Chapter 341 Family Trivia
Since her uncles and husband were not around, Lu Songli consciously took on the responsibility of being a parent.
Lu Songli greeted her fourth sister-in-law Su before starting to deal with the matter.
The cause of the incident was very simple. Third uncle Qin Zhao asked someone to send back a few toys, and her mother-in-law casually distributed them to her three daughters-in-law and asked them to give them to their children.
Her fourth sister-in-law took two toys. After the children came home from school, she gave the bigger one to Qin Dan and the smaller one to Qin Bin.
When dividing, Qin Bin wanted the bigger one, but his fourth sister-in-law refused on the grounds that he was the older brother and should give way to the younger brother.
Later, the children gathered together to play, and soon the two brothers started fighting.
Her fourth sister-in-law was very angry. After pulling the two apart, she scolded the older Qin Bin, saying that he was ignorant or something.
Qin Bin couldn't help but retort, saying that she was biased, which made her so angry that she started crying.
At this time, Qin Jia ran over and whispered to her, "Sixth cousin, please don't scold fourth cousin. In fact, outside, fourth cousin is very protective of seventh cousin. It's just that every time seventh cousin gets hurt, fourth aunt always scolds fourth cousin, saying that he didn't protect seventh cousin well."
"Okay, Aunt Six understands. Go back to your room."
Lu Songli thought about it and went to knock on Qin Bin's door first.
Now the Qin family occupies a total of three rows of bungalows, and the children also have their own rooms.
A childish yet alert voice came from inside, "Who?"
Lu Songli found it funny. This child was quite alert. "Your Sixth Aunt."
There was a silence in the room.
She was not in a hurry either.
After a while, there was a rustling sound in the room, and soon the door was slowly opened, and a little head poked out.
Qin Bin was relieved to see that his Sixth Aunt was the only one outside.
"Sixth Aunt, please come in."
Lu Songli noticed that his eyes were red.
After Qin Bin returned to the house, he sat on a chair and read a book.
After Lu Songli picked a seat and sat down, she waved at him, "Come, talk to Sixth Aunt."
"Sixth Aunt, I haven't finished memorizing the book that the teacher asked me to memorize."
"Okay, I'm not here to scold you. There's no need to be so defensive. By the way, has Sixth Aunt ever scolded you?"
Qin Bin thought about it and shook his head. Sixth Aunt really had never scolded anyone.
So Qin Bin walked over reluctantly.
"Did you have a fight with your brother today?"
"Yeah." Qin Bin replied softly, with an expression of obvious resistance on his face.
Lu Songli asked him, "Did you win? Or did you lose? Are you happy after the fight?"
Qin Bin lowered his head. In fact, he felt depressed after the fight.
"I think what you did was stupid."
Qin Bin was stunned. Sixth Aunt said he was stupid, didn’t she mean he was wrong?
"You are older than Qin Dan. If you win, it's an unfair victory. If you lose, are you embarrassed?"
Lu Songli didn't judge him from the perspective of right or wrong, but considered the problem from his perspective. Qin Bin's defenses dropped immediately, and he thought about her words seriously. It seemed that this was really the case?
"My younger brother is so annoying. He knows that I like the moving wooden horse, but he keeps hitting it and doesn't cherish it at all." He said a few words to him, and later, in order to make him angry, his younger brother actually threw the wooden horse to the ground. He couldn't stand it and hit his younger brother.
"What's your purpose in fighting?"
Qin Bin hesitated.
Lu Songli understood and felt that his mother was biased and treated his younger brother better than him.
"Did you get what you wanted after this fight?"
Qin Bin thought to himself, no.
"After the beating, you said something that made your mother cry. Wouldn't you feel sad knowing that your mother is sad?"
Qin Bin: He can.
"So, all these angry words we say, besides hurting others and ourselves, don't achieve our goal, right?"
Qin Bin nodded, then he hesitated for a moment and asked humbly, "Then Sixth Aunt, what should I do?"
"Your current attitude and behavior are very good. As children, it's normal for you to crave the attention, affirmation, and love of your parents and elders."
"Between relatives, if we have any requests, we can say them directly, or use some methods to achieve our goals in a tactful way. If you have a way, use your method. If you don't have a way, just play it straight as a weakling." As the saying goes, sincerity is always a killer move, and the crying child gets the milk.
"Sixth Aunt, what does it mean to hit a straight ball?"
