Chen Xingling laughed helplessly: "You are indeed not a fool. You have worked hard to make money. But you didn't do it right. It's not your fault."
Zhao Xiaoxing had said a few words before. She only comforted her by saying that she would help her parents' home if she could. After all, they were her parents who gave birth to her and she would never ignore them.
But she never expected that she misjudged the situation and even dragged down her own family into conflicts!
This is obviously not a small problem.
Zhao Xiaoxing was confused and asked stutteringly, "Why... not right?"
Chen Xingling lowered his voice: "If you want to take care of your parents' family, you have to do it in the right way, otherwise you will be caught in the middle and you will be in a dilemma. If one day you don't send money home, your family will blame you. If you take care of your parents' family and ignore your own family, Ayi will also blame you. Then you will be in a dilemma and you will be neither a good person nor a good person."
Zhao Xiaoxing cried out of grievance: "He...he wasn't like this before. But now he starts to blame me."
"You can't blame him." Chen Xingling whispered, "He just started working when he was a kid, and he has just started his own family. He has also had a lot of difficulties."
Gu Yi was originally a carefree young boy, raised by his brother at home. He would go to the countryside on his own, pick birds in the mountains, and catch fish in the river, living a carefree and carefree life.
Since I got married, I have to work hard from nine to five every day to earn money no matter how tired I am. I have to hand over my salary every month, and also pay rent and food - there is no ease at all.
If you don't manage a household, you don't know how difficult it is to be the head of the household.
In the past, he relied on his elder brother to support the family, but now he has to support his own family and it is difficult to cope with it. He feels too disappointed and under a lot of pressure.
Zhao Xiaoxing sobbed softly: "I followed him and never thought that I could live such a good life. He was so angry just now that I didn't know how to talk to him."
Seeing that she didn't seem to realize where she was wrong, Chen Xingling asked, "Since you got married, how many times has your family asked you for money? Have you counted them carefully? How much money would it be if you calculated it? Have you calculated it?"
She alone knew of it—at least three times.
She was not the kind of person who liked gossiping or prying into other people's privacy. Zhao Xiaoxing said all of it on her own initiative. She roughly remembered that it was three times.
The actual number must be more than “three times”, probably at least five or six times.
Zhao Xiaoxing thought about it vaguely and whispered, "I remember that I sent three letters when my mother was sick, and two or three times before that. Later, I had to send telegrams and write letters two more times."
Chen Xingling said: "Based on what you said, it must be at least eight times. In other words, since you got married, you have to send money to your parents' home almost once a month."
"...Oh." Zhao Xiaoxing replied: "Almost."
Chen Xingling smiled helplessly, "At first you had a low salary, and you had to pay rent and daily expenses. Then you were unemployed for more than a month, and only when you helped me at the construction site could you get more money. That's right, you didn't steal the money, but neither did Ayi. You make money, he makes money, and you two are so thrifty, eating pickled vegetables and steamed buns without any meat, but in the end you were almost kicked out by the landlord - if you keep going like this, big problems will arise sooner or later!"
Both of them had income and lived frugally, but they couldn't save any money - this lifestyle was wrong!
"Yeah." Zhao Xiaoxing choked up: "He just... scolded me, and now he still refuses to talk to me."
Chen Xingling couldn't help but ask: "Then do you know why he scolded you? Why didn't he want to talk to you?"
"...I know." Zhao Xiaoxing whispered: "He blamed me for secretly transferring the money. He blamed me for not bargaining with the landlord and just agreeing to it without thinking."
"Neither is right." Chen Xingling smiled bitterly: "After talking for so long, you still haven't found the key to the problem."
Zhao Xiaoxing looked at her blankly, not understanding what was going on.
Chen Xingling had no choice but to put aside the work at hand and explained: "In the past, you discussed everything with Ayi, and he even actively supported you to send money to your parents' home, but you secretly sent money without telling him, and he would think that you lost trust and dependence on him. This is one thing. Second, your mother-in-law fell ill, and you sent money to help with her treatment. This is what you should do as a child. Ayi also supports it, right?"
