"Long'er" is my first story, and I didn't expect it to be successful. I'm really happy that so many people like it.
Actually, this article represents my advice and thoughts to many girls in real life.
Because I am a woman myself, I only describe the best aspects.
But novels will always differ from reality.
The first thing I want to talk about is about appearance and body shape.
I saw someone comment on a line from my novel:
"Women are born to love beauty."
I should have removed the word "woman" from that sentence!
Humans are born loving beauty.
I've seen several classmates say that the author is wrong, that beauty is this or that, and that this is letting male aesthetics on the internet control us.
What I want to say is:
Beauty, no doubt, the word beauty has always been a positive one.
What's wrong is your definition of beauty.
Nobody wants to say, "I want to be ugly, and live a slovenly life without ever showering," right?
Some people think beauty is about being fair-skinned, thin, and young, with things like an A4 waist and the idea that a beautiful woman weighs less than 100 pounds, and so on.
But some people think being chubby is attractive, some people think having a bronze complexion is attractive, and some people think being strong is attractive.
These are all my own choices, not others' choices, not others' definitions of beauty.
You can do whatever you want.
Whatever you think looks good, we'll strive for it without harming our own bodies.
It's that simple. Don't be too anxious. Everyone is the same.
Let's talk about the second one~
What I saw most often in the article was the issue of love.
First of all, I think there's nothing wrong with being in a relationship, and there's nothing wrong with having a couple. If you like a relationship without a couple, then just watch a relationship without a couple, that's fine too.
But I ask you all not to be afraid of talking about relationships, or to get restless just by hearing the words "dating".
What I want to talk to you about today is...
Being in love is a mix of joy and pain.
How could there not be friction and conflict when souls collide?
Not all relationships are smooth sailing, and not all women become "plain porridge sisters" when they fall in love.
What we need now is to face this problem squarely: in a relationship, the other half is not good enough, for example, on a moral level or in terms of behavior, there are problems or flaws.
Then break up. Don't try to change someone. If he/she wants to change, he/she will change on their own.
It's not time to break up yet. Try dating a few more people; it's never a bad thing. Really, go out and see more people. Don't hold onto the idea that sleeping together means it's for life. Of course, if you value it a lot, that's fine too.
Thirdly, I just want to say three words: female lead.
Many people say that your stories have a lot of couples.
I have a few questions. Can't a female lead have a love story?
People like Er Ya and Ru Yi are more like our classmates and friends. We get together to chat, gossip, and talk about how they got together. I feel really happy about that.
And does a strong female lead always have to be decisive, ruthless, and treat men as playthings?
Why is it that nowadays, novels often evoke negative reactions when characters are involved in romantic relationships?
Because subconsciously everyone felt that this woman would become a pampered wife.
And what is the young wife like?
Love-struck?
What's the point of being in a relationship if you're not passionate about it?
I think what a true "love-obsessed" person is is someone who knows their partner is a scumbag, yet still stays with them and manipulates themselves to perfection. That's what a "love-obsessed" person is.
I think a normal relationship is one where everyone is really into each other. The only rational thing to do is to maintain your own life skills, earn money, prioritize your career and family, and that's enough.
Instead of the female lead sweetly saying to the male lead:
"I'll cook for you when I get back tonight~"
Then they said, "Wow, the female lead is love-struck, such a sweet little wife..."
This is just a little playful thing between couples.
And what exactly does the term "leading lady" mean?
The following represents only my own opinion:
I think the term "leading lady" applies to a wide range of people.
But it is not defined.
It's not that the term "female lead" specifically refers to women working in very powerful companies, or female generals like Huo Xiaolong who take up arms on the battlefield.
Are they the leading ladies?
yes.
But they aren't the only leading ladies.
I believe every girl can be the leading lady of her own life.
Stay-at-home moms are...
The auntie sweeping the street is...
The same goes for the young women working in the factory.
etc……
They are already doing things that allow them to realize their own value.
I've always felt that the term "strong female lead" refers to a soul—an independent soul with a survival skill.
Who cares how much I earn, as long as I can support myself, that's fine.
Don't be fooled by the fact that the women in my story all have their own things to do; let's talk about the men, specifically Lan Tingche.
He's definitely love-struck, the kind of guy who gets really obsessed.
You can just give up the throne like that, right?
But he simply felt that spending his life by Long'er's side was what he had been pursuing all his life.
I have another question for everyone: if Huo Xiaolong and Lan Tingche have a bad ending, will he end up being abandoned and homeless with his child?
Anyone who has finished reading the story knows he doesn't know how.
Yes, he loves embroidery and crying, but he's not just good at embroidery and crying.
One of the bloggers I follow is named Zhang Cailing. You may have seen her; she has two adorable children, and she posted a video a few days ago.
My older sister didn't do very well at the sports meet, and she was very disappointed.
Her younger brother comforted her, saying, "But you're the fastest on that track."
Yes, we should just be the fastest on our own track.
It's good if today is a little better than yesterday, and it's also good if it's the same. It's okay if you feel disappointed, things will get better the day after tomorrow and the day after that, really, my darlings.
I really like a documentary called "Fortune Telling".
Tang Xiaoyan, who was in the documentary, later married the director. When I watched the documentary, I thought, how could this woman have such a vigorous vitality? This vitality is so strong that it comes right to your face.
So later, I felt it was only natural that she defied fate and changed her destiny.
This kind of woman deserves to succeed; even if she doesn't, she'll still live a good life.
Okay, that's all.
I've been so tired lately; September has been the hardest month of my life. I've been busy with live streaming every day, and also updating two books. I'm so grateful for everyone's support. Qilin is waiting for you all! ~
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