Chapter 81 Parents' Past
Su's mother also taught her four children that there is no absolute right or wrong in a quarrel between married couples, and there is no need to wait for the other half to admit their mistakes. If the stalemate between two people lasts too long, it will affect their relationship.
It's better to talk it out.
Anyway, she and Su's father have been married for nearly 30 years, and their quarrels and cold wars never last overnight. If there is anything, just talk about it.
After listening to Su's mother's story, Gu's mother gave her a thumbs up.
"Sister, you are this."
Gu's mother felt that Su's mother was a gentle yet powerful woman, the type of person who had a gentle temperament but was decisive in what she said and did.
"Sister, how did you get to know me?" asked Gu's mother.
They had never discussed this topic before. She and Gu's father were from neighboring villages and had known each other since childhood. They liked each other a little bit and with the help of a matchmaker, they got together.
Su's mother recalled and said with a smile, "How did we know each other? He came to work as an apprentice in our place, and I happened to be working in our flag. I saw that he was good-looking and had a skill, so I took the initiative to get him."
In fact, what she said at that time was, I will be your wife, can you take me away?
Because her father and stepmother planned to sell her to the local landlord as a concubine. Not to mention how young she was, the landlord was already in his sixties, almost seventy, and almost the same age as her grandfather.
It was impossible for her to be his concubine, so she found her husband.
Then he ran away directly.
It was 1935 during the Republic of China period, and the area was in chaos. The two places were far apart, only about 400 miles (200 kilometers).
So there is no way to find her at her parents' side, so just pretend that she doesn't exist.
After hearing this, Gu's mother raised her thumb again and said, "Sister, you are really brave. Aren't you afraid that he will sell you out?"
Su's mother shook her head and said, "Don't worry, there is no way out, we might as well take a chance."
Besides, she had known her husband for some time at that time and felt that he was not that kind of person and was worthy of entrusting her life to.
As it turned out, her bet was right.
Her husband has always treated her very well since they got married nearly thirty years ago.
"Sister, you are lucky."
Mother Gu felt that Mother Su was blessed. Although she did not have a good life in the first half of her life, with her mother dying early and her father remarrying, she found a good man.
Because of her husband's family relationship and the fact that there was no trouble with the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, and because Su's father was raised by his uncle and aunt, she let the nephew live separately after marriage.
Not to mention the situation in the city, even in the village there are very few daughters-in-law who do not care about their mothers-in-law's mood, because most of them live together.
The same goes for having children. The first child was a son, the second was also a son, and finally a dragon and a phoenix twin, three sons and one daughter. All four children grew up to be successful.
Ordinary people can’t compare to it.
Another thing that Gu's mother admires is that Su's mother is very smart. Her mind is more flexible than that of ordinary people, which can be seen from the way she deals with people, whether it is balancing the children or getting along with Su's father.
Don't mention it, Gu's mother thought about it and realized that if she were a man, she would also like a woman like Su's mother.
In summary, her in-laws are really amazing.
Su's mother smiled and said, "Sister, we are all blessed. Jianhua is so outstanding. He has a family now and has two grandchildren."
"It's obvious that these two kids are smart. Who knows, maybe they can get into college in the future. That would be a great honor for our family."
These words made Gu's mother's heart beat fast. She couldn't imagine how happy she would be if her two babies were admitted to university in the future.
Her sister-in-law Zhang Xiuying and the old ladies in the village must be jealous of her to death, right?
God, I feel so comfortable just imagining it!
Mother Gu calmed down her excitement and said, "It's all thanks to Xiao He that she gave birth to a pair of twins, a dragon and a phoenix."
Su's mother was not modest when she heard this. She accepted it and said that her daughter was indeed very capable. She gave birth to twins, a dragon and a phoenix, just like her.
When the elders talk about their youth, they have so much to say that they can last for hours. Today, the two parents were also very excited about the topic.
Both Su's father and Gu's father drank a little wine, and Su's mother and Gu's mother also chatted for a long time.
It was not until the afternoon when I had to go to work that I reluctantly went back.
After Su's father and mother left, Gu's mother said to Su He, "Xiao He, I like your mother very much. Your mother is like this." She gave a thumbs up.
The two parents, except Su's mother, drank a little bit of wine, and Gu's mother also drank two glasses.
Su He could tell right away that Gu's mother was a little tipsy, but not very drunk.
Father Gu was lying on the kang and snoring.
For the entire afternoon, Gu's mother told Su He about her mother. She said she admired her mother's courage.
Su He knew about her parents' affairs since she was a child. Every Chinese New Year, the four siblings would ask why they didn't go to their grandma's, grandma's, or uncle's houses on the second day of the Chinese New Year.
Comrade Chen Yuling said, "You have no grandparents and no uncles."
By then her eldest brother was already grown up, so he asked about it. Their mother told them about it, and they understood it, and they rarely mentioned it again after that.
But occasionally her mother still mentioned it a few words.
Su He also admired her mother's courage. In her eyes, she was a remarkable woman. Comrade Chen Yuling had both emotional intelligence and IQ as described in the book.
She was very positive. Her grandparents didn't teach her to read, but when she went to work in the flag company, she learned to read from the boss's wife, though she didn't learn all of them at that time.
But it doesn’t matter. Comrade Chen Yuling lived and learned until she was old, and she never gave up learning even after she married her father.
Now there is no difference between me and those who have been to school. I can recognize all the characters and write in a delicate and beautiful way.
It was the first birthday gift for the two babies. Second uncle Su Xiao and third aunt Gu Sanjie also remembered it, and the next day they sent the gifts they bought to Gu Jianhua's office for him to take back.
It's very uniform. My second uncle and second aunt made clothes for me, and so did my third aunt.
The two children no longer have lack of clothes to wear.
Su He plans not to make new clothes for them during the Chinese New Year, so they can just wear all the clothes first.
In the evening, Su He chatted with Gu Jianhua and talked about Gu Sanjie.
"Jianhua, talk to your third sister and tell her not to buy milk powder for the two babies every month."
Since Third Sister Gu started working, she would buy a bag of milk powder for the two babies every month. I don’t know with whom she exchanged the milk powder coupons, but the two babies never lacked milk powder every month, so she had to buy them a bag.
When the two children were one year old, clothes were made for them again. Her children were different from other children. Since there were two children, two sets of clothes had to be made for them. Not to mention her second brother's family, the conditions were different from those of her third sister Gu's family.
But as for Sister Gu San, the cloth can be kept to make clothes for her daughter.
Gu Jianhua, "The third sister is grateful to you, and she doesn't know how to repay you, so she bought milk powder for the two children."
Su He, "It's enough for her to live a good life. She can keep the money for herself and spend it on her girlfriend. She doesn't have to buy milk powder every month."
Since Third Sister Gu married Team Leader Wang, she usually goes back to her parents' home once a month. Sometimes she comes with Team Leader Wang, and sometimes she comes alone.
The one who takes care of the parents is given egg cake, and the one who takes care of the parents is given a bag of milk powder.
In the second month, Su He told Sister Gu that she didn't need to buy milk powder for her and she could keep the money for herself.
But Sister Gu didn't listen and brought it next time anyway.
In fact, Third Sister also knew about Su He's good intentions, but as an aunt, she really loved the two babies. The two babies were still young and she didn't know what to buy for them, so she just bought milk powder every time.
Gu Jianhua, "I'll talk to her next time we meet."
Su He responded, "Well, tell me."
How can I put it? She doesn't like to take things from her aunt. It's OK if she is rich, but her conditions are similar to theirs, and she still sends them things every month. How can this be allowed? Her aunt has her own life to live, and she doesn't need to support her family and brothers every month.