People are sometimes strange. There are some things they cannot discuss with their relatives and friends, but they can have deep conversations with strangers and talk about even the most private things.
This is the situation with Li Shuixiu now. After Jiang Feng calculated her marital status and dispelled her concerns about divorce, she opened her heart to talk to Jiang Feng about her marriage and told him about her mental journey when she married her Japanese husband.
During the meal, Li Shuixiu said out all the words that had been accumulating in his heart for years, and he felt a lot more comfortable all over.
Jiang Feng and the other two had been listening. After Li Shuixiu finished her story, he said, "So, Sister Li, you don't have to keep putting up with it. When you were at your parents' home, you were the apple of your parents' eyes. But now you've married and moved to Japan, and you're living a life worse than a nanny's. Why bother?"
Li Shuixiu sighed, "Yes, I am so stupid. I didn't want to be a good young lady, but I had to marry here and suffer. I must be crazy!"
Jiang Feng said: "Sister Li, you are still young and have a long way to go in life. Take the experiences of the past few years as a lesson for yourself. You can still start over after getting divorced and returning to China."
Li Shuixiu nodded and said, "Thank you Master Jiang for your advice. I was hesitant to make up my mind about divorce at first, and I was worried about this and that. I had completely lost the determination I had back then. Now, after your guidance, I have completely let it go. I will file for divorce with him, and then return to China with my child to start a new life."
Jiang Feng reminded: "Sister Li, your husband probably won't agree easily. He may even suspect that you have cheated on him and threaten you with the child. You have to be mentally prepared for this."
At this point, I have to sigh that Japan is really a weird country. Women's family status and social status are not high, and they have no place in the workplace. After marriage, nine out of ten women can only choose to be a housewife.
But at the same time, Japan's various policies are very good for women. For example, in Japan, women are in charge of the financial power of the family. Even after a Japanese man gets married, his salary will be directly transferred to his wife's account. This is simply unimaginable in China.
Another thing is that Japanese women have the highest rate of extramarital affairs in the world, but at the same time, the divorce rate in Japan is shockingly low. This has to be said to be a miracle.
The most fundamental reason why this happens is that most Japanese men cannot afford to get divorced. This is not an exaggeration; they really cannot afford it.
Because most Japanese women are full-time housewives, they enjoy many legal benefits and privileges, including treatment after divorce.
Japan's Marriage Law stipulates that if the husband works outside and pays full social security premiums, and his wife stays at home as a housewife, she can also share 50% of the husband's pension during the marriage in the future. In this way, the woman will have financial security for the rest of her life even if she does not work outside.
Another possibility is that if the man cheats and negotiations fail, the parties may request a settlement from the family court.
In addition to requesting the division of the couple's common property, divorce compensation, pension, and alimony, the cheated party can also ask for financial compensation from the cheating party and the mistress.
The amount of compensation is determined based on factors such as the number of years the marriage lasted, the length of the affair, whether the mistress is pregnant, and the mental harm suffered by the cheated party.
When divorcing, if the wife is a full-time housewife, she can still get half of her husband's pension after she turns 65, and she doesn't have to worry about financial problems at all.
Even if the woman cheats, the man still has to pay alimony to his wife until she remarries. Especially if the custody is taken away by the wife, the alimony to be paid each month will account for half of the monthly income, which means that divorce becomes a luxury.
Therefore, Japanese men really cannot afford divorce.
Li Shuixiu frowned upon hearing this and said, "I am not afraid of being accused of cheating during marriage. After all, I have nothing to fear from my own shadow. His dirty water cannot fall on me. Moreover, even if I cheated, I can still enjoy preferential treatment according to Japan's marriage law.
But if he threatens me with the child, I really don’t know what to do! ”
"Sister Li, regarding the issue of children, what couples are playing is actually a psychological game. Whoever shows that he cares will suffer."
Jiang Feng said: "He will use the child to threaten you because he is sure that you care too much about the child. If you don't want to be threatened by him, you have to act like you care less about the child than he does. You just need to do this... and then this..."
