Chapter 605: Don’t let others see your scars easily. Few people can heal wounds, but many people can rub salt into them.
I spoke carefully. She listened carefully. I said:
"You are an introvert. There are many reasons and explanations for why a person is an introvert.
One is the constitution theory, which says that you have a phlegmatic constitution, which is characterized by being rational and calm, reserved in character, and not good at adapting to changing circumstances.
One is the genetic theory, which states that one inherits the personality of one of the parents.
Another is the environmental theory, which suggests an unhealthy upbringing. For example, lacking parental love, or being bullied at school. Which category do you think you fall into?
She blurted out: "When I was studying, others bullied me."
I nodded and said, "Don't mind if I point out your death."
She looked at me steadily.
"You're not ugly, but you've always been so fat, haven't you?"
She nodded and said, "I look like my mother."
“It’s okay if you were fat when you were little, because you were chubby and people thought you were cute and would often tease you and hug you.
It doesn't matter if you gain weight after marriage. People will say you are plump and have a blessed face, and you will become a lady in the future.
It just so happened that you were fat in junior high and high school, so people bullied you."
"Why is that?"
"Because, when we usually talk about beautiful girls, we mean girls with good figures, and you grew horizontally in junior high school, and you grew out in high school.
With a round waist and strong legs, she looks like a married woman, which is in sharp contrast to her thin and slender figure.
Male classmates will make fun of you, and during this period, you begin to develop an inferiority complex. On the one hand, you feel inferior, and on the other hand, you hate those who make fun of you.
Of course, you will consider any female classmate who treats you well, even if it's just a little bit, as your close friends. So, you must have a few particularly good female classmates, and when you are together, you love to confide in them.
Back then, it wasn't a big deal. First, everyone was busy studying, and second, life was relatively simple. So, having close friends was normal. But things are different in the workplace.
There is competition in the workplace, and if you continue with the habits you had as a student, it will be almost impossible to find a close friend.
First, working together isn't a lifelong commitment. People focus on immediate competition, not long-term relationships. It's not that others are insincere, but rather that they don't want to be friends with people who work for them for a short period of time.
Only a very small number of people become friends, such as you and Yu Fang, because she is a straightforward person who dares to contradict her leaders, so she is a real and sincere person, and you become friends with her.
Second, workplace concern is a formality. It's superficial. If you mistake this courtesy for a gesture of goodwill, for sincerity, or for sharing your innermost feelings as a friend, you're bound to suffer.
She nodded and said, "Teacher Wan, you explained it very well."
"I have two words for you. In the workplace, don't let people see your scars easily. There aren't many people who can heal your wounds, but there are many who will rub salt into your wounds."
She sighed and said after a while, "No wonder Sister Fang admires you so much. Every word you said is true. Analyzing my psychology, every word you said is correct."
I said, “I have a suggestion for you.”
"you say."
“You are willing to tell your true feelings to others because you want to find friends. The reason you want to find friends is because you feel weak inside and need support.
You feel weak inside because you have low self-esteem. You have low self-esteem because you are fat. From now on, you will lose weight.
I touched her sore spot and she blushed
I said, "Although I don't like to say chicken soup for the soul, I still want to say a few words - even if the world is cold and indifferent, our hearts must be full of flowers and brocade. Do a good job and focus on losing weight.
You have beautiful facial features. Slim down your face and lose the fat on your body. Then you'll walk with style and I'll be the queen, radiating confidence."
She smiled bitterly and said, "I've tried many methods and taken many medicines. But..."
I shook my head. "Medication is useless. The most powerful medicine will just make your fat disappear, and then your skin will become wrinkled. It looks weird."
The only way to lose weight is to exercise, eat less and exercise more. This will convert fat into muscle. That way, you'll not only lose weight, but also become toned.
You are not married yet, so get in shape and find a good husband. The only thing is whether you can endure hardship.
"Teacher Wan, how did you know I wasn't married? With my figure, people would think I had a child."
I smiled and said, "Let me briefly introduce it. Most people can't tell whether someone is married or not. This is divided into three levels.
First, if you're a virgin, look at your eyebrows. Ninety percent of virgins have eyebrows, whether they've been pruned or not, and they're always soft and smooth against their skin. That's you, you're a virgin."
Her face flushed red.
I also know why she blushed. She wasn't happy, but ashamed. It proved that no man wanted to play that kind of game with her because he thought she was fat, or because she was fat, her image was not good, and she took chastity very seriously.
To avoid embarrassing her, I continued, "As for after marriage, the only thing you can tell is whether or not a woman has had children. You can tell if she has because her pelvic joints are looser. The area below the waist isn't tight. You can tell by how she walks."
That’s all I said. As for the few tricks my master taught me, I didn’t mention them, considering that she looks like a woman, but she is not married after all.
She was a little sad that I told her she was a virgin. She didn't say anything.
I said, "I've said everything I needed to say. I don't want to repeat myself. Go back and think carefully about it."
She stood up tactfully and asked, "Teacher Wan, how much is it?"
I waved my hand. "Talking about money hurts our feelings. If you're still like this after a year, I'll take your money."
She was amused by me.
I said, "Let's go. I don't lack money, I just lack confidence."
Her eyes widened, thinking I was speaking too quickly.
I said, "If you don't do what I say, it means my words are worthless. This has happened so many times that I have no confidence."
She said, "This is the first time I've met someone who's so good at talking. Please charge me a little."
"Come on, you're just hesitant. I'm as straightforward as Yu Fang."
After He Lin left, I looked at her back and remembered what my master taught me - many people have low self-esteem because of their physical defects.
Yes, so Koreans understood what the master said - the beauty industry is very developed.
I hope she can listen to me and go to the gym to be reborn.
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