Gu Qinghuan officially entered into a busy study and work, and the two children also began their study life. Because of the special treatment Gu Qinghuan had prepared in advance, the two of them basically had no problems and were able to keep up with the progress and handle it with ease.
In fact, it was a little early for Beibei to go to the first grade. She was only four years old.
But she didn't want to be separated from her brother, and she could keep up with her studies, so Gu Qinghuan let her go. The most important thing was that the child felt comfortable.
During this time, Lin Xiaomeng pretended to remind her casually that if she read more books and prepared herself, she might have a chance to wait for the college entrance examination.
Gu Qinghuan also took advantage of the donkey slope and pretended to listen to her reminder. He would read books whenever he had time every day, which also brought a relatively positive influence to the two children.
They all like reading books and newspapers. If there are no pinyin characters, they will ask Gu Qinghuan to help them read. They have great enthusiasm for learning.
Lin Xiaomeng is now a mathematics teacher for grades one and two. There are three classes in grade one and two classes in grade two. She is teaching several classes and is quite busy.
Fortunately, I don’t have to be a class teacher. After class, I have my own time and can occasionally look after these little guys.
She found that Gu Qinghuan was really good at educating children. There was no need for her to urge them or beat or scold them. The two children were very active in their studies.
Unlike her son Dacheng, who seems to study for her, he always makes excuses and his study progress cannot even keep up with Dabao, it's so embarrassing.
She originally thought that the two children studied hard because they were afraid of Gu Qinghuan. After all, she was a stepmother and could never be as caring as the biological mother.
As the saying goes, a child will cry three times for no reason when he sees his mother.
Every time, her son Dacheng starts to act like a mommy before she even opens her mouth, which makes her lose her temper.
But from observation, contrary to what she thought, these two children really like reading and studying from the bottom of their hearts, and she didn't do it deliberately to show off to others.
When Gu Qinghuan is not happy, they still go their own way and have their own rhythm.
Gu Qinghuan's role is more like a guide. He only needs to assign tasks and the children can complete them well.
And to be honest, these two children are really talented in studying and have strong comprehension.
It was obvious that Dabao had finished the first-level courses, and now ordinary questions could not stump him.
Lin Xiaomeng was so jealous that she asked Gu Qinghuan: "How did you raise these two children? I am so jealous."
As someone who had experienced this, she knew the importance of studying, so she also hoped that her son could study well.
However, when it comes to learning, the more anxious parents are, the worse they tend to do. They are prone to overcorrection and even make their children hate learning.
Her Dacheng has shown signs of being like this now. He always says one thing to her face and another behind her back. He has begun to disobey her in secret, which gives Lin Xiaomeng a headache.
Gu Qinghuan only told her one thing: "It's useless to be anxious. What you need to do is to guide your child to like reading.
Simply put, it is to awaken the child's inner drive.
If you want people to build a boat, don't hire them to gather wood. Don't give orders or assign tasks. Instead, inspire them to yearn for the sea.
In fact, there are very few children who are born with a natural love of learning. The root cause is that the intrinsic motivation of those children has been fully stimulated.
Children with intrinsic motivation are interested in knowledge, learning, and solving problems. They will think proactively, arrange their learning tasks consciously, and gain a sense of satisfaction and accomplishment from learning.
Children who lack intrinsic motivation are like an old ox pulling a broken cart. They only move forward when their parents and teachers urge them or whip them. They are passive in their learning and thinking.
"I have to admit that what you said makes sense. Our Dacheng is now like that broken car. I have to use all my strength to move it a little, but I have tried my best to guide him. I can only say that every child is different!
I make a study plan for him every day, take time out to study with him, and sometimes give him some simple rewards and punishments to motivate him to study hard.
I have tried all kinds of methods, but for some reason, they have had little effect, which has made me extremely anxious now."
Especially when she saw the two children of Gu Qinghuan's family, who could study well on their own without much discipline, she was really envious.
Gu Qinghuan shook his head.
"Nagging is not good. You are worrying too much. You are taking on things that the children should manage themselves. You are more anxious and worried than the children themselves.
You take control of things that he should have arranged himself, and the child is like a mindless "robot".
If he can only mechanically follow instructions and do what you ask him to do, after a long time, will he still have enthusiasm for learning?
Inappropriate rewards and punishments will also destroy children's interest. Psychological research shows that expected rewards will destroy children's love and interest in the thing itself.
If you want to cultivate a child who is self-motivated and able to manage learning, the key is to stimulate his interest in learning and arouse his sense of achievement and satisfaction in acquiring knowledge, solving problems, and making progress. "
"What you say makes sense, but how do I do it specifically?"
Lin Xiaomeng was completely convinced by Gu Qinghuan at this moment. She spoke to the heart of her heart. In fact, Lin Xiaomeng herself knew that some things were not worth it, but she still couldn't help but get anxious.
Every parent wants their sons to be successful and their daughters to be outstanding.
“First, don’t be a supervisor.
Let him be responsible for his own affairs. For example, if he forgets to do his homework this time and gets a reprimand from the teacher, he will think of a way to copy it next time to avoid forgetting.
Second, establish rules and cultivate habits.
Establish corresponding rules from the beginning of school, such as doing homework before playing, checking homework carefully after finishing it, packing up the schoolbag before going to bed every night, etc. Good habits will benefit you throughout your life.
Remember, it is strictly forbidden to accompany your children to do homework. Learn to focus on the big picture and let go of the details, grasp the main direction, and the key is to cultivate habits.
Third, set appropriate goals.
Appropriate goals will give children more motivation to work hard. The joy of achieving the goal will give children a sense of accomplishment and self-confidence, further encouraging them to work hard and constantly surpass themselves.
Fourth, know how to leave blank space.
Don't arrange too much study tasks for him. If he is given extra homework after finishing his homework, he will be exhausted both physically and mentally in the long run.
He would think that after he finishes this, there will be a lot of other things waiting for him, and he can't play any more, so he might as well just drag it out, which easily leads to bad habits of procrastination and passivity.
Always leave some free time for your children.”
Lin Xiaomeng took out a notebook and wrote down everything she said.
"Thank you, Qinghuan. I have to remember this. I will definitely ask you for advice when I teach my children in the future. You are so young and you don't even have children. How can you be better at educating children than me who has children?"