Chapter 258 Mutual Education

Chen Huilan watched Yan Zhendong for a long time, and saw that he was sleeping more and more, and finally changed his position and didn't even snore.

Hey, this guy!

Panpan and Hou Wei were happier than Tiantian when they saw that Tiantian was so successful in treating outsiders for the first time. They took the initiative to say to Chen Huilan: "Auntie Chen, let Uncle Yan live in our room, it's okay."

Chen Huilan still felt embarrassed.

Lin Shu took her to her room to chat, "It's okay, let the children do whatever they want."

Lin Shu has always been like this. If the children don't want to, she won't force them. If the children are willing, she won't stop them as long as they don't harm others. The

main point of raising children is to let nature take its course.

Chen Huilan chatted with Lin Shu for a long time, and her words were full of love for Tiantian and Panpan. She asked Lin Shu and Lu Shaotang how they raised their children.

Lu Shaotang told the truth, "I didn't contribute anything to the children's education."

He left home for a mission after getting married, and the children didn't come back until they were five years old. At that time, they had grown up to be very sensible and studious.

If there is a good education, it must be their mother and grandma.

Lin Shu didn't take credit for it, but only said that her parents-in-law had a good education, and the elders in the family taught by example.

She smiled and said, "The saying that a harmonious family brings prosperity is true. My parents-in-law are good at educating their children. My eldest and second uncles have been working at home and never care about anything. If the brothers are harmonious, the children will be more sensible by learning from them."

Lin Shu also found that her parents-in-law did not have any special education for their children. Most of the time, they just

let things take their own course. However, they would consciously or unconsciously cultivate the friendship between brothers and sisters. For example, when the eldest brother Lu was young, he took care of his younger brother. Although he was lazy and cunning, and would ask his younger brother to do more work, he was not always asking for it. He was sincere to his younger brother, so the second brother Lu was also willing to be with him and never cared about being asked to do work by the eldest brother.

Lu Shaotang went through life and death outside, earning high wages and giving them to his family. He never asked how his wages were spent, whether his elder and second brothers took advantage of him, and his elder and second brothers never cared that they had to help raise nephews and nieces when he was not at home working.

The elder and second brothers both tacitly acknowledged that the children belonged to the family, to the old Lu family, not just their own small family. Cousins ​​lived under the same roof and were taught by their grandparents.

They never taught their children how to snatch food and drink and suppress other children, or they never taught their children extra.

The second brother Lu would intervene when his daughter was bullied by the second sister-in-law, but he didn't care about anything else.

Children are deeply influenced by adults. If parents are calculating and comparing with each other, and instigating their children to compare with other children, the atmosphere in the family will naturally not be good.

If adults do not have those intrigues, even if children are jealous by nature, they will develop true feelings over time.

Lin Shu had no experience in educating children in her previous life, and she did not have much experience after traveling through time. Instead, she learned a lot of principles of getting along with others from her parents-in-law and children.

Chen Huilan sighed as she chatted, "We are so familiar with each other that I am not afraid of your laughter. There are so many children in our family. There is a lot of noise every day, either brothers fighting or sisters quarreling. Obviously, it's not a big deal, but a picture book, a bite of food, a hair rope, etc. can cause a big quarrel, which makes me angry every day."

She is still engaged in women's work, and she is also troubled when encountering children's problems.

Besides, dealing with conflicts outside all day is annoying enough. When she goes home to have some peace and quiet, the children quarrel all day long. She and Lao Yan are really troubled.

Other wives complain about their husbands or parents-in-law all day long. There is no conflict between her family, and there is no conflict between the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, and there is no conflict between the husband and wife. But the quarrel of this child is also annoying.

"You said they are not young anymore, but they are still like enemies every day. Don't expect them to be as close as Panpan and Tiantian. It's good for them not to be enemies when they grow up."

Lin Shu has also heard about the conflicts between the children in Chen Huilan's family. Yang Shumin and Zhang Ya, the mother-in-law, often come to her to chat when they are free. They will talk about the gossip of the family compound. Some are just watching the excitement and some are concerned and sigh.

Chen Huilan is considered one of her own, so she is naturally more concerned and says that the children are ignorant.

There are many children in the family. Even if parents want to treat them equally, they still don't think they are fair in the eyes of their children. They always feel that their parents are partial to him/her.

If they want to be like the Lu family, parents don't care too much about their children and let them get along with each other. The eldest brother Lu takes care of the second brother Lu, and the relationship between the two brothers is good. If parents interfere too much, the brothers will easily become incompatible.