"Just express your feelings directly. For example, in today's situation, you could tell your mother that you really like the moving wooden horse and ask her to give it to you if possible. Or you could discuss with your brother what you could give him in exchange, instead of keeping your feelings to yourself."
"Also, Sixth Aunt also knows about you taking your brother out to play and him getting hurt, and your mother scolding you. I'll tell your mother later. Sixth Aunt knows that your brother is injured, and you've done your best. Sixth Aunt also knows that taking care of your brother isn't your obligation. You're willing to take care of him, and that's your responsibility as a big brother, and you've done a great job."
Qin Bin nodded while crying, indicating that he understood.
Qin Bin cried for a long time, crying out all the grievances and sadness in his heart.
Lu Songli stood quietly by the side, occasionally handing him a handkerchief.
Lu Songli did not immediately blame the child, saying that he was wrong in this or that, and that he made his mother sad. Everything has its cause and effect, and it may be that the adult's behavior accidentally hurt the child.
They are all human beings for the first time, and they are all flesh and blood. They will feel pain when they are hurt. As parents, we really should not act superior to others and put ourselves completely above our children.
When Qin Bin stopped crying, he felt very embarrassed.
Lu Songli knew that his side was resolved, so she made a request to him, "Promise Aunt Six that when you are angry, you will try to say less bad words. Aunt Six is not afraid that your words will hurt others, but that you will regret it when you calm down."
They've all been children themselves, and children's hormones aren't always balanced as they grow, so their ability to control their emotions fluctuates. But Lu Songli still hopes he can try his best to control it.
"Okay." Qin Bin agreed.
Lu Songli knew that this child was a man of his word and would do his best to fulfill his promise once he made one. "So, let's just leave it at that?"
"Well, Aunt Six, are you tired? Go back and rest."
"Then Aunt Six will leave. Don't forget to memorize your lessons."
Qin Bin: ...That’s just his excuse.
After leaving Qin Bin, Lu Songli went to find her fourth sister-in-law and told her that Qin Bin was fine.
"Sixth sister-in-law, thank you. I'm really sorry to bother you." Su Jing felt embarrassed.
She and her second sister-in-law and her sisters-in-law all knew that her sixth brother's wife worked in the prefectural governor's office, a secret kept secret in the Qin family. At the same time, she was also very busy, and her mother-in-law and the others tried not to bother her with the trivial matters at home.
"Fourth sister-in-law, we are a family, there is no need to be so formal." Lu Songli found that Qin Dan was already asleep on her fourth sister-in-law's couch.
"Fourth sister-in-law, to be honest, when children fight, we, as the elders, are most responsible."
Su Jing smiled bitterly, "I know Bin'er said I was partial, but I really never thought about favoring any one child." She only has two sons.
In this regard, Lu Songli declined to comment. Now, judging by deeds rather than intentions, her fourth sister-in-law did not want to be partial, but in fact, her words and deeds did show that she was partial to a small extent.
"Fourth sister-in-law, I know, I understand. For example, when the two brothers went out and Xiaodan was injured, you couldn't help but scold Xiaobin, saying that he didn't protect his brother well. I know that Fourth sister-in-law was worried about Xiaodan and said those words in a hurry. But what you said is very hurtful."
"You have to know that taking care of his younger brother isn't Xiaobin's obligation. He's willing to do so because it's his responsibility as a big brother, and he's doing a great job. We can't just dump our responsibilities on a child and then blame him for not doing a good job. That's a bit too much. If you put yourself in his shoes, wouldn't you feel wronged too?"
Su Jing lowered her head in shame. "Sixth sister-in-law, I was indeed wrong in this matter. I will try my best to change in the future."
The problem was solved this time, but Su Jing was still worried. A boy of seven or eight was at the age when cats and dogs were disgusted, and she was worried that if a fight broke out, it would be followed by another.
When Lu Songli heard the source of her worry, she thought for a moment and said, "Fourth sister-in-law, actually, if you want to unite the two brothers, there are ways."
Qin Sheng had said that Qin Dan looked very much like his deceased fourth brother. Fourth sister-in-law's partiality was probably unconscious, and to correct this unconsciousness, simply pointing it out wouldn't work; another approach was needed.
Su Jing asked hurriedly, "What method?"
She knew that her sixth sister-in-law was resourceful, and it would be great if she could give her some advice.
"Artificially create a common enemy for them so that they can unite against the outside world." If Qin Ming were still alive, it would be best for him, as the father, to play this role.
Su Jing seemed to understand, "Sixth sister-in-law, can you tell me in detail?"
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