Chapter 7: When does a child’s consciousness develop?
In the afternoon, I continued to talk about Feng Shui to Chun.
Chunlai asked, "Some people buy apartments in cities that are around 100 square meters, while others buy 200 to 300 square meters. Does this mean that if you have money, you have to live in a bigger apartment, and that bigger is more enjoyable?"
I shook my head: "According to Feng Shui, if a house is large but sparsely populated, even if you are rich, you will gradually become poor.
The house is small but there are many people living in it. This kind of crowded family will actually produce talented people.
So, the house should be of the right size.”
Chunlai's thoughts were a bit jumpy, and he asked again: "East, South, West, North, why do the Chinese call them Dong Yi, Nan Man, Xi Qiang, and Bei Di?"
I said, "The Chinese originally concentrated in the central region, commonly known as the Central Plains. Due to their limited knowledge at the time, their understanding of the people to the east came from the eastern sea. Ancient people fished by casting nets, using forks, and shooting with bows and arrows. Hence, they were called Dong Yi."
The word "Yi" contains the character "bow", which means bow and arrow.
As for the South, the people of the Central Plains considered it barbaric. Hence the term "Southern Barbarians." In fact, during the Northern Song Dynasty, the South was still uncivilized.
In the eyes of the people in the Central Plains, the south is a wild land where the people are very barbaric. The south is full of high mountains and steep cliffs, and people have to fight wild beasts every day to get food.
The word "Man" literally contains the character "虫" (insect), which means tiger. This refers to the current Yunnan, Guizhou, Sichuan, Jiangxi, Hunan, Guangdong, and Guangxi.
As for the Western Regions, they were called Qiang. The Central Plains people's understanding of the Western Regions was that they were a nomadic people who mainly herded sheep.
The word "Qiang" contains the character "羊" (sheep), which refers to present-day Ningxia, Gansu, Tibet, and other places.
The people of the Central Plains think of the north as a place with many wolves. As the song goes, "I am a wolf from the north."
The word "Di" contains the word "dog".
Of course, people from the Western Regions are also called Hu people. This is because the character "Hu" contains a "meat" radical. Remember, the moon radical on the right also refers to "meat" in ancient times, for example:
Yes, because there is meat. If a family cannot eat meat for several months, then they are a poor family.
Hu, the Hu people mainly eat meat.
A face is most beautiful when it has flesh on it.
Fat means having a lot of meat.
The names of east, south, west and north all have somewhat derogatory connotations. Nowadays, we mostly use Yi, Man, Hu (Qiang) and Di to refer to foreigners."
I taught Chunlai this knowledge. While Chunlai was digesting it, someone came in.
When I looked, I found that it was indeed Mr. Zhang’s neighbor.
He walked in and introduced himself. His surname was Zeng, and his name was Zeng Xianping.
I looked at him, smiled, and said, "Name them strictly according to the class order."
He smiled too.
Chunlai poured everyone a cup of tea and asked, "Master, what is the class order?"
"The class order is a branch of a certain surname. In order to distinguish the elders from the young, a class order song was composed. For example, Mr. Zeng's name is Zeng Xianping, so he belongs to the Xian generation.
The surname Zeng is a nationally unified rank, a feat spearheaded by Zeng Guofan. There are only a few surnames that have a nationally unified rank. They are: Kong, Meng, Zeng, and Yan.
"Oh——" Chunlai nodded.
I asked, "What's the matter, Mr. Zeng?"
Zeng Xianping said, "Mr. Wan, I want to talk to you alone."
I nodded and led him into the inner private room.
Chunlai helped us fill up the tea and brought in two cups.
We sat across from each other, and Zeng Xianping lowered his voice and said, "I've discovered that my daughter isn't normal. She's only four years old, and she has to sleep with the quilt tucked between her legs every night. And I've observed her, and she gets very excited when she does. Is she possessed by some evil spirit?"
I laughed out loud and then said, "Do you think you're the only one with sexual needs and four-year-olds don't have them?"
"A four-year-old child has sexual needs?" His eyes widened.
I nodded carefully and said, "Sex is innate. Children's sexual awareness begins to emerge between the ages of three and four.
The girl accidentally rubs against other objects, such as quilts, table legs, etc. The sexual consciousness switch is turned on.
At this time, she is very vague about sex, so you don't need to make a fuss or scold her. During this period, you should distract her and attract her with things like candy.
Zeng Xianping finally let out a long sigh.
I continued, "At this time, adults should be especially careful. Don't make kissing gestures in front of her.
Especially at night, be careful with your camera. Don’t just focus on your own comfort and forget that there are other eyes watching you.
Zeng Xianping was surprised and said, "Sometimes I really don't pay attention, and my wife can't help but scream. I've woken her up several times."
I nodded. "Make her a crib. When you're doing it, carry her to sleep in the crib."
He said, “Yes, I didn’t pay enough attention.”
I said, "Children's gender awareness begins to develop around the age of six. For example, if you go into the bathroom and don't close the door, thinking your daughter is only five or six, she'll definitely walk in front of you to see."
Zeng Xianping slapped his thigh and said, "That's right, my sister also has a girl. She wants me to look after her when she goes to buy groceries.
I was worried about her climbing onto the balcony when I went to the bathroom, so I asked her to stand at the bathroom door. But when I peed, she came to watch.
I said, "You should be careful next time. Some women bring their five- or six-year-old sons to the women's bathhouse. Other women don't allow it."
The child's parents also say, "He's so young, he doesn't know shit." In fact, five or six years old is the sexual awakening period for children. We must not be careless."
Zeng Xianping said, "It doesn't matter if you're thirteen or fourteen, right?"
I said, "At twelve or thirteen, mothers should have heart-to-heart talks with their children and share some straightforward information about sex. It's not that it's okay, but it's absolutely necessary to share what needs to be shared. This is the only way to provide positive guidance."
Zeng Xianping said, "Teacher Wan, now I understand what you've said. Thank you for your advice. Since you're friends with my neighbor across the street, please come visit me when you visit him. My husband and I are both hospitable."
I said, "Okay. I'll definitely visit your home if I get a chance."
Our conversation ended. Zeng Xianping paid and left.
Chunlai asked, "Master, you said this man is a good neighbor. How do you know that?"
"Have you observed him?"
"As soon as he came in, I watched his every move."
I said, "What about his nose?"
"straight."
"Besides being straight, what other characteristics does it have?"
“Not high.”
"besides……"
Chunlai touched his forehead and recalled for a long time before hesitating: "The tip of the nose is rounder, isn't it?"
I nodded and said, "His nose is high, and he's a bit arrogant. Mr. Zeng's nose is straight, not too high, and has a round, full nose tip. He'd be the perfect partner at work. As neighbors, we'd be honest and live in harmony."
On the contrary, people with high noses are usually very self-centered. Only their opinions matter, and you have no say. Collaboration often leads to arguments.
Chunlai said, "Which is easier to learn, Feng Shui or physiognomy?"
I said, "Physiognomy: Those who are still and unchanging are extremely difficult to discern, but those who are alive and full of spirit can be recognized at a glance."
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