"Director Lu, Lin Shu, how do your brothers and sisters get along? Tell me about it, I want to learn from you."

Lu Shaotang was speechless. He had no good experience in getting along with brothers and educating children. He only had his own temperament and did things according to his own principles. He would make friends with people he liked and alienate them if he didn't like them. He never changed anyone... except his wife.

He was afraid that Chen Huilan would be embarrassed, so he went out to see the children under the pretext of checking the dormitories.

Chen Huilan opened up and talked to Lin Shu, and her eyes turned red when she was moved.

"I am also very anxious. I am doing the job of mediating conflicts, but I just can't handle a few children."

Lin Shu: "Sister Chen, this is not just your problem. What does Director Yan mean?"

In fact, the children in Chen Huilan's family are very normal outside. Even if they make trouble on their own when they return home, they are not considered naughty children.

Chen Huilan sniffed and felt that she was a little hypocritical. She wiped her tears with a handkerchief, "He is more troubled than me. Look, he can't sleep all night." She

said that it was an occupational disease and that the writing work was brain-consuming, but in fact, she was worried every day.

At first, I was afraid that people would laugh at me for not being able to educate my children. The children were making trouble every day. Later, I was angry that the children did not understand my parents' feelings. I tried my best to

treat them equally, but why were they still not satisfied? Later, I was worried that my brothers and sisters would not get along with each other. When they grow up, they will not be

able to help each other, but will become like enemies. What should I do? In this era where strength lies in numbers and relationships are needed for everything, if your brothers and sisters are not harmonious and do not help each other, how can you go far in the future?

You will suffer a loss, right?

Seeing that Chen Huilan's eyes were red and she looked embarrassed, Lin Shu felt sympathetic.

"Sister Chen, I don't know how to educate children either, but I have learned a little from observing my parents-in-law."

Chen Huilan said hurriedly: "Tell me about it?"

Lin Shu: "Parents don't need to treat everything equally. You can be partial, but you must find a point for each child that you are partial to, and praise that point. For example, your eldest child..."

She was inspired.

Chen Huilan: "The eldest is diligent, has a job in mind, and can help me with housework, but he doesn't know how to give in to his younger brothers and sisters, and he is also overbearing and always wants to eat more and take more."

Lin Shu: "He has a job in mind! What a great advantage!"

Chen Huilan: "But our second child is the smartest, and he is also good at talking. He is more capable and open-minded than his eldest brother."

She and Yan Zhendong have four children in total, the eldest son, the second son, the third daughter, and the youngest daughter.

The eldest son is diligent, has a job in mind, and knows how to help his parents with housework.

The second son is smart and clever, but he always picks on his eldest brother because of his intelligence. Chen Huilan always asks him to go out to buy things and send things because he can do things.

The third daughter is stubborn, picky and competitive. The youngest daughter is small and coquettish, so the couple favors her more.

As a result, the third daughter is jealous of the youngest daughter and bullies her. The couple favors the youngest daughter more, and the third daughter bullies her more.

The eldest son is angry that his younger brother squeezes him out, his parents bypass him and let his younger brother do things, and his younger brother always provokes him and quarrels all day long.

In short, the couple is very worried. They once wanted to let the two children live with their grandparents, but in the end, all four children were unhappy.

"I really did it for their own good and for the sake of this family, but now they all blame us as parents for being partial."

Don't say that Lao Yan was so worried that she couldn't sleep. If she didn't have the skills she had practiced for many years, she would have collapsed long ago.

Why are these children so troublesome?

When they grow up, they will all go to the countryside and be obedient!

Lin Shu looked at the fatigue in Chen Huilan's eyes and felt helpless. Educating children is really a long and arduous task, and each child has his or her own personality. It is not possible to copy other people's successful cases.

In fact, Chen Huilan and her husband neither favor boys over girls nor are they partial to one child. They plan for each child, but the child is still young and immature. Especially

when he is in his teens, that is the stage when his parents, teachers, brothers and sisters are all idiots, no one understands him, and the whole world is against him.

When parents are partial to the younger ones, the younger ones will be arrogant. When they are partial to the ones with strong abilities, other people will not accept it, because the ability is determined by the parents themselves. No matter how strong his ability is, he can't be a polygonal warrior. There must be some places where he is not as good as others. How can other children be convinced?

In reality, among the millions of parents and children, those who ignore their older brothers and sisters and favor the youngest brother or sister will most likely be the least filial when they grow up, thinking that it is natural for others to be nice to them, and they will complain about everything if they are not satisfied.

Parents favoring the one they think is capable will only encourage their arrogance, thinking that their success and all their achievements are the result of their own efforts, and they will easily become conceited.

