"... Boys pamper me, so these past few months, I've done the most disgusting and embarrassing thing in my life. You ignore me, but I still send messages. I even despise myself. Finally, can you let me stop being afraid of you? Can you reply to me? Just say "period" and I'll understand. Can we break up properly? If you don't reply within a week, I'll take it as you said, I agree to break up, and you can dump me too. Rub your heart, heal quickly, kiss your face, kiss goodbye, and never bother you again."
"This is simply breaking up our relationship, Ji Nianqin. I guess it must be the counselor, but what about the others?"
"He seems to be dating Cao Hanhui."
"Shh, where are they? Cao Hanhui seems to admire the counselor quite a bit."
"What does it look like when a boy truly loves a girl? Strategist."
"American psychologist Gary Chapman, author of 'The Five Love Languages,' believes that different people receive and express love in different ways. These include quality time, words of affirmation, acts of service, physical touch, and exchanging gifts. So, Cao Hanhui, you need to learn to make comprehensive assessments."
"What if I had to choose a single standard for judging love? Something simple and easy to apply."
"It's definitely a sacrifice of scarce resources. When a man truly loves you, he'll definitely show altruism, wanting to give and take care of you. However, this kind of giving is bound to be somewhat irrational, meaning it's not very cost-effective from a utilitarian perspective. After all, if a man is constantly calculating his return on investment while giving, it can hardly be called love."
"So, when I judge whether a man loves me, I don't look at the absolute value of his contribution, but rather whether what he contributes is his scarce resource. So what is a scarce resource?"
"For example, a playboy who doesn't care about his work chats with you every day. He does spend time on you, but that's not necessarily love, because he could be flirting with many people at the same time. After all, he has plenty of time. And a rich second-generation man opens a bottle of expensive whiskey for you at the bar. He does spend money on you, but that's not necessarily love, because tomorrow there might be another woman sitting in his booth."
"What if a poor student saved a month's living expenses and bought me a gift I like?"
"Of course, Cao Hanhui, are you thinking of someone again? That student who pursued you? Actually, for an entrepreneur like me to carve out my own time to pick you up from get off work every day is also a contribution of scarce resources."
"But I don't have classes, and you don't pick me up every day. How can you say that?"
"In fact, investment isn't the only criterion for testing love. Many guys are generous with their efforts when pursuing girls, but this often changes dramatically after they fall in love. Once the relationship progresses and they become boyfriend and girlfriend, they quickly reduce their investment. This can only mean that they are more self-interested than altruistic. Self-interested people tend to be self-satisfied. All the previous means are for the purpose of obtaining something. Once the goal has been achieved, the means that consumed their energy and spirit no longer need to be continued."
"Then should I look for someone who is altruistic?"
"Yes, he will feel that his partner is happy, which makes him happier, and the deviation value before and after the relationship is confirmed is lower. But I am not like that."
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