Everyone finished eating. I don’t know what the old lady said to Li Qingtong, but not long after, he went out and finished all the food.
Qiu Yuling was curious, but she couldn't find a chance to ask because the girls' night talk time had begun again.
She protested against her two cousins' issues, but her protest was ineffective. "You are taller than me, and you still say you are small!"
"But I'm young." Qiu Yuling said helplessly.
"I didn't notice. Anyway, you know everything. There's no need to be so strict about age." As soon as Li Yingtao finished speaking, Li Yingfen nodded heavily. That's right.
"Let's start with you. When you look for a partner in the future, what kind of person do you want to look for?" The two cousins pointed their spearheads at Qiu Yuling and insisted on starting with her.
Let’s not talk about the fact that Qiu Yuling is not that gossipy. Even if she is, she only likes to gossip about others and doesn’t like to contribute herself.
"My two dear cousins, I really haven't thought about it. You two can speak first and let me listen for reference." Qiu Yuling has always believed in talking less and doing more. After all, if things are done, it won't be a loss if something unpleasant happens in the future. But if you just talk, you will leave room for gossip. Even if you haven't done anything, others can still use it to attack you.
She didn't want to speak nonsense and have it become a boomerang shooting at her in the future.
"Okay, then let's do it from the biggest to the smallest." It doesn't matter which end Li Yingtao counts from, it's right in the middle. The thing is to speed up the opening.
Li Yingfen wasn't intimidated either. This time, she had clearly planned things more carefully than before. She wanted a man as tall as her second cousin (Qiu Dahe), as smart as her third cousin (Qiu Dashu), and as for temperament, she wanted a man as good-tempered as her eldest cousin.
Li Yingtao added that he had to be as strong and powerful as his cousins from his eldest aunt's family.
Qiu Yuling: ...his indecisive eldest brother? His mean-spirited second brother? And his third brother, who only has IQ but no EQ?
Has this become the standard for choosing a partner?
She was sure that these two little girls must have heard her two uncles and aunts praising their eldest aunt's child for no reason and took those watered-down words seriously!
"It's Yingtao's turn. Hurry up and don't imitate me." Li Yingfen planned to let the two of them speak first while she thought about whether there was anything else to add.
"Why can't it be the same? I'm thinking the same thing. If he's a worker, some of the conditions can be relaxed. We'll see then."
Then, the two of them waited for Qiu Yuling to speak.
Unable to dodge the question, Qiu Yuling cleared her throat and continued the conversation, "You can't be as dull as my eldest brother, nor as smart as my second brother. As for my third brother, I hope he doesn't become stupid from studying like him."
"Huh?" they both asked in unison. Were the people my cousin was talking about the same group as them? How could there be any mistakes?
Seeing her cousin also falling into self-doubt, Li Yingfen advised, "Don't compare yourself to her. You know, it smells better when it's far away."
What she didn't say was that no one is perfect, and it's unlikely that these things will be achieved. Isn't this what the book says about pros and cons?
Qiu Yuling nodded, "Indeed, no one is perfect, no gold is pure, everyone has their own shortcomings, in fact, it is better to think about the shortcomings than the strengths.
When looking for a partner, you should look for the bottom line of a person's character. What is the bottom line? Look at how he handles things when he is most angry, and his attitude towards others. To a large extent, this will determine the disasters and sufferings you will avoid when you have conflicts!
"Ah? Aren't we supposed to look at strengths?" The cousin's words broke their long-held perception that people always look for the biggest shining point in a person, often using one advantage to cover up the shortcomings.
Qiu Yuling gave them a new idea: look at the bottom line of a person's character!
Since everything had already been said, Qiu Yuling might as well explain it to them both.
"For example, when he's drunk, does he act like a drunk? Does he curse or kick, hit, or smash things? Also, when things are most difficult, does he prioritize himself and his parents, or does he prioritize you and your family?
Also, when dealing with disputes, is he timid outside but aggressive inside, or does he not take his anger out on those close to him…” Qiu Yuling asked them, giving them a series of examples.
Tell them that men who take advantage of the opportunity to get drunk and attack the weak will most likely blame their wives for all their unhappiness after marriage and beat their wives and children.
Moreover, this is a family tradition, like father, like son!
Those who are starving themselves, yet insist on giving all their salary and allowances to their parents to support the whole family, are not judged by their filial piety, but by their foolish filial piety. Your small family will probably not be valued too much...
Seeing that her two cousins were no longer talking, she pulled the quilt over her head and went to sleep. If it was any later, when the two cousins came to their senses, they would have to chat until the roosters crowed.
Qiu Yuling thought it was just normal, but she didn't know that this incident would have a profound impact on her two cousins' future choices of spouses.
They no longer listen to matchmakers or parents who only pick out one bright spot, but instead find out what the person's biggest flaw is, and then think about whether they can tolerate this flaw.
By the time the two sisters reacted and wanted to continue the discussion, the little cousin had already started breathing evenly. After observing her, they found that she was not pretending to be asleep, so they simply did not wake her up. However, the two sisters were in high spirits and continued chattering for half the night.
When Qiu Yuling woke up the next day, the two of them were sleeping soundly, as if they had worked all night, and even the noise of the cat and mouse could not wake them up.
Qiu Yuling just said goodbye to her grandmother, uncle and others, then she and her third brother harnessed the donkey cart back to Qiu Village.
Qiu Dashu slept with his fourth uncle last night. It almost scared him to death.
His fourth uncle stole some liquor from somewhere and tried to trick him into drinking with him. He refused, so his fourth uncle drank alone, one glass after another. After they were all gone, he took advantage of the alcohol to ask him why Xifen didn't wait for him.
I am sure that my fourth uncle is not drunk. If he is really drunk, he will just be sleeping soundly and there will be no energy to make such a fuss.
Qiu Yuling agreed with this. Those who acted crazy when drunk were usually half drunk. Those who were completely drunk were usually unconscious. She had never seen anything else, so it was hard to say.
But her fourth uncle's behavior yesterday showed that he knew he had been heartbroken. He felt sorry for him for a second, but then forgot about it. Grandma had never planned to let him get married so early, and she was planning to send him to learn a skill.
On the way back, there were only the brother and sister, and no one else interrupted them, so they just happened to chat about each other's studies.
Li Qingtong obeyed the adjustment at that time and was assigned to the hydropower class, which he did not like very much. He preferred the metallurgical engineering or power engineering class, but unfortunately it was a coincidence.
Qiu Yuling heard the melancholy in his tone, but she and her third brother felt exactly the opposite.
How great it is to be in the hydropower class. You have to know that China's power grid is so powerful that it controls more than 50 countries in the world. This is the only industry that has been booming with the reform and opening up and the rapid economic development.
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