Chapter 327 Wedding Discussion
When asked about this, Lin Nanzhi still felt it necessary to express his thoughts. After all, marriage is a big deal, and it only happens once in a lifetime. If it is not to his satisfaction, he will be very angry in the future.
So he sat down and expressed his thoughts.
"I think it's a bit cold to get married in winter, so it's best to schedule it in summer or autumn. I like Chinese-style weddings." After saying that, she looked at Wen Jiunian: "What about you, Wen Jiunian?"
Wen Jiunian naturally had no objection to what Lin Nanzhi said.
"Just do what you like. Your intention is what matters most."
“I like traditional Chinese.”
“Is it the same as the one in the TV series?” Mother Wen had never held a Chinese wedding, and neither had anyone around her, so she could only use the two Chinese people and the TV series as a reference.
"Not really. The footage in the TV series is a bit blurry. I have the complete process here..."
She used to go to the library often at school because she liked history, so she would look for history books to read and ask professors in the history department about things related to those eras.
It just so happened that she had written an ancient style article which included a wedding scene, so she specially looked up literature and recorded the entire wedding process.
Later, I thought that if I and Wen Jiunian got married, she would not want to wear a wedding dress and would like to have a Chinese-style wedding. Combining modern ideas, removing the dross and retaining the essence, I made a complete set of procedures and saved them in my computer.
"We don't understand this either. Just tell us what you need and your uncle and I will work hard to prepare it."
Lin Nanzhi looked at the couple and immediately hugged Mother Wen's arm: "People say that since ancient times, the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is the most difficult to get along with. I am so lucky to have met such a good mother-in-law."
"I am also very lucky to have met such a good daughter-in-law. It is all thanks to my son's good vision."
When Wen Jiunian heard this, he showed a look of as if it was a given.
Lin Nanzhi actually looked up and prepared all the necessary things, but since it was modern times, there was no need to restore the scene so completely and realistically.
"Now there are wedding companies that can organize this kind of wedding. We can just ask them to do it."
"That's fine, but since you two are getting married, it's not good for parents to just sit back and do nothing. You still have to get what you need.
There is an engagement before marriage, what are you going to do after the engagement?"
Lin Nanzhi immediately shook his head, and Wen Jiunian also echoed: "She thinks it's too troublesome and doesn't want to get engaged. Just hold a wedding directly."
"This……"
"It's okay, dear in-laws. We don't have engagement here in Wumeng. Before the wedding, the two families just sit together, exchange engagement letters, and write an engagement letter."
"I remember that a Chinese wedding requires three books, six gifts, three matchmakers and six betrothals, right? Squeak?"
"Um."
Three books and six ceremonies, three matchmakers and six betrothals were essential procedures for marriage in the past.
The three books refer to: the engagement letter, the gift letter, and the welcoming letter.
The engagement letter is not a list of betrothal gifts, but a marriage certificate written personally by a prestigious person in the family. After taking the marriage certificate to the man's home, the woman will write her name on the certificate after agreeing.
The gift letter is the betrothal gift that the man gives to the woman. After the woman agrees, the man's family goes back to prepare the betrothal gift and picks a good day to bring the betrothal gift document to the woman's home.
The wedding book is a letter of guarantee that the groom brings with him on the wedding day to the bride's family, assuring them that he will love and take care of her.
The six rites are: accepting the bride’s proposal, asking for the bride’s name, accepting the bride’s good news, accepting the bride’s betrothal gift, asking for the date, and welcoming the bride in person.
Nacai, commonly known as matchmaking, is the same as the modern marriage proposal, that is, the man asks a matchmaker to go to the girl's home to propose marriage, and will bring the Nacai gift and his parents to the girl's home.
Asking for the name, commonly known as matching the eight characters, is to prepare for the marriage. The birth dates of both the man and the woman are used to calculate whether the two characters are suitable, how their marriage luck is, etc.
Najib, after the man knows the auspicious omen, he prepares the relevant gifts for the wedding, and then informs the woman to discuss the preliminary matters related to the marriage.
Nazheng, also known as Guodali, is simply the man choosing an auspicious day and gifts to get engaged to the bride.
Ask for a date and choose an auspicious day to get married. In the past, auspicious days were generally chosen on the even days of the even months. March, June, November, etc. were not preferred. Inform the woman of the calculated wedding date and obtain her consent, which is what we now call a good day.
This is the final procedure. On the wedding day, the man takes the welcoming book to marry his beloved bride to show his respect for her.
The three matchmakers are: the matchmaker hired by the man, the matchmaker hired by the woman, and the middle matchmaker (a respected witness) who acts as a bridge between the two parties.
The six steps of engagement are: proposing marriage, matchmaking, matching horoscopes, engagement, giving betrothal gifts, and marrying the bride.
This is not difficult to understand. It is a similar procedure to the Six Rites and there is no need to explain it again.
"But it's too troublesome. This is modern times, everyone loves freely, including us, so we can mostly skip it."
"How can that be possible?" Mother Wen waved her hands and said, "You and Xiaonian have known each other for a long time. I think we can skip the betrothal ceremony and the matchmaking, but the other things are not possible.
The horoscopes don't even need to match. We can just pick a few auspicious days and ask a matchmaker to come and set the date and the betrothal gift.
If you don't want to get engaged, then let's not get engaged. The two families can have a meal together and discuss the wedding, is that okay?"
"I agree with my mother."
"That's a real problem. If we don't do anything because it's too cold in winter, it's already May. It's too late this year."
"It's not too late. How can it be too late? The weather has warmed up in recent years. It's not cold at the end of October. There's still about half a year left. It's enough. We just need to speed up."
Mother Wen was really anxious.
My son is almost 30 years old. If the couple spends two years alone after marriage, it will take several years for their child to be born. If they get married even later, won’t their grandchildren be born several years later?
No, absolutely not!
Mother Wen is a person of action!
She didn't have many relatives, and she thought her best friend was very talkative, so she called her and she came within two days. In addition, she asked her former high school teacher, Wen Jiunian, a professor in college, to write a marriage certificate.
Originally they wanted to skip the horoscope matching, but Lin Nanzhi's parents believed in this very much, and horoscope matching is a must for marriages here, so they took the birth dates of both people to see a fortune teller and calculated a good day.
Then, less than two weeks later, Wen's parents, Wen's mother's best friend, and Lin Nanzhi's entire family sat together again.
As for the witness, they couldn't choose a suitable one in the end, so they found Yu Ze's grandfather, who was a witness to the two people meeting and falling in love. Naturally, he agreed.
But Yu Ze was still not satisfied. He felt that he had witnessed the love between two people, so why did they choose his own grandfather as the witness of the wedding?
In contrast, Wen's mother's answer was: "The witnesses are all respected elders. You are too young and not suitable!"
Yu Ze: “…”
Exaggerated or not? But it feels like it is exaggerated!
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