In the end, they will not see normal parents and brothers and sisters, but only "you are all idiots".

"I've seen a family like this. The parents favor the eldest child. No matter if he is a sister or a brother, they tell him to lead his younger siblings to do things. They give him good things and let him share them with his younger siblings."

Chen Huilan hesitated and said, "Isn't this also partiality? If he only lets his younger siblings do the work and doesn't share the good things with them, won't the younger siblings resent him even more?"

Lin Shu: "But this couple gives the benefits to the eldest child and also gives him the responsibilities. When the younger siblings make mistakes, they scold him, and if they make serious mistakes, they beat him."

As the first child, no matter if he is a brother or a sister, the eldest child has special meaning to the family, and he also has a natural blood pressure on his younger siblings.

If you use this older brother or sister well, let him take charge of the younger siblings, and parents will be a hundred times less worried.

This is the case with the eldest brother and the eldest sister-in-law

of Lu. Let's not talk about Lu Xiuxiu, just talk about Lu Ping and Lu An. To be frank, Lu An was educated by Lu Ping, and their parents didn't contribute much. Even the eldest brother and the second brother Lu, the second brother Lu listens to the eldest brother so much because the eldest brother convinces him. Although

the eldest brother Lu ordered him to do the work, if the eldest brother Lu really treated him badly, bullied him and plotted against him, wouldn't he always be good to the eldest brother?

Sometimes the younger brother knows how good the elder brother is to the younger brother.

In addition, the brothers of the Ding family, although they are influenced by Ding Jiachang and their values ​​are not quite the same as those of the old Lu family, the three brothers get along well. It is still the eldest brother Ding Guohua who cares about the younger brothers and restrains them, and the two younger brothers also listen to him.

If parents take the lead in challenging the eldest child's authority, then naturally the younger siblings will not respect them.

If they are just friends, they can go their separate ways if they don't get along. Blood ties cannot be severed. Even if brothers and sisters don't get along and hate each other, they still have to bump into each other every day.

Over time, won't resentment accumulate?

In an environment without right and wrong, if brothers and sisters are just living together and treat each other like enemies, it is probably because the parents' approach is biased.

After hearing what Lin Shu said, Chen Huilan was thoughtful, "Is it really a problem between me and Lao Yan?"

Lin Shu smiled and said, "Maybe the child is still young. You should show the patience and attitude you have when working with others. Have a frank talk with your eldest brother, tell him what's in your heart, and show him your attitude. I think he will understand you."

Chen Huilan: "Just talk to the eldest brother?"

Lin Shu: "Yes, negotiating and reasoning with the child on an equal footing is also a kind of care and attention, which the eldest brother deserves."

If you respect the eldest brother, he will gradually reflect on himself and think about the relationship between himself and his younger brother, and naturally make efforts and changes.

The key is that you have to hold it in place, and don't rush to suppress the eldest brother and support the second brother if the eldest brother shows that he is not as good as the second brother.

This method may not be a permanent solution, but people always have to be consistent.

Since the previous method didn't work and made the four children jump up and down, why not try another method?

Chen Huilan listened to it.

When Lu Shaotang came back, he saw Lin Shu sending Chen Huilan out.

Chen Huilan looked thoughtful, as if her soul had floated out of her body, as if she was still immersed in some world.

Lin Shu went to see the children and asked them to go to bed early. She asked Panpan and Hou Wei to be responsible for explaining to Yan Zhendong when the time came, and she and Lu Shaotang went back to the room to sleep.

Lu Shaotang made the quilt, watched Lin Shu wash her face and apply vanishing cream there, and then leaned on the bed to wait for the benefit.

Autumn is very dry, and the skin will be tight if you don't apply vanishing cream after washing your face.

Lin Shu would also apply it to Lu Shaotang.

Lu Shaotang used to have a very rough face. He never put oil on his face after washing it in winter. Lin Shu felt sorry for him and took the initiative to wipe his face.

At first he resisted, thinking that it was hypocritical for old men to wipe their faces.

However, he found that if his face was rough, his wife would not let him get close to her. If he wiped his face and it was not so rough, his wife would take the initiative to touch it and compliment him on how good his touch was.

Well, now he is happy to let his wife wipe his face.

After wiping his face, Lin Shu sat on the bed to cut her nails and chatted with Lu Shaotang about Chen Huilan's family.

Lu Shaotang took the nail clippers and put her slender and white feet in his big hands to cut her nails.

