Chapter 62

When Xu Wen first came here, he had to adapt to more than just field work.

For a postmodern person, being without the Internet is like a smoker without a cigarette. The withdrawal process is extremely painful, and the mental pain is several times more unbearable than the pain of fatigue.

Girls like Xu Wen will be found in large numbers in a few decades. She knows rice but not paddy.

How did she survive that?

At one point she even thought she was suffering from depression.

depression?!

Xu Wen looked at Wang Ying.

Could Wang Ying be suffering from depression?

Depression is simply a mental illness.

Xu Wen remembered that when some women who had just given birth committed suicide due to depression and became a hot topic on the Internet, she specifically searched for postpartum depression.

In addition to changes in body hormones, the biggest reason is the psychological gap.

When a woman is pregnant, the whole family treats her like a queen.

The people around her took good care of her.

But after they separated, she found that after giving birth, the whole world was helping to take care of the baby, and she was the only one who should take care of the baby.

A postpartum woman changes from an independent woman to a tool who is trapped by her child and has no freedom.

They are even forced to eat food they don’t like in order to provide milk for their children.

The tight A4 waist turned into a bucket waist, and the belly never shrank after giving birth.

The stretch marks that turn from red to white scare me when I look in the mirror.

When I was pregnant, I imagined that after giving birth, I would still wear high heels, put on exquisite makeup, and go shopping in a stroller.

But the fact is, you can put on makeup and wear high heels, but the bag you carry cannot be a delicate palm-sized bag. It has to be the size of a sack and filled with diapers, water cups, baby bottles, spare clothes, and tissues and wet wipes.

I imagined that the baby would stay quietly in the stroller, but in reality he started crying and wanted to be held in less than half an hour.

Often, they hold the baby in one hand and push the stroller with the other hand, with the baby twisting and turning in their arms. Halfway through the walk, they can't wait to take off their high heels and throw them away.

A beautiful skirt will be kicked to the point of being dirty at the waist and abdomen.

shop?

I won't go even if you pay me.

I also imagined that after the birth of the child, the family of three would live happily together.

When dad gets home from work, he holds his child and plays with him.

In fact, after returning home, the father symbolically said hello to his children, lay down on the sofa with his mobile phone in his arms, and kept saying, "I'm tired all day, what's wrong with me taking a rest?"

Even after getting married, they are unwilling to live with the elderly, but they insist on living with them just to have someone to help take care of the baby and take care of the confinement period.

The generation gap that would have gotten you scolded if you spent a few days with your own mother during school holidays has become even more chaotic when it comes to the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law.

The huge gap between imagination and reality is the reason why most postpartum women suffer from depression.

Postpartum women who are depressed are either depressed and extremely pessimistic, blaming others and crying, or even have thoughts of suicide if things don't go well.

Some people become completely different people from before they had children. Not only do they blame others, they also act like hedgehogs. They can be annoyed by someone's unintentional words and speak in a venomous way. Like Wang Ying, they feel that the whole world has let them down.

Although Wang Ying was not suffering from pregnancy depression, the drastic changes in her life were probably a blow to her.

The more I think about it, the more I feel that Wang Ying might be suffering from depression, or at least something similar to depression or other psychological problems related to it.

Xu Wen felt a little scared. He had really upset the person. What if he committed suicide?

Without waiting for Wang Ying to speak, Xu Wen softened his voice again: "Instead of complaining, I think you should try to get the life you imagine through your own efforts?"

Wang Ying burst into tears: "How can I work hard? You all look down on me! You all say I'm a bad woman! You won't let me go to college! You won't let me get a divorce!"

Xu asked: "..."

Xu Wen moved the fruit plate back, put a few pieces of fruit into his mouth with a homemade fruit fork, and waited for Wang Ying to cry without saying a word.

Normally, when Wang Ying started crying, everyone would get annoyed and either try to persuade her or scold her.

Even Zhao Gang is no exception.

There are not many people like Xu Wen who say nothing and just let Wang Ying vent.

Wang Ying cried, and the child in her arms cried too. Xu Wen looked at Wang Ying, who was crying so hard, and then looked at the seven or eight-month-old child in her arms. He took the child from her arms, stood up, and turned around to comfort him.

Seeing the child staring at Wang Ying and crying, Xu Wen said softly: "Don't be afraid! Mom is just too sad and needs to vent. She will be fine after crying for a while and she won't abandon you."

The child in her arms didn't know whether he understood or was tired of crying. He looked at Xu Wen, then looked at Wang Ying who was crying with her head buried on the table, and actually stopped crying.

It was probably because I cried so hard just now that I couldn't stop and kept sobbing.

Xu Wen curled the corner of his mouth slightly, took out a banana that was not refrigerated and was at room temperature, peeled it and handed it to the child.

Can a seven or eight-month-old baby eat bananas? Xu Wen was still a little unsure.

I closed my eyes and asked the magic mirror: "Magic mirror, magic mirror, can a seven or eight month old baby eat bananas?"

The magic mirror did not answer but asked: "Isn't your child three or four years old?"

"What do you care about me? Just tell me whether you will answer or not?"

"Oh! Sure. But don't eat too much."

Xu Wen snorted in his heart with disdain: In all the novels I’ve read, there has never been a cheat code as useless as yours!

Nothing!

Magic Mirror: “…”

Xu Wen took a clean mat and placed it on the ground, put the child on the mat, and found two Dongsheng's toys for him.

The mattress is made by her, it is quite thick. She uses it occasionally when doing yoga.

Dongsheng didn't have many toys, after all, the conditions were there. Basically, they were the wooden toys made for him by Lu Yuanzheng and Mu Cang, as well as some small gadgets given to him by other officers and soldiers.

