After all, the debt of saving a life is greater than anything else; it wouldn't be an exaggeration to call him a second parent. Otherwise, the person lying underground today, turning into a mound of yellow earth, could very well have become him.
"Moreover, I have never had any second thoughts since we got married. I sincerely want to live a good life with Li Qingqing. The fact that I haven't divorced her shows my determination. I want to manage this family well. But now Qingqing and the children are very resistant to me. I don't know what I did wrong, and I don't know how to improve the situation."
Xie Zhiyan glanced at him, his eyes filled with obvious disdain.
"It's normal for your child to be averse to you right now. It's not that your child is rejecting you. At your child's current age, all children are close to their mothers and reject men. There is scientific evidence to support this."
Duan Huaichuan was completely confused. "My own biological son rejects me, how is that scientifically supported?"
What's the logic behind this?
"Generally speaking, men are usually taller than women, but this already puts pressure on a child's eyes. Furthermore, men's voices are usually deep, which naturally creates a sense of pressure for the child and makes them instinctively afraid. This does not mean that the child dislikes you, but at this stage, he is still in a state of fear towards you. If you also lack companionship with him, it is only natural that the child will reject you. This only shows that you usually pay too little attention to him, or that you simply do not understand the child's psychology. If you do not even understand this, then you are really not a qualified father."
In fact, he knew long ago, probably before Shu Ying came to join the army, that children have a natural fear of their fathers.
After getting married, he prepared himself to be a father, so he read a lot of books, understood the psychology of children today, and knew the best way to break the ice.
However, it was obvious that Duan Huaichuan was unaware of these things.
It's no wonder that Shu Ying frowned whenever she talked about him, her words filled with undisguised dissatisfaction.
He had initially thought that Duan Huaichuan might have his own reasons, but now he no longer thought so. Sure enough, he still firmly stood on his wife's side; his wife's judgment of people was never wrong.
Of course, he wouldn't tell Duan Huaichuan any of this. He straightened up and said, "It's best not to let family matters affect your work. You should handle these things promptly and not cause trouble for the organization. Balancing family and career is a sign of a mature man's ability to solve problems."
After he finished speaking, he couldn't help but add a couple more sentences: "The widows of martyrs will receive special treatment from the organization. Whether it is in terms of their living conditions or in their future work, they will enjoy more conditions than ordinary people. Since you have become someone's benefactor, it is only natural to help them. However, you should also distinguish between the priorities of things. Only by focusing on your wife and children can you take care of yourself."
Everything else is fleeting.
They sacrificed many comrades in this war, including some widows. Even those who, like Duan Huaichuan, owed others a life-saving debt, did not manage the relationship between the two families so badly.
It is only natural to care for children, but at the very least, one should keep a distance from women. Even if one intends to express concern, it should be the women in the family who do so.
If things get mixed up, you can't blame others for saying those unpleasant things.
Duan Huaichuan sighed deeply, feeling even more heartbroken. He shouldn't have spoken up to Xie Zhiyan earlier. He thought that since they were both men with similar experiences, Xie Zhiyan would at least understand him and have common topics with him.
Shu Ying had already seen Xie Zhiyan in the living room, but the light outside wasn't very good, so she couldn't see who he was talking to. After waiting for a while and seeing that he still hadn't come back, she stood at the door to look.
Seeing Duan Huaichuan's face clearly, she cleared her throat and said with a hint of dissatisfaction, "Xie Zhiyan, the food at home is getting cold. You've been gone for so long, and who have you been talking to? Are you ever coming home?"
Sensing Shu Ying's dissatisfaction, Xie Zhiyan dared not delay for even a moment longer.
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