While it's true that such things are difficult to talk about and not pleasant to hear, especially since they are very insulting and harmful to women, Qin Qinghuai was also aware that such things were quite common. The dregs of the old society already showed a lack of respect for women, so let's not go into that. In recent years, after educated youth went to the countryside, many similar incidents have occurred in some ignorant villages.
Although he hadn't handled it himself, Qin Qinghuai had heard quite a bit about it.
However, as a leader, his vision and thoughts naturally extend beyond the immediate surroundings and the small plots of land in someone's backyard. Fairness and impartiality are fundamental principles, and he would not express opinions based on subjective assumptions.
"It's pitiful and tragic, but things aren't always absolute."
If a person has the will to resist and save themselves, and has hope and longing for a new life, then the past experiences are just temporary mud. There will always be a time when the sun shines after the rain. At that time, these past experiences will just be the past, history. Who hasn't made mistakes or acted foolishly? Those are all forgivable.
Of course, it also depends on the nature of the partner. If he truly loves her, he will cherish her even more. If not, but there is no way to avoid it, then hiding it is a way to protect oneself.
This cannot be generalized. After all, nowadays, although new ideas are being promoted, such as freedom of love and marriage, feudal dregs should not be adopted.
But, oh!
I'm a man too, and I understand men. Deep down, most men are still quite traditional. Whether they've genuinely been hurt, it's just a facade, or just rumors, very few can accept this. Rather than pretending from the start, only to grow increasingly suspicious, resentful, and even hateful later on, ultimately turning husband and wife into enemies, it's better not to start at all.
What was originally a heavy topic, Jian Dan inexplicably found something amusing in it, and tilted her head to look at him for a while.
"You say you're a man, that you understand men, so what about you? What's your personal attitude?"
It's not that I have any particular intentions; at this moment, it's simply pure curiosity.
"If, hypothetically speaking, and I don't mean anything by it, what would you choose?"
Qin Qinghuai was somewhat speechless, so he flicked her forehead with his other hand.
"Nonsense! Don't you know what kind of person I am? I choose a wife based on her character, nothing else."
No, that's not quite right. To be precise, what I'm looking for, what I want, is only you. Everyone else, naturally, has nothing to do with me.
She was just trying to tease someone, but ended up getting teased instead, which made her blush bright red.
"Go away, I'm talking to you seriously."
"I'm serious. Apart from you, everyone else treats me the same way, except that they're all of the opposite sex."
However, the problem you mentioned does exist. Society is still too unfair to women. Coupled with feudal ideas, the deep-rooted male chauvinism, and the contempt for women, many women dare not ask for help when they are bullied, and they dare not even tell their closest relatives. It is not uncommon for them to give up on themselves or even commit suicide. This phenomenon is actually very common.
Why!
Honey, I guessed it when you brought this up. It must be related to our family compound. I won't ask who you are.
In this area, things are still quite feudal. We've been promoting this for so long, and it seems like the relationships between families have become much more balanced. Problems like wife-beating and mother-in-law/daughter-in-law conflicts have improved a lot. But everyone knows that these are just appearances.
These deeply ingrained ideas have long been ingrained in people's bones and have been passed down from generation to generation. Many children grow up in this kind of environment, and it is not uncommon for some children to have a natural sense of superiority, contempt, or even disdain for their grandmothers, mothers, or other women in their families.
This situation is not uncommon even in the military. Male chauvinism is the most obvious example. I think this may also be one of the reasons why fewer family members accompany military personnel. After all, sometimes a man who doesn't care about his wife is not even as good as someone who stays in his hometown to farm. Although it's tiring and tough, as you said, it's more comfortable.
Since I arrived, I've had quite a few political and ideological classes, but this kind of deep-seated prejudice can't be changed by dry words alone.
A flash of inspiration struck in my simple mind.
"So, when I first arrived, the team leader asked me to lead a team up the mountain. I noticed you weren't too keen on me going, but you didn't object either. Is that why?"
"hehe!"
Qin Qinghuai hadn't expected that Jian Dan could still remember things from so long ago.
"You noticed?"
Simple rolled her eyes, speechless.
"Virtue!"
If you hadn't mentioned it, I wouldn't have remembered. But now that you've explained it so clearly, if I still can't connect the dots, I'd be truly clueless.
Qin Qinghuai lowered his voice and turned the sleeping baby sideways to hold him.
"Don't they look down on women? It just so happens that you don't seem to mind. Your eyes light up when you mention going up the mountain. I thought about it and decided to go for it. It's a win-win situation."
I roughly know what they're thinking. As for your combat power, well, needless to say, they're incomparable to you. There shouldn't be anyone in this unit who can rival you. In your words, how did you put it again?
A precipitous crushing, isn't it?
Isn't this the perfect way to strike at their mentality?
They look down on women, but it's the women they despise who deliver the heaviest blow to them. Just imagine that scene—isn't it exciting, satisfying, and cathartic?
"Haha, that's really true. So, what was their actual reaction?"
Recalling the scene at that time, Qin Qinghuai smiled again.
"You bet they were terrified. They all thought it was a dream and were in a daze for days after they came back."
After that, many soldiers would avoid you whenever they saw you, not daring to look you in the eye. Do you remember that?
Simple stared in shock, eyes wide, then suddenly realized.
"Wow! I was wondering why everyone was acting so strangely. I'm not a goddess, but I'm not ugly enough to be seen by anyone either. So why are they all acting so weird? They want to look but are afraid to, and then when they don't look, they sneak peeks when I'm not looking?"
I was wondering why I would check myself in the mirror several times before leaving the house for days, afraid of being stared at like a monster. Turns out you were the one who started it all.
Why didn't you tell me sooner? I was so worried.
Enraged, she reached out and slapped it a few times.
"If you keep hiding anything from me, just you wait!"
"Haha, don't worry, don't worry, I won't, and I wouldn't dare."
After putting the child down, the couple straightened their expressions and continued their previous conversation.
"Because I know them, I'm sure that if such a thing really spreads, it will definitely cause a huge uproar. This person will definitely be drowned in rumors and the spittle of those family members."
Even simplicity can bring some worries.
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