Chapter 194: The feud between the moon and the moon, irreconcilable
In the circle of mother-in-law and daughter-in-law in later generations, there is a shocking saying, which is "the hatred during confinement is irreconcilable."
Even a simple search on the Internet will reveal countless examples, most of which are because the daughters-in-law encountered some bad things during the confinement period, which made them hate their mothers-in-law with a vengeance.
What happened in just over a month will be a hurdle in their hearts that they will never be able to overcome.
As the saying goes, there is no smoke without fire. Even though the saying "the hatred during confinement is irreconcilable" is a bit exaggerated, the fact that it has become one of the hottest topics in the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law circle means that parents-in-law really need to pay attention to their daughter-in-law when she is in confinement.
In his previous life, when Deng Shirong was in his later years, he would either read novels or watch short videos or the news.
Although there are many toxic chicken soups on the Internet, and many of the contents are mixed and it is difficult to distinguish true from false, there are indeed some words that are worth pondering. At that time, Deng Shirong drank a lot of such chicken soups, and combined with his own experience, he realized something, and generally speaking, he gained a lot.
For example, how to treat his daughter-in-law is one of Deng Shirong’s gains.
Facts have proved that Deng Shirong's method is very correct. Since his eldest daughter-in-law married into the Deng family, the family has always been harmonious. Who in the village doesn't envy his eldest daughter-in-law? Many so-called postpartum grudges in later generations were not so serious. Some things will be over after the confinement period, and they will not be remembered for a lifetime.
But I am afraid of comparison in everything. I had originally forgotten the unpleasant things that happened during the confinement period, but ended up talking about this topic with other sisters, classmates, colleagues, and mothers of my classmates who had also gone through the confinement period.
After comparison, I found that the treatment others enjoyed during the confinement period was far beyond my reach. Especially when the person I was comparing with was inferior to me in all aspects, my psychology would naturally become unbalanced, and I would never forget things that I should have forgotten. Every time I mentioned the confinement period to other people, I would be sarcastic towards my parents-in-law.
Deng Shirong had heard a lot of gossip about this in the village in his previous life. For example, during the confinement period, a certain mother-in-law killed so many chickens and cooked ginger wine for her daughter-in-law to eat; a certain daughter-in-law had never eaten a chicken after giving birth to a daughter; a certain daughter-in-law had to cook and wash clothes the day after giving birth; a certain daughter-in-law didn't even have to wash her own underwear, and so on.
Since this kind of comparison is unavoidable, Deng Shirong must make his daughter-in-law stand out from the crowd, so that she will not lose no matter which family's daughter-in-law she is compared with.
Therefore, the postpartum treatment that Zhang Xiuping enjoys now really makes the whole village astonished.
First of all, in terms of food, they would have a chicken cooked with ginger wine every day, and other dishes would be eaten in different ways. This alone was enough to seduce all the daughters-in-law in Naye Village. No daughter-in-law could enjoy such treatment during the confinement period.
If eating is about economic conditions, then the rest is purely about emotions.
For example, during the period of confinement after childbirth, Zhang Xiuping never touched a drop of cold water, never washed a single piece of clothing, and even the water for her bath was boiled with maple leaves by her sister-in-law who then brought it to the bathroom for her. She didn't have to hold the child in her arms and coax him in the middle of the night.
No matter whether it was day or night, as long as the child cried for more than a minute, my sister-in-law would immediately appear and take the child away.
In short, Zhang Xiuping had a very comfortable confinement period. With good nutrition and a good mood, her health got better day by day. For other young wives, the confinement period felt like a year, but she didn't even feel anything and it was already a full month.
"Sister Ping, if I can get half the treatment you give me during my confinement, I will be very grateful to my ancestors!" Ou Guohua said with emotion.
Zhang Xiuping smiled and said, "Don't worry. I'll ask Brother Tai to talk to your A Yuan about this issue. Let's not talk about anything else for now. When you are in confinement, you must be included in the food. I don't say you have to eat a chicken a day, but at least you will have ginger wine with every meal.
As for the rest, it depends on whether your mother-in-law has the heart to do it. It is not appropriate to talk about this kind of thing, lest your mother-in-law is unhappy when she hears it."
Ou Guohua said: "I'm not too worried about food. Even if my brother-in-law doesn't mention it to my A Yuan, I believe my mother-in-law won't mistreat me in this regard. After all, we haven't split up yet. My A Yuan is the pillar of the family. Anyone with a bit of brains wouldn't let me eat less during the confinement period."
Ou Guofang nodded and said, "Indeed, the money earned by others combined is not even a fraction of what your Yuan earns. If he is unwilling to give you good food during your confinement, then it would be better for us to separate and live our own lives."
Ou Guohua sighed, "How many of us daughters-in-law don't want to separate the family and live our own lives? The key is that it is not up to us to decide whether to separate the family, but it is up to our parents-in-law. If the parents-in-law do not agree to separate the family, then the family cannot be divided."
Zhang Xiuping quickly advised: "Ahua, don't think about dividing the family for the next two or three years. If the villagers know about it, they will gossip behind your back. Of course, if your mother-in-law really treats you badly, there is no need to wrong yourself too much. If your parents-in-law don't agree to divide the family, then ask my father-in-law for help."
Ou Guofang said, "Yes, Ah Hua, don't worry. If it really comes to that, with Jiu Gong stepping in, it will only take a word to decide whether to divide the family or not."
Ou Guohua thought of Jiu Gong's prestige in the village and couldn't help but smile: "That's true. I will talk to my Yuan tonight and ask him to find an opportunity to test my parents-in-law's attitude and see if they agree that I can go to the county town to give birth. Then, I will see how they treat me when I am in confinement.
As long as they don't go too far, I won't argue with them for my son Yuan's sake."
Zhang Xiuping smiled and said, "I'm glad you think this way."
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As mentioned before, in the full-month banquet custom of Shuangwang Territory, it is important that boys are presented first and girls are presented last. If a boy is born, the full-month banquet can be held in advance, but if a girl is born, there is no way to advance the banquet and it can only be postponed.
Although Xiaodong'er was one month old on November 11, Deng Shirong still postponed his eldest granddaughter's full-month banquet to the 17th.
On the afternoon of the 16th, guests began to arrive one after another, including members of the county theater troupe.
Those who come to help also have to start slaughtering pigs and prepare those more time-consuming and hard dishes in advance.
Over the past year, Deng Shirong's family has held several banquets of all sizes. His eldest daughter is very experienced and can arrange everything in an orderly manner without Deng Shirong's intervention.
(End of this chapter)