"Yeah." Zhao Xiaoxing nodded vigorously: "Whether before or after marriage, he... has always been very good to my family."
Chen Xingling asked back, "Then why are you angry this time? If there is not enough food to survive the winter, that's fine. But your sister-in-law asked to buy more new quilts for the children. How can you agree to that? You and Ayi can't even afford quilts for yourselves, and you still have to take care of your nephew from your mother's family who doesn't have a new quilt? With this mentality, how much pressure do you have? Husband and wife are one body, and Ayi's pressure is as great as yours."
Zhao Xiaoxing was extremely embarrassed and rubbed the back of her hands helplessly.
"Sister-in-law, I-I am embarrassed. This is the first time my sister-in-law has asked me for permission. If I don't agree, she will be unhappy."
Chen Xingling knew that she was honest and simple, and also relatively young, so she could be easily bullied by others.
"Whether it's helping relatives or friends, we have to do it within our means. You can't even make ends meet, so you have to take care of yourself. If you and Ayi can't make ends meet, and your small family can't support you, then what's the point? Silly girl, you have to distinguish the priorities when doing things!"
Zhao Xiaoxing listened carefully, not quite understanding what was said.
Chen Xingling lowered his voice, "First, you must live your own life well. Only when you live your own life well, can you have extra money and ability to take care of other people. Second, you must see clearly the purpose of your mother's family asking for money. If it's for building a house or a road, or buying this or that, you don't have to give it, and just say you don't have any money. If it's life-saving money for medical treatment or buying food, then you should send some according to your ability."
"Do what you can?" Zhao Xiaoxing asked confusedly, "So how much is it?"
Chen Xingling was stumped by this question and thought about it carefully.
"Let me give you an example. For example, if an elder in your family is sick and you have only a hundred dollars, you can only send fifty dollars. You have to pay for the rent, three meals a day, and save some for future use."
Zhao Xiaoxing seemed to understand, but not quite, as if she remembered something important.
"Sister-in-law, we...we were planning to save money to buy a house here, but now most of the time has passed and we can't save any money at all."
"That's not right." Chen Xingling said, "You two both make money, and you don't have a child to raise yet, so you can't save money. Otherwise, when you get pregnant, your family won't make money from taking care of the baby, and the income will be reduced by half, and you still have to raise the child - what will you do then?"
Zhao Xiaoxing's face turned pale immediately, and she hesitated, "That won't do. It's ok for us to suffer, but we can't let our children suffer with us in the future."
"So, you have to control it yourself." Chen Xingling reminded: "When to give money and when not to give. You must save some money every month for future use. A family is always struggling to make ends meet, and men will inevitably feel a lot of pressure. When the pressure is high, it is easy for temper to rise. In fact, he is still very good to you, and he is not deliberately quarreling with you."
Zhao Xiaoxing looked out the window when she heard that, and secretly felt sorry for Gu Yi.
"I...I really didn't think too much about it. I thought he was just angry that I remitted the money carelessly and blamed me for not stopping the landlord."
Chen Xingling whispered: "Not in essence, you have to face the reality. Besides, the landlord can't let him raise the rent--"
"But he said that if we don't pay two more dollars, he won't let us live here anymore." Zhao Xiaoxing interrupted her anxiously and explained, "He was very harsh and even asked us to move out right away."
Chen Xingling said calmly: "I agreed with them on the price before, and also agreed that the price cannot be increased within two days. I wrote the rental contract, and I also wrote this sentence into it. Don't worry, they can't increase the price randomly, otherwise we can sue them."
"Sue?" Zhao Xiaoxing stared in surprise and asked, "What? Where can I sue?"
Chen Xingling shook his head: "Don't worry, I'll show you the rental agreement. It's written in black and white so they won't dare to mess around. If they dare to cheat, we'll sue them later."
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