After hearing this, Yang Haiyan disagreed: "Madam, women can manage marriages, but they cannot deal with concubines and mistresses. If a marriage can only last long if women control men, then such a marriage is not happy."
Madam Lian, who was skilled in ancient thinking, naturally did not understand what Yang Haiyan meant: "Manage marriages? The principal wife does not deal with concubines and mistresses? Madam, what do you mean by that?"
Yang Haiyan smiled and said: "Manage marriages means that after marriage, two people living together need to tolerate, care for, and understand each other. If a woman loves the man, she will think about him. Take me and the general for example. I asked Doctor Wang to prepare a medicinal bath for the general because I care about him and I hope he can be healthy and always with me. I brought Si Ya and Shou Cheng here because I know he cares about his family and I have extra time, so I am willing to spend time with him when he is busy. Help him educate his younger siblings.
This is my contribution, which is also my management.
But after my contribution, after my hard work, if this man's reward is to take my things for granted, then I will not be hard anymore. Of course, I am willing to be hard because you are worth it. He is a rare man who respects women. He is not like other men who have blind self-esteem. He is also not like other men who think that women should listen to men.
He will ask me when he encounters something he doesn't understand. He knows what I like and what I want, and he will give it to me within his ability. Although what he gives is not expensive, It's not rare. But in my heart, a man who can give you what he can afford is the most precious. It's more precious than a rich man who spends hundreds or even thousands of taels of silver to buy me something.
So marriage requires two people to take care of each other, not just one-sided giving.
This is management.
Similarly, if one day he has some concubines or mistresses, as long as it happens once, then our marriage will come to an end. I don't care if my man had other women before me, because at that time, I hadn't appeared yet. , I can't be angry with him for his past, nor can I care about his past. But at the beginning, if he had another woman, it would be a betrayal to me. I will take away everything I have given, and from then on, he is a stranger to me.
Even if he dies in front of me, I will not shed a tear.
What about disciplining concubines and mistresses, that is even more ridiculous. This is a man's woman, do I still need to take care of her? Isn't it good for me to break up with him and find someone younger? Why spend time disciplining his woman? "
These words of Yang Haiyan were earth-shattering to Nanny Lian. She had never heard such words before. When women were in the palace, they were taught the three obediences and four virtues. When they got married, they were taught to respect their husbands. Even the most noble woman, when she became the queen, still regarded her husband as the sky. But today, the wife said that if a man has a concubine and a mistress, it is better for the two to separate and the woman can find a younger one.
It sounds like these words overturned the idea that Madam Lian had always held, but if
you think about it carefully... Yang Haiyan saw that Madam Lian was in deep thought, and couldn't help but joked: "Madam, think about it. There are not many good men in this world, but as long as you are a woman with money, you can find such men even if you are in your forties or fifties. What do you think?"
Madam Lian hurriedly said: "Oh, my wife, don't tell the general about this. If the general knows..."
Yang Haiyan said: "Even if I say it in front of him, I dare to say it. If he treats me badly and dares to find a younger man, will I still worry about not finding a better man than him?" Madam Lian:
"Pah, pah, pah, Madam, you are really bold." But if you think about it carefully, it makes sense. If a woman has the ability, why should she be angry with a man? Isn't it good to find a young, good-looking, and good-looking man? Nanny Lian couldn't take it anymore. Her thoughts were influenced by the wife.
Yang Haiyan looked at her nervous look and laughed so hard that her stomach couldn't stop: "Don't worry, Nanny, I'm just talking. Your general treats me well, and I'm very satisfied with him. I can't wait to like such a good man."
The two chatted in the house, and Qin Fang was stunned when he heard it outside.
Even if he had never thought about finding a concubine or a mistress, he was scared to death when he heard what his wife said. He was not scared by her amazing words, but worried that she might find a young man with a good figure at any time.
Qin Fang couldn't stand it just thinking about it. If one day, they broke up, she would have a man who would replace him, live with her, and do the intimate things they had done before. Thinking of this, Qin Fang felt sore. He wanted to catch that man and beat him up.
No, he couldn't let Yanyan have such an opportunity. No, he couldn't let Yanyan even think about it, so he thought about it. Has he been approached by other women along the way? Qin Fang has a good memory. He feels that he has kept a very safe distance from other women. Even that time, there were several women who wanted to get close to him when he brought them to Yunxiang County for settlement. He avoided them and kept his distance.
