Chapter 795: The inferiority of the strong, the confidence of the weak
The higher he climbed in his career, the more he felt that there were fewer and fewer close friends around him.
For example, Aimar, I haven't been in touch with him for a long time.
Not only with Su Dong, but also with Messi.
It was a very strange and special feeling. In the words of David Silva, Aimar felt a little ashamed.
Because when they first met, his status in European football was higher than Su Dong's, and Messi was far inferior to him. He was just a little fan who might need his help at any time.
But gradually, Aimar discovered that not only Su Dong surpassed him, but even Messi surpassed him. This made him very uncomfortable and he didn't know how to continue getting along with them.
There are many such cases, not only happening to Su Dong and Messi, but also to everyone.
Whether actively or passively, Su Dong's friends are gradually decreasing, especially those teammates who once fought side by side with him. Some have retired, some have even become head coaches, and the vast majority of them are no longer in contact.
So every time when Su Dong meets his former teammates, he feels a special sense of intimacy.
But he wouldn't try to get close to them. He would just take the initiative to walk over and say 'long time no see'. After the game, he would walk over and say a few words to them, like goodbye.
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"You seem more confident than you were back then!" Mohamed Sissoko praised sincerely.
"Really?" Su Dong asked with a smile, but quickly shook his head, "Actually, I'm still the same as I was back then, a little self-abased."
"How is it possible?" Mohamed Sissoko was very surprised.
Su Dong inferiority complex?
If I tell this to others, who would believe it? A person with low self-esteem, who was able to take on three people just now and pass the ball? If I say that Su Dong had some low self-esteem when he was in Valencia, Sissoko would still believe it. Is it possible now? "Maybe we have different definitions of low self-esteem." Su Dong smiled.
Perhaps because they are old friends, or perhaps because Sissoko has seen everything that happened when Sudong first became famous in Valencia, so he is willing to say something.
"Perhaps you think that low self-esteem means feeling ashamed of yourself, having no confidence in doing anything, feeling inferior to others, and being timid and submissive, which makes it easy for others to look down on you."
Sissoko showed a black question mark face, isn't it? "I think that always thinking that you are not doing well enough is actually a kind of inferiority complex."
Sissoko fell silent for a moment. He had never really thought about what Su Dong said.
Feeling that he has not done well enough, is this considered a kind of inferiority complex? There are some things that Su Dong has never told others, and some feelings that he can never share with others, even with his closest parents, fiancée and friends. These will be buried deep in his heart forever.
He really felt that he was inferior because he always felt that he was not doing well enough. Even though everyone around him kept telling him that he had done well enough and was outstanding enough, he still tried hard to do better.
Is this just self-improvement? Born in a football-poor country, coupled with the experience in Portugal, it is unrealistic to say that it had no impact on Su Dong's psychology.
Having the Football King Road System has indeed improved Su Dong's psychology, but it is completely unable to erase the psychological shadow deep in his heart.
It's like a person who has been poor for many years, and suddenly wins the lottery and has a huge sum of money. What will he do? Can he suddenly become confident? Even if he deliberately acts very confident, in fact, his mentality is still the poor man before. Even after many, many years, he has become successful, but in his bones, there is still the shadow of poverty in his bones.
This is a lifelong thing! Is this a bad thing? Su Dong thinks not!
Inferiority complex made him work harder and more diligently, and kept him motivated to become stronger all the time.
It is a kind of psychology that everyone has, even some people who seem extremely confident.
Perhaps behind self-confidence lies inferiority.
If you want to understand inferiority complex, you need to understand what self-confidence is?
In Su Dong's understanding, there are two types of self-confidence: strong and weak.
The so-called self-confidence of the strong is a kind of mentality of the strong. When you stand at a higher position to look at something, look at your opponent, you are very sure that you can do it, can succeed, and can defeat him, then in the process of doing it, you will reveal a natural self-confidence of the strong.
It's like a strong adult fighting with a weak child. There's no reason not to be confident, right? The so-called confidence of the weak is actually the future is full of uncertainty.
Your opponent is stronger than you and things are very difficult. You don’t know whether you can succeed or not. You don’t even know what the consequences will be. Everything is unknown.
In fact, people in this situation often feel inferior.
Just like Su Dong, when he faced three defensive players alone, he was actually not sure if he could do it, but he was the captain of the team, he had the responsibility, obligation and mission to help the team further turn the situation around.
It is this sense of responsibility and mission that allows him to try his best even when he is feeling inferior and at a disadvantage.
In Sissoko's view, the process of trying one's best is confidence!
Su Dong has talked to many big names, such as Beckenbauer, Cruyff, Platini, Maradona, Zidane, Ronaldo...
He found that he couldn't tell the difference between inferiority and self-confidence in these people.
