Han Chen: "With me here, you don't have to worry about money."
Zhou Mo: "It's different. You know my personality. I can't be a housewife like a dodder. As a woman of the new era, I want to realize my own value in work and society. Otherwise, wouldn't all my years of studying be in vain?"
Han Chen: "I know. I just want you to stop putting too much pressure on yourself. We... aren't that short of money, actually."
Zhou Mo: "This is also something I'm thankful for. My life isn't yet at the point where I'm short of money, but... that's only for now. There's still a long way to go in the future, and who can predict what will happen? It's always a good idea to plan ahead and save more money."
Han Chen: "Yeah. I will also work hard and make money."
Zhou Mo turned over and faced him.
She smiled with satisfaction, "I admire my mentor the most. Her current life should be the ideal life for many people. She lives completely for herself."
Han Chen: "How do you mean?"
Zhou Mo: "She's highly educated, a university professor, capable, able to make her own money, and has a thriving career. Outsiders might feel pity for her, and even lament that she's divorced and still single. But I think the truly pitiful ones are those who pity her. My mentor has both the education and the job. She's been through marriage, divorce, and singlehood. A woman's happiness isn't defined by a happy marriage; most marriages are just getting by, dealing with the daily necessities of life. Like my mentor, she can give herself whatever she wants, and she doesn't have to worry about relationships with her husband or mother-in-law. She has a daughter, so she's not alone. Isn't that a kind of happiness for her?"
Han Chen smiled. "Yes. Just be happy. Life doesn't have so many standard answers. Those who pity others are either harbouring jealousy, thinking that if they're not doing well, then others must be doing poorly too. Or, it's the marriage siege effect, where married people think it's better not to be married, and vice versa. People always like to brag about things they haven't experienced or are unfamiliar with, either extremely disparaging or blindly worshipping them."
Zhou Mo raised his eyes to look at him, his eyes full of resentment and suspicion, "Why do I feel like you are saying that I am brainless?"
"I wouldn't dare. I'll tell you who I am talking to, but I won't tell you."
"Just say it. I'm not afraid of what people say. If there's controversy, it means I've put some thought into it. I'd rather die with clarity than live in confusion," Zhou Mo said. "I often think that the marriage system is just a product of social development, or even a product of agricultural society, left over from industrial society. Perhaps in the early stages of industrial society, the marriage system, as the smallest economic unit, was conducive to social stability and economic development. But if industrial society is sufficiently developed, the existing marriage system will no longer be able to keep up with social development and may even restrict individual development. The so-called marriage system will collapse."
Han Chen was surprised: "I haven't thought about this. Your point of view is worth pondering."
"Don't blame me for making such outrageous claims. I've really thought about this. I'm even wondering why women place such importance on marriage. Most people believe that a happy marriage is the key to a happy life. Men, on the other hand, believe that a successful career is the key to a fulfilling life, and they don't actually have such high expectations for marriage. This is a complex sociological issue, but the best explanation I've heard is from a genetic perspective. 'Selfish' genes lead men and women to make different choices."
"To pass on their genes, men cast a wide net. The wider their net, the more likely their genes will be passed on. It's like putting all your eggs in one basket. Women are similar. For their offspring to grow up safely, they need a stable family environment to support them in raising them, so they place greater importance on a stable marriage."
Han Chen: "Ultimately, it's animal instinct. Some even say that all human social behavior is driven by sex, which is similar to your theory of the 'selfish gene'."
Zhou Mo looked at him with a smile, "I didn't expect you to do this kind of sociological thinking."
Han Chen: "As you learn more, you inevitably expand upon it, generalize and summarize, and move towards a higher philosophical level. This is what learning is all about."
Zhou Mo said excitedly, "Yes! I also think that reading new research every day, seeing the outrageous theories proposed by various people, and watching their search for theoretical basis and thinking process is really interesting and refreshing. It's much more interesting than playing games or watching videos."
Han Chen smiled and looked at her deeply, "I like you because you are always so wise."
It is not superficial cleverness, but incisive wisdom.
Cleverness and wisdom are not the same thing.
Everyone has intelligence, but not wisdom.
Zhou Mo: "Do you know there's a type of love orientation called sapiosexuality? It's based on IQ as a criterion for love. I feel like you're a bit like that."
Han Chen was stunned for a moment, and said in a daze: "Really?"
Zhou Mo: "I remember there's a classic quote about sapiosexuality. You can search it up and see if it resonates with you."
Out of curiosity, Han Chen reached out for the phone and searched according to Zhou Mo's instructions.
That passage means: I don't care about highs; I want a sharp, insightful, uninhibited mind. I want someone with whom I can discuss philosophy as a joke. I want someone whose wit and wicked sense of humor sometimes satisfy me. I want someone I can touch. I want someone I can hug at any time. I've decided that all of this means I'm sapiosexual. I want to have a relationship with people's minds.
Han Chen finished reading it with a smile. He said, "I do resonate with it, but...what man doesn't want an intelligent wife? Besides, the term sapiosexuality is still controversial. From a psychological and sociological perspective, it simply focuses more on a partner's intelligence than on appearance or economic status, and it can't be considered a sexual orientation."
Zhou Mo: "What about you? Why did you fall in love with me at first sight? Is it just because I'm pretty and white?"
Han Chen thought back to the past and said seriously, "You...are so white that people can't take their eyes off you. You think you're beautiful."
Zhou Mo smiled and said, "No matter how pretty I am, I'm not a beauty that can topple a country, am I? At most, I look a little more pleasing to the eye because I'm white."
Han Chen pondered for a moment, "Maybe... I really am sapiosexual."
The first time he saw Zhou Mo was when he was about to go downstairs after moving.
I happened to meet Zhou Mo talking to someone at the corner of the stairs.
They were discussing a point of view of Marx: the process from commodity to money is a "thrilling leap". If this leap fails, it is not the commodity that is broken, but the commodity owner.
The other party didn't understand, and Zhou Mo was explaining the meaning of this sentence to him.
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