Chapter 817 Five Years Later (Part Six) The Value of a Young Woman
Looking at Sun Chunlan, who was hanging her head and whose mood was visibly low, Li Sanniang felt a pang of sympathy for her.
"Why are you getting so fixated on this again, kid?"
Li San Niang reached out and grabbed Sun Chunlan's hand, holding Sun Chunlan's somewhat cold fingertips in her warm hand. She first sighed softly, and then said to Sun Chunlan in a low voice, "Raise your head. It's not your fault that you're sick, it's God's fault. What does it have to do with you?"
Don't take responsibility for mistakes that aren't your responsibility.
"Third Sister, I..."
Looking into Li Sanniang's gentle yet firm eyes, Sun Chunlan suddenly found herself unable to utter the words she wanted to say.
"You are your mother's precious child. It is already a blessing that you were able to come into this world."
Didn't you come to terms with it a few years ago?
Why have you fallen into confusion again because of what others say?
"Third Sister, I...I am...I am..."
Li Sanniang raised her hand and smoothed a stray hair behind Sun Chunlan's ear. Then she smiled at Sun Chunlan and said, "You've been in my school for a long time and you've done well in your studies. Otherwise, I wouldn't have recruited you to work in this maternity ward."
Chunlan, a woman in this world does not necessarily have to give birth to children.
A woman's value in life is not limited to just giving birth!
"Didn't you already know this principle?"
Li San Niang knew that Chunlan was depressed and distressed because she had reached a certain age and because of her illness, she could not find a suitable husband like other young women and live the most ordinary yet happiest life in the world.
Sun Chunlan wasn't sad because she couldn't find a husband; she was sad because she had no choice.
This is similar to a situation in modern society where DINK (Double Income No Kids) families who actively choose not to have children are different from those who have to choose not to have children due to their own medical conditions.
The key is the subjective right to choose!
"I can" and "have to" are two completely different states.
"Chunlan, you are a female doctor in the maternity ward of Chang'an City, a nurse who receives a monthly salary from the imperial court. You support yourself, which is such a remarkable thing!"
This one thing alone is enough for you to stand tall and proud in front of others!
Li San Niang's words carried power, and Sun Chunlan slowly raised her head in response.
I know you're holding back your grievances.
Chunlan, think about it from a broader perspective. You're still young, and you have decades of good life ahead of you. Do you want to spend the next decades thinking about this every day?
There are so many other things to do in life, having children is definitely not the only important thing.
Just like your mother said, in the future, when you save up some money, go to the orphanage and ask for a little girl to come to your home, raise her well, and experience being a mother. Apart from not giving birth to her, wouldn't it be good if you raised her well?
Chunlan, you still have many choices to make in the days to come.
Why dwell on something that can't be changed?
Seeing that Sun Chunlan's confusion had lessened considerably, Li Sanniang looked at her and asked, "Alright, think about what I've said carefully later."
Now, I have to ask you, your grandmother's and mother's thoughts are their thoughts, but what are your own thoughts?
Do you think Zhang Wulang is a good match for you?
Or do you feel that Zhang Wulang is not a good match for you?
Or, do you think you need a good match right now?
Sun Chunlan was stunned by Li Sanniang's question. Her eyes were unfocused as she stared into the air, muttering, "I... I feel..."
After asking, Li San Niang did not urge Sun Chunlan, who was clearly lost in her own thoughts, but waited silently.
After a long while, about the time it takes for an incense stick to burn, Sun Chunlan finally came back to her senses.
"Third Sister, I...I don't know, I don't know what to think?"
Li San Niang reached out and gently patted Sun Chunlan's hand twice, saying in a calm voice, "It's alright, if you don't know now, then you don't know."
Look back and think it over carefully. Ask yourself what you really want.
Between these trade-offs, what are you willing to accept? And what are you unable to accept?
"Third Sister, what do you think I should choose?"
"You silly child, how could this be my opinion?"
This is a major life event for you, so what matters most is what you think is best.
Whether it's me, your grandma, or your mother, our words are only for reference. This is a major life event for you, and you'll be the one living your life from now on, so naturally, it has to be something you're happy with and feel is good for you.
"Third Sister, tell me, tell me what's going on. My mind is in a mess right now."
I feel that Grandma is right, and I also feel that Mother is right. I really don't know what to do.
After thinking for a while, Li San Niang said to Sun Chunlan, "You have to think about this yourself and make the decision. No one else can make the decision for you."
However, I think there must be some women in your situation. You could ask someone in the know to inquire about it for you.
When Sun Chunlan heard Li San Niang say this, her eyes lit up immediately.
"If you're willing to spend a little more money, you can go to those shops that specialize in selling information to buy this kind of information."
Go and see how other women who can't have children manage.
What kind of life do those of them who got married lead?
What are the criteria for finding a son-in-law?
Those who didn't find a husband, did they just live like that? Or did they adopt a child?
"Third Sister is so clever!"
"Yeah, I might as well go and see how other people live their lives first, and then think about my own!"
Li San Niang stood up and said, "It's just that everyone's situation is different, their thoughts are different, and what they can bear is also different."
Just remember, nothing in this world is perfect; every advantage has its downsides.
It's up to you to decide what to choose.
After speaking with Sun Chunlan, Li Sanniang looked at the sky and knew that if she didn't leave soon, it would really be too late.
Only then did Li San Niang pat Sun Chunlan on the shoulder and encourage her, saying, "No matter what, you still have to do your job well now."
This is the foundation upon which you stand in this world; everything else is unimportant, but this is the most important.
Seeing Sun Chunlan nod emphatically, Li Sanniang turned around and walked out.
Back in the carriage at the Imperial Medical Academy, Song Fuling was very curious about what Sun Chunlan and Li Sanniang had whispered to each other that lasted so long.
"You know, I can't say much about this to you."
Later, if Chunlan is willing to tell you, you will naturally know.
"Hehe, Master, I'm just curious."
Okay, okay, I won't ask anymore.
Meanwhile, at the entrance of the alley where Sun Chunlan's house was located, a large crowd had gathered because Zhang Wulang had brought Zhang Xiaolang with four gifts and the matchmaker to her door.
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