Chapter 405 Premarital Anxiety [Ye Qingyue and Huo Qingchi's Extra] There

is still half a year before graduation from university.

There is also only half a year before marrying Huo Qingchi.

Ye Qingyue found that she might have premarital anxiety.

Premarital anxiety is a very common symptom, but it is often ignored and neglected.

It is not a disease, but it has trapped many young men and women, and some people even go their separate ways before marriage because of it.

Most people don't know that they actually have premarital anxiety until they break up.

The psychological changes that cause premarital anxiety can be roughly divided into three types.

Fear, rebelliousness, and comparison.

The latter two are more common in men.

Many men, for their own reasons, desire a stable marriage, but do not want to be bound by it. They want to seek freedom, which leads to a rebellious mentality towards marriage. They cannot help but secretly look for other women to seek excitement.

Or they are influenced by their surroundings and are ridiculed for their lack of experience, so they get married like this, as if they are inferior to others. They develop a comparison mentality and think that they should have relationships with more women before getting married so as not to be looked down upon.

Most of the premarital anxiety of women is caused by fear.

Women are meticulous and have deeper thoughts than men. In addition, marriage will inevitably be accompanied by things such as having children, which will not only harm women's bodies, but also have a great impact on their careers and lives.

When facing the unknown marriage life, women often develop a fear mentality.

This is the case with Ye Qingyue. Whenever she thinks that she will marry Huo Qingchi in half a year, she feels that marrying the man she loves is a very happy thing, but at the same time she is afraid of the unknown married life.

After all, in her family, no woman has a happy marriage.

Whether it is her mother or her eldest sister.

Both of their partners were good before marriage, but they changed their faces after marriage, leaving an indelible shadow on Ye Xianghong and Ye Mei.

Ye Qingyue knows that Huo Qingchi is definitely not a scum like Ye Yong or Wu Zhenhua, but she can't help being afraid.

What if?

Even if Huo Qingchi doesn't change, what about the people around him?

The atmosphere in the 1970s and 1980s was generally more traditional, with men being the masters and women just assisting.

Ye Qingyue has an independent personality, and she doesn't plan to slowly become Huo Qingchi's vassal after marriage.

Marriage will not hinder her from pursuing her career.

What if people around her don't like her behavior?

They think she has a strong personality and doesn't know how to coax her man, that she only cares about work and doesn't care about the family, that she doesn't give birth to children while she is young and in good health, and that she is not a good wife...

Even if Huo Qingchi doesn't think so, the environment will change a person's concept.

After she and Huo Qingchi have been married for a long time, will Huo Qingchi really not have any opinions about her after listening to those rumors?

Ye Qingyue's reason told her that no, Huo Qingchi is not that kind of person.

But the messy thoughts in her head always come up, and she can't stop even if she wants to.

She always feels nervous or even afraid in her spare time.

But Ye Qingyue couldn't tell what she was nervous about or what she was afraid of.

Recently, she even avoided meeting Huo Qingchi. Even if they did meet, she couldn't help but find fault with Huo Qingchi because he looked like a bad person.

The two even had a quarrel.

To call it a quarrel, it was actually just a few words spoken in a bad tone, but both of them were reasonable people, and they quickly clarified the conflicts and never mentioned them again.

Ye Qingyue didn't know if the conflicts were really clarified, nor did she know what Huo Qingchi was thinking, but she just felt that something was wrong and made her uncomfortable.

Things turned out like this, and Ye Qingyue also understood that she probably had premarital anxiety.

However, she didn't know who to talk to about this.

There is no formal psychological treatment and counseling in the country now, and as for the people in her family, either their husbands have died or they have divorced early, so it doesn't seem appropriate to say these things.

If she went to the elders, they would worry about her and it would be bad for her health.

After some confusion, Ye Qingyue contacted Lu Xue, who had just got married, on her day off.

This good friend from her previous life also became her good friend in this life due to various coincidences.

Lu Xue and Jiang Shaoyan have been married for more than half a year, and she is about the same age as her, so perhaps they can resonate with each other on this topic.

"It's strange."

