Chapter 89
How to get along with a people-pleasing personality?
If you ask Qin Su this question directly, she will definitely say: Why should I consider how to get along with others? Why don't others consider how to get along with me?
However, if we were to specifically address this issue in the case of Xue Jianxing, Qin Su wouldn't even need to think about it; she would simply say: "It's very simple. You need to make her feel that her efforts are being rewarded."
As the saying goes, "It is easier to change mountains and rivers than to change one's nature." A person's temperament is formed gradually over decades from childhood. It is actually very difficult to change a person's personality rashly.
When dealing with people, don't always try to change them; that's too difficult. Instead, try to see if your personalities can complement each other and be tolerant of one another.
Perhaps it was because he had experienced too many planes and met too many people, or perhaps everyone was born with different talents, it was always Qin Su's instinct to be different from others. And from the first time he met Xue Jianxing after arriving in this world, Qin Su had a general understanding of her personality.
When you're with someone like Xue Jianxing, you can completely enjoy her efforts for you. However, if you want her to be happy too, you need to give her sincere feedback every time, and then surprise and reward her at appropriate times. This will make both of you feel satisfied.
Most viewers didn't realize that Qin Su didn't often praise others in the Heartbeat House; she gave 99% of her praise to Xue Jianxing.
“These days have probably been the period in my memory when I received the most attention.” Xue Jianxing squatted down beside the vegetable garden and rolled up Qin Su’s sleeves next to him.
Because she might have to bend over next, she put a light sun-protective shirt on Qin Su to prevent any accidental exposure, buttoning it all the way up to her collarbone.
Qin Su stretched out her arms like an old man, letting Xue Jianxing straighten her clothes and put a simple wide-brimmed straw hat on her.
"Then you're wrong," she said lazily. "Once the variety show ends and the audience grows, you'll find that more and more people will praise you."
"How could that be? There aren't that many people paying attention to me," Xue Jianxing laughed, handing her a short-handled knife. "Use this to cut; it'll save you the trouble."
Worried that Qin Su wouldn't know how to use it, she held up a few green beans and demonstrated to Qin Su: "Like this, hold the green bean with your left hand, and use a knife in your right hand to cut the stem, and the green bean will be picked off."
Qin Su glanced at her, took a step forward, deftly grabbed a string bean from the trellis, and with a swift swipe of the knife, picked more than a dozen beans and tossed them into the basket. Her movements were so practiced that it didn't seem like she was doing this for the first time.
Xue Jianxing was a little surprised. Qin Su raised her chin and said, "I'm not an idiot. Do you think I don't even know this?"
"No, it's just that times have changed, and many people have never seen a vegetable garden since they were young," Xue Jianxing explained. "I thought it was your first time in a place like this too."
Qin Su said, "It's been a long time since I've seen a vegetable garden."
She spent two consecutive worlds wandering around modern cities, with little opportunity to farm, but she had done several farming missions before and was quite familiar with agriculture.
Xue Jianxing said, "I haven't seen a vegetable garden in a long time either. This plot of land was only replanted this year."
Qin Su said "Oh," and asked, "Then what is this noodle shop?"
“It was opened before my grandmother passed away,” Xue Jianxing said. “It’s been open for more than ten years and is quite well-known in the neighborhood.”
She smiled slightly and said, "The shop is called Aunt Li's, but my maternal grandmother's surname wasn't actually Li. She was born during a war and grew up eating food from many families. She didn't know her own surname, and everyone called her Xiao Liu. Later, when she was a teenager, she married my maternal grandfather and planted a plum tree in the yard, so she decided to take the surname Li. After the war ended and things stabilized, the population was registered, and the surname was finalized. When we opened the noodle shop, we also decided to use this surname."
"That's excellent," Qin Su exclaimed. "This is like establishing your own lineage and surname; it's superb."
“My maternal grandmother said the same thing. She said she was born without knowing her parents and was lucky enough to live to get married and start a family before she got a surname. From then on, she had to walk her own path in life and take control of her own life.” Xue Jianxing laughed. “When I was little, she also told me that when I grew up, I could choose my own surname and that she would support me if my parents disagreed.”
Qin Su nodded and said, "You two seem to have a very good relationship."