Hearing that Yan Zhendong was suffering from insomnia because he didn't educate his children well, Lu Shaotang was a little bit unable to accept it. His and Chen Yanming's work was actually very detached from ordinary life and not so down-to-earth.

When everyone was engaged in the class struggle between enemies and us, all their minds were on life and death. How could they have the energy to quietly experience the small family conflicts of you eating more meat and I drinking less soup?

In their opinion, what is there to fight for in such things?

Suddenly falling from the lofty and tense life-and-death matters to the fireworks, that is really a big gap.

He hooked his wife into his arms, why should he worry about the trivial matters of other people's education of their children?

It is more important to continue their life as husband and wife.

He thinks that sex is the top priority to maintain a harmonious and intimate relationship between husband and wife, and must be taken seriously, otherwise what if his wife is dissatisfied and no longer likes him?

He knows how to seduce his wife, whispering, "Take a shower."

He has a good metabolism and exceptionally good skin. Lin Shu likes to touch him and enjoy the delicate and high-end touch.

Lin Shu hesitated for a moment, and her ears to her neck slowly turned red, and then she decisively hooked him.

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Yan Zhendong felt that he hadn't slept so soundly for a long time.

It must have been at least two years, right?

Ever since those naughty kids grew up and became more and more naughty, his head has become bigger and bigger.

He didn't remember when he fell asleep last night. Although he had dreams after falling asleep, they were not nightmares about being chased or taking exams all day, but wonderful dreams. He

slept very refreshed this time!

He stretched and slowly opened his eyes. He was instantly startled by the hairy heads in front of him, "Oh, I'm scared to death!"

Panpan, Tiantian and Hou Wei, the three children, surrounded Yan Zhendong's head and stared at him and laughed.

"Uncle Yan, how is it?"

Yan Zhendong remembered everything. He came to the little girl for an acupuncture last night, and after soaking his feet... he had no memory!

If he hadn't been sure that he was asleep and didn't feel any discomfort, he would have suspected that he was drugged!

He sat up and looked at Tiantian in surprise, "Little Doctor Lu, you are a genius!"

Tiantian smiled with her big eyes, clear and bright, but extremely humble, "I just learned from grandpa, and I can't treat patients myself yet."

Yan Zhendong held her little hand and shook it, "No, you are a genius, I will find the most experienced old doctor to be your teacher! You will definitely surpass me!"

Originally, Qizhou had a Provincial Medical College and a Provincial College of Traditional Chinese Medicine, but starting in 1967, the school's teaching order was severely damaged. Later, it has been suspended. Teachers were sent to the countryside and students went to the countryside. In 1970, the Medical College and the College of Traditional Chinese Medicine merged and moved out of Qizhou. In the second half of last year, the Department of Traditional Chinese Medicine and the Department of Pharmacy moved back to Qizhou to start classes.

However, nowadays, adhering to the principle of "facing the countryside, facing the industry and mining, facing the workers and farmers", the schools are full of workers, farmers and soldiers.

If it is an ordinary technical college, it can also train qualified students by recruiting workers, farmers and soldiers with low cultural level, but it is not so easy to train medical students, especially Chinese medicine, to become doctors who can treat patients independently.

Therefore, the graduates trained by medical schools in various places are basically nurses and ordinary doctors who can give injections and prescribe medicines and deal with common diseases, but they cannot go further.

Excellent young surgeons like Zhan Qiuran were all young talents who were admitted to medical universities at an early age and studied seriously with famous teachers. Although they were also affected by the movement later, they continued to learn from their teachers. In addition, she was diligent and studious, smart and quick-witted, so she was able to achieve success and become a young surgeon. However,

most medical students were still deeply affected. Either the teachers were demoted, or the students went to the countryside, or the medical schools were closed. Anyway, due to various reasons, there was a serious shortage of talents in major hospitals.

Especially traditional Chinese medicine hospitals and traditional Chinese medicine clinics.

However, some doctors were rehabilitated and returned to their posts. Although traditional Chinese medicine hospitals have not yet reopened, most hospitals have opened traditional Chinese medicine clinics.

Yan Zhendong knew that there were three most famous old doctors in the provincial capital before, but unfortunately one of them had passed away, another was too old and frail and suffered so much that he could not see patients and accept disciples, and only the youngest old doctor was still in the May 7th Cadre School in the neighboring province for labor reform.

He thought he could go through some documents to rehabilitate this old doctor, and then let Tiantian become his disciple.

It will definitely work!

If your own children are not promising, you will be particularly jealous of other people's promising children.

He was excited about the idea, and immediately got up and put on his coat, and then thanked Tiantian seriously, praising her for being a good candidate for studying medicine.