Lu Xue was a little surprised when she was called out for dinner by Ye Qingyue, "You are such a busy person, and you rarely take a break. Instead of going to be with your Qingchi Suiwai, you actually asked me out? What's the matter?"

Although Lu Xue has a carefree personality, she is not really stupid. In addition, Ye Qingyue's depression is written on her face, so she immediately understood what Ye Qingyue was worried about.

"Hey... don't laugh at me after you tell me this, and don't tell anyone."

Ye Qingyue sighed.

Seeing that she was really upset, Lu Xue also took it seriously: "What happened? Tell me about it."

Ye Qingyue said: "I seem to have premarital anxiety."

After she finished speaking, Lu Xue's face opposite her was full of confusion, "What is this?" She also asked directly: "What premarital disease? Anxiety?"

Ye Qingyue gave her a popular science explanation of what premarital anxiety is.

"... In addition to the three psychological changes that trigger emotional problems, premarital anxiety is also accompanied by some physical symptoms. Simply put, it is not only uncomfortable in the heart, but also in the body."

Ye Qingyue said: "It's like being flustered and short of breath, feeling that you are about to die, or being restless and unable to control your actions..."

After listening to her, Lu Xue was stunned. Is there such a saying in the world?

"What you said, I have had it too!"

Although she felt novel about the term "premarital anxiety", Ye Qingyue's explanation made Lu Xue seem to have found an outlet. She said: "More than half a year ago, when I was about to marry your cousin, I suddenly felt very annoyed. As long as I heard someone mention that I was getting married, I wanted to slap him in the face and tell him to shut up!"

"Shaoyan and I have never quarreled since we were young, but on the eve of our marriage, when we were preparing for the wedding, we quarreled eight hundred times. Either I was dissatisfied with something, or he felt that something was wrong. Anyway, we quarreled whenever we got the chance, and if there was no chance, we would create one."

"When we quarreled, I always felt that the other party was an enemy, and regretted it after the quarrel. I didn't understand why I was like that at the time..."

"Later, as we argued, we felt that our relationship was so bad, there was no point in getting married and it would be better not to. We even made an appointment to meet up in private and secretly talked about not getting married."

Lu Xue paused here and said, "Maybe we were really driven crazy by our emotions at that time and felt it was better not to get married."

Ye Qingyue was surprised: "I didn't see you making such a fuss at that time..."

Lu Xue said, "Isn't it because I was afraid that you would worry? Most of the arguments were in private."

Ye Qingyue asked, "What happened later?"

They made an appointment to talk about whether to get married in private. I guess Lu Xue and Jiang Shaoyan were really in so much pain that they couldn't continue, right?

"Later, after we agreed not to get married, we became speechless and soon started crying while looking at each other."

Until today, Lu Xue feels a little upset when she thinks of that time. "Shaoyan and I have known each other since childhood. Over the years, we have gone from friends to lovers. Even though we haven't gotten married yet, I still regard each other as my wife and husband in my heart. He has long been integrated into my life."

"Saying that I would not marry him was like digging out a big piece of my life over the past 20 years... It hurts just thinking about it."

Lu Xue said, "He was the same. He cried even harder than I did at the time and was even hiccuping from crying. He said that if we really didn't marry each other, he didn't want to marry anyone else, and he didn't want to see me marrying anyone other than him. He might as well die then, out of sight and out of mind."

Jiang Shaoyan thought so, and so did Lu Xue.

She couldn't marry anyone other than Jiang Shaoyan,

and couldn't bear to see Jiang Shaoyan being with anyone other than her. "We talked a lot that day, and we felt that even if we quarreled for the rest of our lives, it would be better to be apart, so we got married. We were really prepared to quarrel until we had no feelings for each other, and then get divorced after a mess."

Lu Xue said this and breathed a sigh of relief: "But I didn't expect that after getting married, we stopped quarreling. The irritability before marriage didn't seem to matter after marriage. Today, I heard you talk about premarital anxiety and fear of unknown marriage life, and I seem to understand a little bit."

It turned out that she and Jiang Shaoyan quarreled like that because of premarital anxiety.

Lu Xue said: "So you don't want to get married now?"