Chapter 794: The emotional intelligence is worrying
Xu Zijin kept his mouth open and didn't close it for a long time.
Captain Wei’s family member is Wang Xinru, who is 35 years old and has two children.
The oldest is a daughter, who is nine years old this year.
The younger one is a son, just six years old.
She didn't care about Xu Zijin's surprised look because she didn't want to pretend.
She respects her man, but she doesn't really love him.
Everyone says that her man is honest, family-oriented, hardworking and motivated.
She didn't deny that he was a good man, but he was not the husband she wanted.
"Teacher Xu, thank you for coming to see me. My child and I are fine. You don't have to worry."
"The military leaders care about us a lot and have helped us solve all the problems at home."
"The military leaders have already agreed to arrange for me to work in the military service center of the regiment."
"The military leaders said they would take care of the children's future schooling and employment."
Wang Xinru has a job and is a local.
It's just that she was a worker in a textile factory and her work was very hard.
If you can be arranged into a military service agency, the treatment and workload will be much better, and you can also take care of your family.
Putting down the fruit, milk powder and malted milk in his hand, Xu Zijin came back with doubt in his heart.
She was really unfamiliar with the other two.
If you, as a family member, go to visit someone you don't know, you'll feel a little uncomfortable.
She wanted to wait for Lu Hanzhou to come back in the evening and go with him.
There was another family member she was very familiar with, that was Ma Xiaohua.
Qiu Pingan died, but the most pitiful people were actually Qiu Xiaoying and Qiu Xiaoli.
Don’t look at Ma Xiaohua, but have to look at the two sisters.
It’s just that Qiu Xiaoying was too calm, so calm that it made Xu Zijin heartbroken, but she had no way to change the facts.
Without saying anything, he just hugged the sisters...
After dinner, the couple went to visit the families of two other deputy battalion-level officers.
On the way back, she told Lu Hanzhou about Captain Wei's family.
Lu Hanzhou said calmly: "It's not surprising, their relationship has never been good."
Xu Zijin was curious: "Not good? What's wrong?"
Lu Hanzhou was silent for a moment, then said softly, "Captain Wei is a man with excellent military skills and a good character."
"But the relationship between husband and wife was not handled well."
"Captain Wei is a rough man who always speaks directly. He also implements military management at home. ”
"Before children go to bed, they should take off their clothes and fold them neatly, placing them in the order of socks, pants, and tops."
"After the child goes to bed, the shoes taken off in front of the bed must also be placed with the toes facing outwards and the heels facing inwards."
"It is said that when you get up the next morning, you can put on your shoes as soon as you stretch your feet."
"After morning exercises every day, he would come home and check the cleanliness of his wife and children's beds."
"If the quilt is not folded neatly, he will scold you."
"What's even worse is that if my wife or children want to talk to him about something, they have to shout to him first, and they can only talk after he nods his head in agreement."
"Otherwise, he will definitely scold you severely."
"When he was the deputy commander of the battalion, I told him several times, but he just couldn't change."
"He has no faults in military training management and is a responsible and good cadre, but he is not good at home."
"But I can't interfere too much in other people's family affairs."
"His wife was arranged by his grandmother for him as a child, but he didn't like her very much, so the relationship between him and his wife was very cold."
The evil arranged marriage is really killing people.
No wonder his wife wasn’t sad at all. The couple were just living together and had no feelings for each other at all.
Xu Zijin finally understood why Captain Wei's family rarely went out and never interacted with others.
If you don't like it, don't marry it!
He who puts his wife in a difficult position just to be filial to his parents is not a human being.
Xu Zijin increasingly felt that Captain Wei had something wrong with his brain. His wife was not his soldier, and his home was not his barracks!
Which woman would like this kind of thing at home?
The emotional intelligence of men in the army is really worrying.
The two people walked forward side by side in silence with heavy hearts.
Finally, Xu Zijin couldn't help but speak: "Husband, you are soldiers, your character is fine."
"But, in many aspects, I really need to learn more, such as how to treat my wife."
“Soldiers work hard and are noble.”
"You have a hard time in the army, but it's not easy for the wives of soldiers in the rear either."
"Especially for those family members who are not accompanying the troops, it is even harder."
"They have to take good care of their children and parents-in-law, work in the fields and do housework when they get home."
"These are nothing, but when their children or themselves are sick, no one comes to their aid, and they are left with only loneliness and helplessness."
"But after doing all this, if men still don't understand and feel sorry for it, and think it's natural."
"Then they can only slowly become like Captain Wei's family members."
“So, the instability of military marriages is related to practical issues, but more to the care and love of their men.”
"Why do women marry? Is it to make themselves miserable?"
"What's the point of getting married if you don't get help in life and don't get comfort physically and mentally?"
"From the day every woman decides to be a military wife, she is willing to make sacrifices."
"If their men love them, cherish them and care about them, I think they can persevere no matter how hard, tiring or lonely they are."
Lu Hanzhou felt that this made sense, and the reality was indeed the same as what his wife said.
People in the army, after being in the army for a long time, have learned the army's way of managing soldiers: tough and straightforward!
They forget that besides being soldiers, they are also husbands, fathers, and sons...
They have even forgotten tenderness.
Putting his arm around his wife's shoulders, Lu Hanzhou said softly, "You're right. The problem with military cadres in this regard is indeed serious."
"Once the troops are stabilized, I will propose to the chief to strengthen guidance in this regard."
"Wife, can you see if you can open a factory nearby when the time comes?"
"In this way, those family members who cannot meet the conditions for accompanying the troops can work in your factory, and you can see them several times a week."
"Although we can't be together every day, it's much better than leaving them in their hometown."
That's a good idea.
To be honest, Xu Zijin had never thought about this issue before.
She nodded: "Well, husband, you are a good leader. You know how to consider your subordinates."
"Don't worry, I will think about it carefully and try to realize your dream as soon as possible."
It’s not that he is good. In fact, all the leaders are good, but they just don’t have the ability.
Lu Hanzhou sighed deeply: "The country's conditions are not good yet, so I can't consider so much."
"I'm not a good leader either. I just judge others by my own standards."
"During the more than one year since I was separated from you, every day felt like a year when I missed you."
"I can't stand being apart from you for such a short time, what about those lower-ranking officials?"
"Platoon leaders can get married. It takes at least six or seven years to be promoted from platoon leader to deputy battalion commander."
"For six or seven years, I left my wife and children behind in my hometown. I knew she was suffering, but I was powerless to do anything. Any man would feel bad."
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