Many times, when they think back on many legendary moments, they realize that they were not confident enough at the time, but it was their sense of responsibility and mission that prompted them to do it and do their best, and this is seen as a kind of confidence by others.
"Seek truth from facts, know yourself, stick to yourself, do your best, and face it calmly!"
"This is my attitude. Whether it's self-abasement or self-confidence, it doesn't matter!"
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When Su Dong expressed his feelings with a smile, Mohamed Sissoko was really shocked.
In all these years since he came to Europe, no one had ever said these words to him, nor had anyone ever taught him these principles.
Benítez is like a cold machine, the Italian coach is not much better, and Sissoko is gradually lost.
But Su Dong's words made him sober up and he began to feel that blindly denying himself and demanding himself to please others would only make him more "inferior" and even fall into a vicious cycle of "inferiority".
He has his strengths and weaknesses, he is not Vieira or anyone else, he has a name.
His name is Mohamed Sissoko! "Thank you, Su!" Sissoko stretched out his hands and shook Su Dong's hands very hard.
Su Dong was a little surprised. He was just speaking from his heart and sharing his own thoughts and experiences. These were his personal thoughts. He didn't know why Sissoko's reaction was so big.
But it looks like this should be a good thing.
Oh no, it may not be a good thing for Manchester City.
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As expected, Manchester City reversed Juventus 3-1 and won another victory in the new season.
Six consecutive league wins and two consecutive wins in the Europa League. If Manchester City had not been eliminated from the League Cup, their form this season would have been unstoppable, and Su Dong's performance once again won unanimous recognition.
Especially when he was substituted off the field, all the fans stood up and applauded him. This scene attracted the attention of all media and fans around the world. It was considered to be a signal that Su Dong had completely conquered Manchester City fans.
But against Juventus, it was Sanchez who was named the best player of the match.
When facing Juventus, the Chilean winger almost turned Juventus' right side into a sieve. De Cegli was completely crippled and became the weakest link in Juventus' defense, allowing Manchester City's offense to do whatever they wanted.
However, it’s not all good news.
While Manchester City reversed Juventus 3-1, in another group match, Poland's Poznan Lech defeated Salzburg Red Bull 2-0 at home, also winning two consecutive games.
It's really shocking.
After a 3-3 draw with Juventus away in the first round of the group stage, Poznan Lech defeated Salzburg Red Bull 2-0 in the second round, which made people more convinced that Poznan Lech is becoming Manchester City's number one opponent in the group stage.
After two rounds of matches, Manchester City won two games in a row and got six points. Poznan Lech had one win and one draw, got four points and ranked second in the group. Juventus ranked third with one draw and one loss. Salzburg Red Bull lost both games and got no points.
In other words, judging from the current situation, Lech Poznan is most likely to threaten Manchester City's top spot in the group.
According to the schedule, in the next two rounds of group matches, Manchester City will face Poznan Lech at home and away, first at home and then away, and will snipe Poznan Lech, and these two games will be the key battles for the top spot in the group.
For Juventus, if they want to make a comeback in the group stage, they must beat Salzburg Red Bull in the next two games. At the same time, it would be best to pray that Manchester City and Poznan Lech will both suffer losses, and it would be best if both rounds are draws, and Juventus wins both rounds, then they will be able to make a comeback.
The reason for this passive situation of being controlled by others is also related to the fact that Juventus did not play well in the first two rounds.
Juventus failed to beat Lech Poznan at home and suffered a reversal at the hands of Manchester City away from home. The only thing that Juventus lacked was the three points at home.
If we had been able to beat Lech Poznan at home, we wouldn't be in such a passive situation now.
But there are no ifs in this world.
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This weekend, in the seventh round of the Premier League, Manchester City will face Newcastle at home.
Due to continuous fighting, Su Dong was forced to rest in this game and sat on the bench.
Guardiola also rotated the lineup.
As a result, Newcastle's French winger Ben Arfa performed exceptionally well in the first half, assisting his teammates to score twice and helping Newcastle take a two-goal lead.
Afterwards, Newcastle continued to withstand Manchester City's passing and control pressure, patiently looking for opportunities to counterattack.
Manchester City didn't get any chances until the second half.
Su Dong came on as a substitute in the 70th minute, and in the 83rd minute, after retreating to receive a pass, he planned an attack, and Adam Johnson scored a goal to help Manchester City equalize.
In the 89th minute, David Silva, who also came on as a substitute, made a diagonal pass, and Su Dong pushed the ball into the goal from ten meters on the left side of the penalty area, equalizing the score for Manchester City.
But in the end, Manchester City failed to score again.
2-2, Manchester City was tied by Newcastle at home.
(End of this chapter)
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