Chapter 394 Cousin's Marriage
"He means that you will live with his mother after marriage?" Su Jiaojiao was a little puzzled.
The man bought a house in the woman's village and brought his mother-in-law to live with him. Does this also count as marrying into the woman's family?
At this time in her previous life, she was busy taking care of herself in the imperial capital and had no idea about Chen Juan's marriage. She only knew that she had a live-in son-in-law, a son and a daughter, and lived a pretty good life.
As for these details, she didn't know.
"His brother said that even if he married into the family, he still had to provide for his mother's parents. He said one family would provide for her for a month, or even a year." Chen Juan didn't really understand these things. "He said it wasn't appropriate for his mother to live in our house, so he thought of buying a house in our village. He could take care of my parents and his mother would have a place to live when she came."
"What do my second uncle and the others mean?" Su Jiaojiao thought it was reasonable, but this didn't count as marrying into the wife's family, right?
Is it that the times have changed and the way of marrying into the wife's family has also changed?
"My dad said it was not easy for them to raise their son, and we can't let them not take care of him in his old age, so he agreed." Chen Juan lowered her voice, "But your uncle disagreed. He said my dad was a fool."
"Why doesn't he agree?" Su Jiaojiao was stunned. "Didn't they have a falling out over the walnut tree?"
She had to admire her uncle, he was involved in everything!
There is no sense of boundaries at all.
"A few days before we fell out, my dad talked to him about this. He said marrying into the family is just marrying into the family, so why bring my mom in?" Chen Juan told Su Jiaojiao the whole story. "He also said that it was lucky enough that he didn't have to change his surname, and there was no way he could take care of him in his old age. He also said that my dad had brought shame to the Chen family, and that marrying into the family wasn't like marrying into the family, and he wasn't afraid of being laughed at if the news got out."
Su Jiaojiao understood.
The real reason why my uncle and I fell out was not because of the walnut tree. The walnut tree was just an excuse.
Chen Guilan probably didn't know that her two brothers had quarreled because of their different opinions on marrying into the wife's family, so she thought that they quarreled because of the walnut trees.
Seeing that Su Jiaojiao didn't say anything, Chen Juan said again: "Jiaojiao, tell me, what should I do?"
"Actually, as long as your two families have discussed this matter, you don't have to worry about what others say." Su Jiaojiao felt that it would be better to clarify these things before marriage. Everything should be based on mutual consent, and there is no need to act according to existing customs.
Chen Juan's goal is to stay in the village and take care of her parents after getting married.
Zhao Shunfa is willing to move to Wutong Village to fulfill his filial duties with her, but on the condition that he also takes on the responsibility and obligation to take care of his mother.
As long as the two parties reach a consensus, it will be fine.
Other people's opinions can be ignored.
She didn't understand why her second uncle wanted to discuss this matter with her eldest uncle. It would have been fine if they hadn't discussed it, but as soon as they started discussing it, they turned against each other.
"My dad thought your uncle was the eldest brother and my matter was a big deal for the family, so he came to discuss it with him." Chen Juan explained, "Because the matter between our brother Chen Jiang and Cheng Yu was proposed by your uncle and my dad to Cheng Yu's family."
"So that's how it is." Su Jiaojiao suddenly realized that when it comes to children's major affairs, the elders of the clan usually participate in and discuss them together to make them appear important.
Her uncle, as the eldest of the Chen family's generation, has his own authority. He supports Chen Juan in finding a son-in-law, but does not agree with the man to provide for his mother's old age.
Her second uncle understood his son-in-law's request and agreed to let him buy a house for retirement, which is not wrong in itself.
All we can say is that different positions lead to different attitudes.
Because my second uncle knew that if he didn't agree, the marriage would basically not be successful, and even if it was successful, there would be hidden dangers before the marriage.
Who knows when it will explode after the marriage.
"Because of me, my dad and my uncle had such a fight. I feel very sad." Chen Juan sighed, "Actually, I really want him to buy a house in our village. My parents have Xiao Suisui to take care of, and there's no room at home. I can't refuse his mother and his family to come over, right?"
"If they have a falling out, then so be it. It has nothing to do with you." Su Jiaojiao knew her uncle's family very well. "Even if it wasn't because of this, it would have been because of something else. They almost had a falling out last time because of the relocation of the grave."
The reason why her uncle is so strong is that he can turn against her at any time.
The fundamental reason is that he looks down on his second uncle, thinking that his second uncle is a villager, not as good as him in making money, and inferior to him in everything.
If my second uncle was a big leader, he would definitely not dare to do this.
"My dad said the same thing." Chen Juan felt much better when she heard Su Jiaojiao say the same thing. "We've found a house we'll buy once we agree on a price. He's been driving a truck and helping his brother build a house over the years, so he has some savings of his own. He said buying a house shouldn't be a problem for him."
"That's good." Su Jiaojiao still envied Chen Juan on this point. Her matter was not a personal matter, but a family matter.
Chen Juan not only has a good mother, but also a good father, and their family's hearts are always together.
This is happiness that cannot be bought with any amount of money.
During the meal, the topic at the table was still about Chen Juan and Zhao Shunfa. Chen Guisheng was very satisfied with Zhao Shunfa, his future son-in-law: "Little Zhao is very hardworking. He helps to fetch water and chop firewood when he comes. He has a keen eye. I said that the work in the fields will be left to him in the future."
"I just think his mother isn't someone who's easy to get along with." Xu Yue'e had barely any illnesses since she had Xiao Suisui. She could even wash clothes and cook, just like a normal person. She was even more concerned about Chen Juan's situation. She gestured, "Xiao Zhao's mother is about 1.7 meters tall and has a very loud voice. If they came to a fight, our Juan wouldn't be her match."
"Mom, I'm not even married yet, and you're already worried that I can't beat my mother-in-law. Do I think we'll ever get into a fight again?" Chen Juan didn't know what to say. She said awkwardly, "I'll definitely get along well with her. I'll treat her the same way I treat you, okay?"
Xu Yue'e and Chen Guilan smiled at the same time.
Obviously, they all thought that Chen Juan was too naive to say this, and no one got married to fight.
But those who say that they treat their mother-in-law as their own mother can only be unmarried girls who are ignorant of the world.
People who have experienced it don’t say this because it is simply impossible.
If you have a quarrel with your own mother, you will forget it as soon as you turn around, but if you have a quarrel with your mother-in-law, you will remember it for the rest of your life.
Su Jiaojiao smiled but said nothing.
The topic of how to get along with her mother-in-law is beyond her ability because she doesn't know either.
"Even if Xiao Zhao's mother is really difficult to get along with, we're not afraid. What can she do on our territory?" Chen Guisheng doesn't talk much on weekdays, but he's reliable when it matters. He said to Chen Juan, "Don't worry about whether others are easy to get along with or not. Just be yourself first. Only if you have a clear conscience will we support you. If you act unreasonably, we won't agree."
Chen Juan nodded with a relaxed expression.
Su Jiaojiao became even more envious.
It feels so good to have someone supporting you!
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