Li Shuixiu nodded repeatedly after hearing this: "I understand. If he dares to threaten me with the child, I will do as you taught me, Master Jiang."
Jiang Feng hummed and said, "Sister Li, let's exchange contact information. We plan to return to China the day after tomorrow. If you need help during this period, please call me.
If everything goes well, when you return home and want to find a partner, you can also call me and I will definitely find a man who can treat you well. "
Li Shuixiu said gratefully, "Thank you so much. If I hadn't met you today, I don't know how long I would have hesitated before making up my mind to divorce. And when I fight for the child, I'm afraid I would have paid a heavy price for it."
Jiang Feng smiled and said, "Sister Li, you are too polite. We are all Chinese compatriots, and it is only natural for us to help each other. Then I will use tea instead of wine. I wish you all the best, Sister Li."
"Well, all goes well, cheers!"
"cheers!"
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At the same time, Mr. Mikami was also having dinner with Yamamoto Jusan and his parents.
Just as Master Jiang said, Yamamoto Jusan's parents were extremely enthusiastic when they met Teacher Mikami. After getting to know each other, they talked about A culture without any scruples, and even talked about Teacher Mikami's acting skills in the short film.
As a top A-girl, Teacher Mikami is naturally not inferior to anyone in this regard. Since the Yamamoto family has nothing to be embarrassed about and is seriously discussing A-culture and shooting experiences, then she naturally has nothing to be embarrassed about.
So, when they met the parents for dinner for the first time, they spent most of the time discussing the shooting of a short film. Yamamoto's parents even brought up short films that Mr. Mikami had previously shot as examples. It was obvious that they had all watched Mr. Mikami's works.
Such a scene is considered normal only in Japan. If it happened in China, even those rated actresses would not be able to handle it and would be extremely embarrassed.
After the meal, Teacher Mikami successfully integrated into the Yamamoto family. Yamamoto's parents had a very good impression of her and said that it would be a blessing for their son Yamamoto Jusan if he could marry Teacher Mikami.
To be honest, in terms of enthusiasm, when Ms. Mikami went back with her Chinese boyfriend to meet his parents, before her identity as an A girl was exposed, the treatment she enjoyed was no worse than she is now.
But after her Chinese boyfriend's parents knew her identity, their attitudes changed dramatically. Now she has no burden at all and can freely share her thoughts on porn with his parents. In addition, the Yamamoto family's financial conditions are better than her former Chinese boyfriend's. This is exactly the marriage she has always dreamed of.
And all of this was brought to her by Master Jiang.
Of course, she also deserves credit for introducing Master Jiang, the matchmaker, to her ex-boyfriend Ge Jun.
I will thank Master Jiang properly once the marriage here is finally finalized.
As for Ge Jun, let Master Jiang thank her on her behalf. After all, she and him shouldn't have too much contact. She doesn't care, but it might have an impact on Ge Jun.
It was around nine o'clock in the evening when we left the Yamamoto family.
Yamamoto Jusan drove Teacher Mikami back to her residence.
After getting off the bus, Mr. Mikami asked meaningfully, "Mr. Yamamoto, we were evenly matched in the poetry exchange at noon. I wonder if you are still interested in another poetry exchange?"
Yamamoto Jusan recalled the scene of the poetry exchange at noon and immediately saluted and said, "Teacher Mikami, I am very interested in the poetry exchange. I hope that this exchange can be more comprehensive and in-depth."
Teacher Mikami said with a smile: "This depends on Yamamoto-kun's hard work!"
Yamamoto Jusan said excitedly: "I will definitely not let Teacher Mikami down."
Having said that, the two smiled at each other, then went upstairs in tacit understanding.
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After parting with Jiang Feng and others, Li Shuixiu went to her parents-in-law's house to pick up her child. Although her parents-in-law did not help take care of the child, they would occasionally take the child over to play, which was why she had time this afternoon to come out and stroll around to relax.
After taking the child back, bathing her and coaxing her to sleep, Li Shuixiu also took a bath, and then played with her mobile phone while waiting for her husband to come back.
