life.
"Auntie, now that you mention it, I don't think I'm feeling that stressed anymore," Zhou Mo said sheepishly. "Actually... I've told Han Chen that I don't really want kids right now. I'm already overwhelmed with my studies, and I still have to work after graduation... I'm really scared. I know I'm not going to be a great woman, a top female scientist, but I've studied and researched my profession for so many years, and I've invested over a decade of energy and money. I can't just think about not earning it back after graduation, or giving up all those years of hard work just because of a child and family."
"But..." Zhou Mo hesitated again. "A woman's best childbearing age is only a few years, which overlaps with her key career period. Often, we have to choose one or the other. I originally wanted to give myself some more time to think about it, but now... God won't give me the chance. Maybe if I want to have children in the future, I can only consider assisted reproductive technology."
"No, absolutely not," Liang Xinyun interrupted. "Take my advice. Even if you can't have children, don't force yourself to do IVF."
Zhou Mo looked at her puzzledly, "Why?"
"Because..." Liang Xinyun thought for a moment and spoke with difficulty, "It's too painful, really. That kind of pain may be more uncomfortable than your confinement period. Don't just focus on the success rate of IVF and how many people it has helped solve the problem of having children. Yes, it brings great social and family benefits, but who really cares about the physical cost women pay during the IVF process? Let's not talk about the money for now, hundreds of thousands of dollars are all too common. Who has experienced the actual IVF process? You have to take frequent ovulation stimulation, prick your belly with needles, and go to the hospital for surgery to implant the embryo into the uterus. The probability of success on one try is very low, and it often takes many times. Successful implantation is not considered a success, and you may also experience multiple miscarriages during this period. IVF often results in multiple births, and the risk index of twin pregnancies increases. If there are more than two pregnancies, fetal reduction should be considered, otherwise the mother may not be able to get off the operating table."
"Insiders often have the clearest perspective on a matter and always consider the risks first. They tend to be pessimistic overall, but when explaining things to others, neither those in the industry nor those outside of it can deny the advanced nature of their expertise and technology. If someone asked me if I wanted to do IVF, I'd definitely say it depends on my own willingness and conditions. If I can do it, I'll do it."
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