Thinking about it now, he was so scared that he broke into a cold sweat. Fortunately, he didn't let the women get close to him at that time, otherwise he would suffer today. Whether he suffers or others suffer, of course it is others who suffer. Thinking of this, Qin Fang immediately had an idea. When settling the women from the bandit den, he had to place them in the village farthest from the county town, so that they would not come looking for him.
Qin Fang felt very guilty about this idea. He didn't owe them anything. Saving them and bringing them here was already the most righteous thing he could do. Whoever wanted to ruin his reputation or his marriage would be trying to kill him. Whoever wanted his life, he would kill. It was fair.
Yang Haiyan didn't know that Qin Fang was walking on a path of no return, treating women as tigers.
Qin Fang turned around and left, so as not to let his wife know that she had heard these words.
The dishes in the hall had been laid out. When Yang Haiyan and Nanny Lian came over, Qin Fang was already sitting upright. Seeing Yang Haiyan coming in, he quickly stood up: "Yanyan, are you tired? Let me help you." He was as attentive as a little Qinzi.
Yang Haiyan was not such a greasy person. She was not the kind of person who would say "I'm so tired from what you did, give me a hug" or something like that. She glanced at Qin Fang and said: "Not tired. But you have been worried for a month or so. Now that the barbarians have finally arrived in Yunxiang County, you can have a good rest. You should eat well."
Yang Haiyan really cared about him, but to Qin Fang, it was not the case at all. It sounded like she was reminding him of what happened on the road. So, he was more attentive: "I'm not tired, you also came all the way from the border, you are more tired. Come, Yanyan, I'll serve you some soup."
Yang Haiyan sat down and saw him start serving soup. She also picked up a piece of meat for Qin Fang: "Husband, eat meat. The chickens we bought are very tender, and the tender chicken is especially delicious when braised in brown sauce. Try it."
Qin Fang put down the soup bowl and ate the chicken Yang Haiyan picked up: "It's delicious, Yanyan, yours is especially delicious." Sweet words are free when a man is extremely nervous, uneasy, or even guilty. Although Qin Fang felt that he did not do anything wrong, he was the information.
Yang Haiyan thought Qin Fang had mastered a new skill and learned to say sweet words, and was very satisfied. Some words seem too sweet and greasy to others. But as the person concerned, she was happy to be treated like this by her husband. How could a couple feel greasy? After
dinner, the couple walked for half an hour to digest the food, and Yang Haiyan went to take a bath and went to bed after the bath. When Qin Fang came back to the room after taking a second bath, he saw his wife sitting at the head of the bed reading a book. He took off his underwear and walked back and forth in front of Yang Haiyan. After walking back and forth twice, seeing that Yang Haiyan didn't respond, Qin Fang hummed: "Yanyan..."
Yang Haiyan raised her head: "What's wrong?" Seeing that he was shirtless, with black underwear across his waist, it must be said that this man's figure was like a model, which was indeed good. There was not a trace of fat on his body, especially at this moment, the way he was flirting with his figure was a bit coquettish.
Qin Fang looked at her sparkling eyes and felt that his plan was right. Yanyan liked his body. In Qin Fang's eyes, liking his figure and liking his body were the same.
Qin Fang was very satisfied with Yang Haiyan's performance, but he hid his pride and deliberately asked with a silly and honest look: "Yan Yan, compared to when I was at the border, have I lost weight? Look, the meat here is smaller." As he said that, he pinched his abdominal muscles.
Yang Haiyan looked carefully and answered seriously: "No, the muscles will not be smaller, but your face is much thinner." If muscles are so easy to lose weight, there are still leg-slimming injections in modern society? You know, many modern women like to wear high heels, and that's how they get chicken meat in their calves. Even if they don't wear high heels, there are many people with well-developed calf muscles. They all suffer from the fact that the muscles in their calves can't be reduced.
If you can reduce your muscles in a month of hard work like Qin Fang, it is estimated that leg-slimming injections will be out of business, and women will all laugh like crazy.
Qin Fang felt bitter when he heard Yang Haiyan's serious evaluation. He didn't ask her to comment on his muscles, but to look at them.
But since his wife said so, what else can he do?
"Really? That's my illusion. When I put on clothes, I felt that they were looser than before, and I thought I lost weight." Qin Fang found a reason bitterly, but asked casually, "Then is it better for my face to be this thin now? Or is it better before?"
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