Chapter 116: Learning from Guo Jing
In different eras, there are different names for relationships between men and women. Nowadays, the more elegant way of saying it is "dating", and the more direct way of saying it is "dating".
谈, a first-level Chinese character, is pronounced as 谈 (tán), and its original meaning refers to speaking or discussing.
By extension, it can be understood as dialogue, chat, and heart-to-heart talk. From this point of view, the meaning of talking to friends is very clear. Through dialogue and chat, you can get to know the other person's character, and then decide whether to establish a formal romantic relationship.
In the 1990s, a new word became popular in Guangdong – dating.
Shipping is well developed at the mouth of the Pearl River. Usually a large ship carries cargo and tows a small boat, with the large ship towing the small one in the main channel. When approaching the shore, the large ship has a deep draft and is difficult to dock, so the small boat unloads the cargo and goes ashore, relying on each other back and forth.
Later, this image was used to illustrate the mutual care and inseparable relationship between men and women in love. At this time, the status of both parties in the relationship between men and women is still equal.
However, I don’t know when it started, talking and dating turned into chasing. Once this word came out, the meaning became different.
What does it mean to chase? You run in front and I follow behind to catch up with you.
What is pursuit? It is a diligent pursuit. When applied to relationships between men and women, it means taking positive actions to capture the heart of the opposite sex. Usually, it is the men who pursue the women.
In this way, it seems that men are placed in a relatively low position, and women become more reserved. Before the relationship is confirmed, they will look at your performance and sincerity. After the relationship is confirmed, they will often send gifts to maintain the relationship. After marriage, they will also ask for a house and a betrothal gift.
But why? Why should I chase you? If you want to run away, just run away. Why should I cling to you? Are you the only girl in the world? Without you, the human race will be destroyed? Many people don't understand this truth. They just think that this is how men and women get along. It was not until many years later that a teacher named Tong revealed the truth: women are not chased, but attracted.
This can also be seen in the animal world. Male peacocks will not chase female peacocks. If they show off their beautiful tail feathers, the female peacocks will come up to them. Male monkeys will not chase female monkeys. If you become the monkey king, all the monkeys in the mountain will be yours.
So as long as you have something that can attract girls, you will never lack girls. If not, either this attraction is not real, or you are not in the right place and have not found your own fish pond.
Gao Jialin has many attractive features, including talent, wealth, age, fame, and even good looks and figure. If he still wants to chase girls with such conditions, he can only be described in one word - cheap!
In the past, he ignored those girls who took the initiative to show their affection to him because he looked down on them. But now that he was a little interested in Chen Hong, he showed off his attractive points a little bit like a peacock spreading its tail, and the girl was really attracted to him.
So don’t believe in the saying that people are slow to warm up. The other person just doesn’t like you. Instead of continuing to pester them, you might as well change your target quickly. The more you try, the more you will eventually meet someone who likes you.
"Ding Dong~~" The doorbell broke the increasingly ambiguous atmosphere between the two people.
Chen Hong became nervous again, "Have your family members returned?"
"No, I'm usually the only one here. It should be the delivery man." Gao Jialin went over and opened the door.
Chen Hong followed curiously, only to see a waiter standing at the door holding a bicycle, "Mr. Gao, are the dishes you ordered ready? Or is it the same as before?"
"Yes, thank you for your hard work." Gao Jialin thanked him.
The waiter took the wooden box off the back of the bicycle and walked to the dining table. He took out various delicacies and began to serve the dishes. His hands and feet were very skillful and soon a table full of sumptuous dishes was set.
"Mr. Gao, please have your meal. I won't disturb you. I'll come and get it in two hours." After saying that, he walked out quickly and closed the door for Gao Jialin.
"Come and try the Western food at the Red House. Comrade Wu Hao once said, 'If you want to eat Western food, there's a Red House in Shanghai.'" Gao Jialin pulled out a chair and extended his hand to invite him.
It's my first time here, and I'm eating and drinking at the same time. Isn't that a bit bad? But they've already ordered the dishes, so wouldn't it be worse if I didn't eat? Chen Hong struggled for a while, but couldn't make up her mind to refuse, so she walked over and sat down, "Thank you, next weekend, if I have time, I'll treat you to a meal, but I can't afford such an expensive meal, so don't be disgusted when the time comes."
"Whether the food is delicious or not has nothing to do with how expensive it is. I know there is a snack bar nearby. The fried buns they make are very delicious. If you like it, I'll take you there next time and you pay after you finish eating." Gao Jialin agreed readily.
Don’t feel embarrassed to let girls spend money. Sometimes choosing to accept can bring you closer to them rather than refusing.
"We agreed that you are not allowed to give money when the time comes." Chen Hong was indeed very happy. If other boys asked her to treat them to a meal, she would definitely not be happy, but Gao Jialin was very happy.
When it was time to start eating, Chen Hong was embarrassed again. She didn't know how to use a knife and fork, and didn't know how to eat the dishes. Gao Jialin demonstrated it to her, and Chen Hong learned it quickly. It seemed that girls learn these things especially quickly.
"The name Red House was given by Mr. Mei Lanfang because the entire exterior wall of the restaurant was red. At that time, Shanghai people who came here to eat would simply say they were going to the Red House. Over time, the restaurant was simply renamed the Red House."
While eating, Gao Jialin introduced the history of the Red House and the characteristics of various dishes. Chen Hong listened with great interest, "This restaurant has great service and even delivers food to your door."
"Actually, they don't deliver. Ever since I wrote the book 'Spring Breeze in Meilong Town', the attitudes of the restaurants I go to serve are very good, especially the ones nearby. I mentioned to them that sometimes I don't want to go out for dinner while writing books at home, and they offered to deliver the food to my door. The Red House is not far from here, so I just called them and they delivered it."
This is another added benefit of writing food novels. Otherwise, even if Gao Jialin is willing to pay for the takeout, the food may not be delivered.
After eating, Chen Hong prepared to collect the dishes, "Let me wash them for you."
Gao Jialin stopped her and said, "No, that guy will come over to clean up in a while. He also helped to clean the table. He would not be happy if you cleaned up."
It was already late, so Gao Jialin didn't want to keep her any longer. He rode his bike to send her back to school, then turned and left. When he turned the first corner, Gao Jialin looked back and saw Chen Hong still standing at the school gate looking at him.
The impression left on her today should be deep enough. I guess she will remember this scene for a long time to come, right?
Hey, this scene seems a bit familiar? Who did this? Gao Jialin thought for a while and suddenly clapped his hands. Didn't Guo Jing do the same thing when he first met Huang Rong in Zhangjiakou? Guo Jing might be really honest, but this routine is really useful.
(End of this chapter)
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