This little baby is not old enough to have toys yet, so he is very happy and chattering all the time.

After sitting for a while, unwilling to be trapped on the mattress, he lay back, then rolled over, turned into a prone position, and then arched his back and tried to crawl forward.

But, I don’t know if it’s because the months are not long enough or what, the cricket pupa didn’t move very far anyway.

After about half an hour, Wang Ying's crying finally subsided.

Xu Wen moved back to the stool and sat sideways, so that he could look at both the child and Wang Ying.

Wang Ying raised her head and looked at her with tears in her eyes.

Xu asked her: "How hard have you worked? What have you done to make everyone like you? Is it because you schemed against their comrades? Or is it because you are lazy and like to eat? Even if you want to go to college now, you are thinking about what it will be like if you get into college? So how much have you paid for how to get into college?

Of course, you may say that I didn't give you the review materials. But, Wang Ying, you have to understand one thing, I don't owe you anything, I am willing to help you because of Zhao Gang's face, and I am not willing to give you because of my duty. We are not familiar with each other, so I have no obligation to help you, understand?

If I were you, I would ask the people on the supply ship to help me buy it. Please note that it is a request, not an order from a superior. No one owes you, and no one should help you! "

"I..." Wang Ying subconsciously wanted to refute, but when he opened his mouth he didn't know what to say.

She managed to escape from the farm and was taken advantage of by Zhao Gang.

She married Zhao Gang so that she could live in the family building and not have to work. Zhao Gang was a comrade-in-arms of these officers and soldiers, and he really had no reason to like her.

She received a monthly allowance of 30 yuan from Zhao Gang, but she never supported his parents and spent almost no money on food and drink. She used Zhao Gang's allowance to buy clothes and cosmetics, but Zhao Gang never said a bad word about her.

She wants to get into college, be assigned to work in a government agency and eat government food, and then find a man who also eats government food before she wants a divorce.

But how could she get into university? Wang Ying felt that no one wanted her to take the exam, so she didn’t study on her own.

Xu Wen was right, she didn't like her current life, but she didn't do anything about it.

However, Wang Ying still felt a little aggrieved: "What's the point of working hard? Everyone is against me going to college. Zhao Gang will not divorce me."

When Xu Wen saw that Wang Ying's tone was not as intense as before, he knew that he had heard her and thought that there was still some hope.

"Who said that hard work is useless? Let's not talk about the distant past, just look at this island. You should remember what it was like when you first landed on the island, right? It was just a deserted island. It was those officers and soldiers who cleared out such an open space and set up tents, so that we had a temporary place to stay.

Now they are building houses in the hinterland of the mountain, and you can see houses rising from the ground one after another. Isn't this the result of hard work?

Have the vegetables planted by the kitchen staff grown big? Have the sheep given birth to lambs? Are these efforts?

Are these efforts in vain? Have our lives not changed?

The same goes for you.

No matter what your reasons are for marrying Captain Zhao, after all, no one is holding a knife to your neck. It is your own choice. As a wife, you only want to enjoy your rights and not fulfill your obligations. What qualifications do you have to blame others for not liking you?

And if Captain Zhao had been mean to you, that would have been fine. As far as I know, he was especially good to you and the children. He knew you didn't want to care about those people on the island, so he quickly packed his lunch and went back to his tent after work, letting you eat first while he took care of the children. I also saw him wash your clothes more than once.

Ask yourself, how can a man like Sergeant Zhao, who can carry heavy loads on the battlefield and cook and take care of children at home, not be worthy of you?

Yes, he is indeed just a soldier now, his allowance is not high, and he may not be as educated as the young and talented people who eat public rations in your ideal. But squad leader Zhao has won two third-class merits. He is so down-to-earth and capable, and it will not be difficult for him to be promoted to officer if he works hard for a few more years. What? The officers of the army are not officers anymore? They all eat public rations, so what's the difference between soldiers?

In my opinion, Captain Zhao's chances of being promoted are much greater than your chances of getting into college.

According to your thinking, when Captain Zhao proposes to marry you, shouldn't he divorce you first and then marry a young and beautiful woman?"

"I..." Wang Ying was speechless again, and after a while he managed to say, "Zhao Gang is not that kind of person."

Xu Wen snorted coldly: "So just because he's honest and easy to bully, you should be able to bully, oppress and exploit him to death?"

Wang Ying lowered her head and held her clothes with her hands. "It's not like I don't know that he's good to me. Sometimes I feel sorry after quarreling with him. But he always listens to me and tolerates me, so I gradually feel that I am always right."

Zhao Gang, who never disobeyed her, refused to let her go to college.

The angrier she got.

Xu Wen pointed at the child who was having fun on the mat, "He is the one who should feel the most wronged. Wang Ying, you are not a child anymore! You can't always live in your childhood, and don't always feel that the whole world has let you down. Even if you didn't come to the countryside to work in the production team and are still in the city, can you guarantee that you will be admitted to university smoothly? Can you guarantee that you will marry the prince charming of your dreams?

Even if the prince marries you, he still has a mother. Is it that easy to be a phoenix that has flown to the tree? Can you ensure that there will be no conflicts between the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law after marriage, and that you can live the life of a wife of a wealthy family instead of serving the whole family like a servant and buying a pair of shoes at the discretion of your in-laws?

Then you won't have to give birth to children and raise them?"

Wang Ying bit her lip and her expression changed several times.

"There are still two months left before the college entrance examination. If you are not convinced, you can give it a try."

Wang Ying shook his head, "Zhao Gang won't let me go."

"I can help you with that. I have only one condition."