Tiantian's face was flushed by his praise, and she was very embarrassed.

She really didn't have a genius, she just took out the very common things that her grandfather talked about and tried them out, such as scraping and moxibustion, which everyone can do. There is nothing special about acupuncture. As long as you identify the acupuncture points, apply the needle with moderate pressure, and stick and twist the needle as required, everyone can do it if you learn it.

She doesn't think there's anything special about herself, because Panpan learned it together and he can do it too.

Yan Zhendong asked where their parents were.

Panpan: "My father and brothers have gone for morning exercises, and we are going too. My mother is sleeping."

They are accustomed to Lin Shu sleeping in, and they don't think there is anything wrong with her mother still sleeping when everyone is up.

Yan Zhendong: "..."

No wonder Lin Shu refuses to go to work!

He didn't bother Lin Shu and led them down.

Tiantian was happy because she treated a wild patient.

Hou Ying from next door had also gotten up and was making her hair, waiting for Sister Lin to come over so they could have breakfast together.

Yan Zhendong followed the children to the training ground and found Lu Shaotang who was training fighting skills with several young police officers.

They were all wearing trousers and vests, and the muscles on their shoulders, backs and arms were tense. Lu Shaotang in particular made Yan Zhendong feel like a ferocious beast, fierce and cold, exuding a strong sense of aggression and oppression, with those bulging muscles It seems to contain explosive power, which makes people fascinated.

After Lu Shaotang threw two policemen into the sand pit, Yan Zhendong ran up impatiently and patted Lu Shaotang on the back, "Old Lu!"

Although Lu Shaotang was much younger than him, who made Lu Shaotang the director? He is a steady person. In an environment where everyone assumes that officials are old, those who are close to him like to call him Lao Lu.

Anyway, Lu Shaotang doesn't mind this.

Before his hand even touched Lu Shaotang's back, he felt a wave of steam rising from his palm. Suddenly, Lu Shaotang turned around, and his big hands clamped his shoulders like iron clamps, and the next moment it seemed that he was going to throw him out.

Yan Zhendong was so scared that he immediately shouted, "Old Lu, spare my life!"

Lu Shaotang thought it was another trainer who attacked him. He grabbed Yan Zhendong's shoulder with his big hand and realized something was wrong. This was just a weakling, not a professional police officer, so he relaxed his grip and did not Yan Zhendong was really thrown out.

Yan Zhendong breathed a sigh of relief, feeling that he had saved his life, and signaled that he wanted to talk to Lu Shaotang.

Lu Shaotang pulled a towel from the horizontal bar next to him, wiped it casually, and then put on his clothes.

He thought Yan Zhendong wanted him to help train the children. Many people who couldn't take care of their children wanted to throw them to the army to take care of them. His parents also liked him because he was too greedy and not so obedient. He was sent to the army with his uncle because of a fight.

The children of Yan Zhendong's family were not naughty outside, they just acted arrogantly. They were obviously idle, and they were trained to the point of stumbling every day, so they didn't have so many thoughts.

Lu Shaotang had no education . Although he has little experience as a child, he has rich experience in leading troops.

No matter how powerful a troublemaker is, he will have to behave himself

once he joins the army. No matter how independent a child is, he will have to learn to cooperate once he joins the army. He thought that if Yan Zhendong

's children followed Lu Ping's training, they would be obedient within three months, and the brothers and sisters would be very united and would no longer have the time and energy to fight with each other.

Let them come here for training. If you really want to take care of them, don't feel bad. Just train them for a few months and they will learn to obey orders."

Yan Zhendong: "Huh?"

Who do you want to let come here?

He suddenly realized that Lu Shaotang wanted to take him How many children are being trained together?

Oh my god, the Lu Bureau is a living Bodhisattva, a great benefactor!

Who in this institution has not envied Panpan and Tiantian, who are so smart, cute, beautiful and sensible?

Besides, which child in this academy has not envied Lu Shaotang, a young, promising, brave, and handsome father?

His children are no exception. Every time they quarrel, they say that he is a bad father. Look at him. Director Lu!

Humph, you want to use Director Lu to step on your father, right? Today, I will hand you over to Director Lu!

No one should cry!

Yan Zhendong happily shook hands with Lu Shaotang, "Good man! I will go back and tell you now. , I will talk to you about something serious after work."

After saying that, he ran home, wanting to announce to the kids that they would start training with the Army Bureau tomorrow.

Whoever cries is a puppy!

Anyone who can't hold on, who can't beat Lu Ping, Lu An, Hou Bo, or even Pan Pan, is a loser!