"Because I lived with my maternal grandmother for several years," Xue Jianxing explained. "I am the second child in the family. I have an older sister. When my younger brother was born, my sister got sick. Both of them needed someone to take care of them. My parents couldn't take care of me, so they sent me to my maternal grandmother's house. I lived with my maternal grandmother until I graduated from elementary school. Later, I went to boarding school for junior high school."
Qin Su didn't ask her if she felt wronged as the second child in the family, or if she hadn't received the same care as her older sister and younger brother. These were obvious things.
She simply asked, "Are you happy living with your grandmother?"
Xue Jianxing smiled at her through the bean trellis and said, "I'm quite happy."
Qin Su asked, "Did you learn your cooking skills from your grandmother?"
“Yes.” Xue Jianxing rummaged through the vegetable basket and felt that the two of them had picked enough green beans to eat, so he took the knife back from Qin Su’s hand. “Give it to me.”
"After my grandfather got old, his teeth became weak, so my grandmother would make him all kinds of soups, and I also started to like drinking soup."
She placed the vegetable basket in the shade under the eaves, moved two small stools, and sat facing Qin Su to remove the strings from the green beans.
"People say that a person's childhood has a huge impact on them. I didn't think so when I was a teenager, but now I think it makes a lot of sense."
“When I was six or seven years old, I grew vegetables with my grandma. I saw the green beans blooming on the trellis. They were purple, small, and looked like butterfly wings. I thought they were very beautiful. I told my grandma that when I grew up, I would grow these green bean flowers. And now I have actually opened a flower shop.”
“I spent my adolescence in school. Because I was just an ordinary person in terms of looks and personality, I was never the center of attention. I was very disappointed. My grandmother comforted me by saying that it was good to be an ordinary person. And I really did become an inconspicuous ordinary person.”
She lowered her head slightly, a few strands of hair falling down, outlining the soft contours of her face, just like the impression she gave off.
“When I was in college, I watched a TV series that described a type of girl as a memo girl. They are very versatile and considerate, but also inconspicuous. People are used to them but don’t pay attention to them. That’s when I realized how well this definition applies to me.”
Qin Su sat on a small stool, listening quietly and attentively to what she was saying.
Xue Jianxing's fingers were nimble; after breaking open the green bean, he gently pinched the two pointed ends and peeled off the green bean fibers completely.
"From childhood to adulthood, I have never won first place, never performed on stage, and have no special talents or unique qualities."
"Of course, I've never been last in class, I never had a rebellious or crazy phase, and I never smoked, drank, had early relationships, or stayed out all night."
"I have never done anything outstanding or outrageous. The first half of my life was like plain water, bland and uninteresting."
She smoothed her hair and said, "The boldest thing I've ever done in all these years is probably participating in this show. I was completely out of my mind when I signed up. I can't even explain why. Maybe it was some kind of destiny guiding me?"
Qin Su suddenly asked, "So what do you want to do now?"
Xue Jianxing paused for a moment, then subconsciously said, "I need to cook later..."
"It's not about what you want to do." Qin Su looked directly at her. Her pupils were dark, and her eyes and eyelashes were naturally upturned, giving her a tender and affectionate look. "Don't you have anything you want to do right now?"
Xue Jianxing's mind went blank, and he looked slightly bewildered: "It seems not."
She seemed to have very low desires; she never really liked, disliked, or wanted to do anything in particular.
Qin Su hesitated for a moment, then changed her question: "Did you live here with your grandmother when you were little?"
Xue Jianxing said, "No, it's in the next county."
Qin Su asked, "What made you happiest when you were a child?"
She paused very briefly as she spoke, her words coming out at breakneck speed. Xue Jianxing had no time to think and blurted out almost instinctively, "Catch fish."
After answering, she vaguely sensed what Qin Su was planning to do, and quickly said, "Never mind, we're recording a show, I already told the production team that I would..."
Before she could finish speaking, Qin Su leaned closer to her and asked bluntly, "Do you want to go fishing?"
Xue Jianxing said, "But we're recording a TV show..."
Qin Su blinked, her voice clear and crisp, and asked again, "I want to go catch fish now, do you want to come?"
Xue Jianxing finally said, "I want to, but..."
When she said those words, she even felt a little strange and disoriented, because she rarely seemed to express "what I want" to others.
Ignoring all that, Qin Su dusted off his hands, opened his palm to her, and said, "Then what are you waiting for? Let's go catch fish now."
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