Tonight, she was going to confront her husband.
She waited until the early morning, when her husband Saburo Nakata came back drunk.
Since she had already planned to divorce, Li Shuixiu would naturally not humiliate herself by going to the door to greet her husband and hand him slippers and take his briefcase. Instead, she pretended not to see him come back.
Seeing this, Saburo Nakata frowned and wanted to curse.
But Li Shuixiu spoke before he could curse, saying, "Nakata, let's talk!"
Sensing that his wife's tone was not right, Nakata Saburo swallowed the curse on his lips, put on a pair of slippers, walked in and asked, "What do you want to talk about?"
Li Shuixiu put her phone on the table, folded her arms across her chest, looked at him and said, "Nakata, our marriage is now dead in name only. I've known about your cheating for a long time. I've tried to give you a chance during this period of time, but your performance has disappointed me so much. Let's get a divorce!"
Saburo Nakata was not surprised at all that his wife knew about his affair. After all, he was not cheating occasionally, but was blatantly spending money on wine and women outside. As his wife was his bedside companion, he could not hide the fact from her no matter what.
He even came back late at night every day, which created conditions for his wife to cheat on him. He believed that not only he but his wife had cheated on him as well.
Anyway, this is a very normal thing in Japan. For Chinese men, a cheating wife is a huge shame, but for many Japanese men, it is a sign of their wife's charm.
And Saburo Nakata is obviously a supporter of this idea.
Everyone was having fun, and no one owed anyone anything. He didn't expect his wife to use his cheating as an excuse and even file for divorce. Nakata Saburo shook his head and said, "I don't agree!"
His answer was within Li Shuixiu's expectations, and she said calmly: "Nakata, I chose to marry you without hesitation despite my parents' strong opposition, but have you ever cared about what kind of life I have led in the past few years?
In addition to serving you, my uncle, every day, I also have endless housework to do. After the child was born, I took care of everything by myself. Do you know that I live worse than a nanny?"
Nakata Saburo frowned and said, "Shuixiu, we Japanese women will stay at home to take care of our husbands and children after marriage. You know this. Isn't doing housework a very enjoyable thing for you women? Why do you sound like you feel very tired?"
Li Shuixiu said: "Perhaps for many of you Japanese women, doing housework is something you enjoy, because they treat it as a lifelong career, and their parents have trained them in housework skills when they were at home.
But for me, work is what I like. This kind of housework that never ends is not a pleasure but a torture for me.
And widowed parenting is such a bummer, and I’ve had enough of it over the years.”
Nakata Saburo shook his head and said, "No matter what, I don't agree to divorce. You know, I can't afford this marriage."
Li Shuixiu said, "Whether you can afford to divorce or not, you have to divorce. I will negotiate with you now. It would be best if you agree, which will save you a lot of trouble. If you don't agree, I will divorce too, it just takes more effort."
Nakata Saburo's face darkened instantly, and he threatened: "Li Shuixiu, I tell you, I absolutely do not agree to divorce. Even if you file for divorce in court, you may not be able to succeed as long as I do not cooperate. Moreover, if you do that, I will definitely fight with you for the custody of our daughter and will never let you take our daughter away."
Li Shuixiu said unmoved: "As long as you are not afraid of losing face, then you can make trouble with me. Anyway, I will return to China after the divorce. No matter how ugly the quarrel is, it will not affect me. But you still want to live here, so you should think carefully.
Also, you don't have to fight with me for the custody of my daughter. I'll give it to you if you want it. Anyway, it's better for me to go back to China alone. I'm afraid my parents won't like it if I take my daughter back!"
Saburo Nakata's face turned pale. As Li Shuixiu said, divorced people are already looked down upon in Japan. If the matter becomes a big deal, then they will really lose all their face.
The only thing he can control over his wife is his daughter.
After all, he knew how deep the relationship between his wife and daughter was.
But now, according to what his wife said, she is going to give up even her most beloved daughter. Her determination for divorce is as hard as iron, which really gives Saburo Nakata a headache.
How did things suddenly develop to this point?