Xu Que lost his life plan and began to drift along aimlessly. Perhaps because he had no goals, he didn't know what tomorrow would bring, or what next year would hold, so he became increasingly lost and confused.
Or perhaps they suddenly encountered difficulties and felt lost. They originally had their own life plans, but a sudden change made their plans and reasons impossible to realize, or the influence of a certain person or event caused them to lose their goals in life.
Or perhaps he has suffered a major setback in something and is unable to get out of the predicament. Although he has always adhered to a certain principle of being honest and hardworking, he suddenly finds that someone or some people around him have achieved more and better results without putting in any effort; or he has put in a hundred times the effort, but suddenly finds that others have already succeeded. All of this makes him feel that the principles and methods he originally adhered to suddenly become untrustworthy?
In fact, everyone has their own characteristics and their own circumstances. If someone feels confused, there must be a reason for it.
Because everyone's situation is different, Ha Gang and Ping Yao believe that there is no single remedy that can cure all diseases.
Only by taking into account each person's actual situation, conducting a serious analysis, and truly finding the root cause of confusion can we prescribe the right remedy and thus get out of confusion.
Ha Gang and Ping Yao believed that to break Xu Que's pattern, they needed to help him find his own goals: goals can be short-term, medium-term, or long-term. For everyone, the most important thing is to clearly understand their life plan and what goals they ultimately want to achieve. Only when this question is clear can other things be considered correct. Otherwise, it's hard to say they are correct.
Therefore, Ha Gang and Ping Yao asked Xu Que to analyze his own situation and help him think about his ultimate life goal. Everyone has their own goals in life. Everyone has their own thoughts, and only they can understand them clearly and make choices that suit them best.
After completing these steps, we helped Xu Que comprehensively consider various conditions. After clearly analyzing his own actual situation and understanding his ultimate life goal, the next step was to base his thinking on how to better achieve this goal, break it down, and adjust it in light of various practical circumstances to ensure that the goal was clear and the measures were feasible.
"Once the goal is set, the most important thing is to aim at it, do things honestly and diligently, and develop steadily. You must never do anything illegal or disorderly." This is what Ha Gang and Ping Yao often said to Xu Que.
People in Xu Que's age group are mostly living in relatively comfortable environments, either studying or playing games, so it's good to know that you are confused. At least you want to pursue something, but your goal is uncertain.
Many people were like this before, living in a daze for a long time. Now they must feel that they wasted a lot of time and regret it very much. But there is no benefit in being immersed in this regret. It may even wear down the resources you originally had.
Therefore, Ha Gang and Ping Yao advised Xu Que to find his interests as soon as possible. He could record things that interest him in the little things of life, because sometimes these thoughts are fleeting and not easily recalled. Moreover, if his future work is related to his interests, he will feel right at home.
She suggested, or rather forced, Xu Que to read, because reading is a timeless investment. Developing a reading habit, reading good books, and sharing your thoughts after reading them all can deepen your understanding of the book. As the old saying goes, "You only realize how little you know when you need to use it." Xu Que feels this feeling growing stronger now that he's a sophomore. Fortunately, it's never too late to start, but of course, the earlier the better.
Ha Gang and Ping Yao remarked, "People are usually dissatisfied in some way. But Xu Que's statement about everything being unsatisfactory means that he is dissatisfied with his life. These reflections on life come from the heart. First, you may have suffered a great blow or been greatly stimulated in some aspect or event, and you've buried this pressure deep inside, without releasing it. Second, you might be a very introverted person, hiding all the unpleasant things in life in your heart, unwilling to tell others. This buildup accumulates until it reaches an unbearable point, which is why you're like this."
Hou and Hua were chatting and drinking with the villagers. Whenever the villagers saw him, they would take his hand and lead him to their simple and humble house to brew tea for Hou and Hua.
This time, Hou and Hua somehow stumbled upon their fellow villagers after emerging from the forest.
This is the balding farmer uncle who threw clods of dirt at Xu Que, causing him to bleed profusely.
This time, Hou and Hua insisted on dragging him to the uncle's house for a visit.
Since neither Huo nor Hua felt comfortable refusing, they reluctantly agreed.
"I'll brew some tea for you first!" The balding farmer angrily threw a few slightly processed tree roots into the brazier, placed the tea canister on top, turned around and set up a small table on the kang (heated brick bed), insisting that Hou and Hua sit on the kang.
"I won't sit on the kang! I think it's better for me to sit outside! I'll just drink the tea you brewed!" Hou and Hua nodded to the farmer uncle and smiled gently.
The uncle looked at Hou and Hua's height and thought he made sense. If such a "sky-piercing poplar" came into the house, wouldn't it poke a hole in the roof with its head?
"Uncle, the tea is ready! I'll pour it myself!" Hou and Hua said as they got up to pour themselves some tea.
"Hey! No rush, this kind of tea needs to be boiled for a while, just like stewing chicken soup, otherwise why would it be called stewed tea!" The farmer said while busy preparing steamed buns for Hou and Hua.
Watching the balding uncle bustling around, Hou and Hua couldn't help but ask, "Uncle, where's Auntie?"
The older man didn't answer him directly, but calmly replied indirectly, "When I was dating before, I always had this thought in my mind: I wished time would pass quickly so I could marry the person next to me. But seeing the current situation and looking at the person next to me, I think it would be a great choice if we could stay in love until we grow old."
Seeing so many of my friends sharing the same thoughts, some of them had been dating their girlfriends for six or seven years and were at the age where marriage was possible, yet they were all unwilling whenever their boyfriends asked about marriage. And whenever I talked to my girlfriend about our ideal age to get married, she always refused, not because she didn't like it, but because she didn't want to step into marriage… Eventually, I just broke up with her!
"Why? Are you materialistic? Uncle, you can't keep doing this. Look at your age, you'll be a bachelor if you keep going like this!" Hou and Hua joked.
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