【Chatting Special】
When I read the comments, I found that everyone had a lot of thoughts and doubts about the plot, so I found some opinions and shared my own views.
Because everyone has different values, perspectives, tolerance and moral standards, the theme of "Chasing Wife to the Crematorium" is bound to be controversial.
My opinion only represents my personal opinion, not the correct answer, and I don't force you to agree with it. Please:
[Communicate in a friendly manner, seek common ground while reserving differences, and respect each other. You may comment on the characters and plot, but you cannot escalate the issue to the author or other readers with different opinions.]
&、My attributes
Answer: A fan of Shuqin CP.
Those who are against this marriage and those CP fans who don't like the crematorium atmosphere don't have to pay attention to me. You probably don't want to hear what I say.
&、Why is it called "Your hair is messy"?
Answer: Because when I was writing, I happened to see a passage: "If I love you, and you happen to love me too, when your hair is messy, I will comb it for you with a smile, and my hand will linger on your hair for a few more seconds. But, if I love you, and you happen not to love me, and your hair is messy, I will only gently tell you: 'Your hair is messy'".
It feels very suitable for Irie, who is unable to get the love she wants, so I used it.
&, Kotoko is smart and as pretty as a doll
A: The show doesn't have a female character for Kotoko. The pretty doll is actress Miku Honoka. The 2013 version of Kotoko isn't stupid, but she's not exactly smart either...
My understanding of Kotoko's character is: a cute and energetic girl with an average IQ.
&, the relationship between B piano and A piano
Answer: They are parts copied and split from each other's bodies, but they are not clones with the same body but different consciousness. There are overlapping parts in the souls of AB Qin. If I have to use a word to describe it, it would be "you are in me".
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Why is A-Jiang, who loves A-Qin, obsessed with B-Qin? Does A-Jiang consider B-Qin a substitute for A-Qin? Is A-Jiang obsessed with turning B-Qin into A-Qin? What does B-Qin look like in A-Jiang's eyes?
Answer: A Jiang didn't know that he was traveling through space. He thought he was traveling through time. He thought B Qin was A Qin from three years ago, and that A Qin from three years ago didn't love him. It was a bug caused by his traveling through time, so he worked hard to fix the bug.
&、A Jiang doesn’t love B Qin, isn’t she sad?
Answer: Not sad. She has feelings for Irie, but not love, so she doesn't need his love. After they started dating, she still treats Irie as a family member or close friend, and has no possessiveness towards him, but she herself doesn't realize it.
Besides, Bqin knew long ago that Ajiang didn't love her, but a fantasy, just like she also loved the fantasy named Sano.
&、Irie misses A-Kotoko in the same way that B-Koto misses Sano
Answer: Missing the man your girlfriend loved the most three years ago is different from missing another man she loved the most.
&, B Qin said that she accepted Irie because her family and friends supported her, so she was with Irie because of her family and friends. The supporting characters forced B Qin to let Irie benefit.
A: Supporting and pushing are two different things. The supporting character's stepping on the piano to praise Jiang and pushing his head will only push B Qin away. Without the supporting character's interference, B Qin would not have avoided Jiang in the first place, and the two of them would have been together long ago.
&, b Qin doesn’t like Irie’s personality and has never loved Irie at all?
Answer: I don’t like his personality, but he rarely goes crazy in the early stages of his career, and he has other advantages, so his merits outweigh his flaws.
B Qin never loved Irie, but she had feelings for him. She treated him as a brother, admired him, was grateful to him, and liked him (the love between family members).
&, B Qin doesn't like Irie, and doesn't understand why she wants to be with him
Answer: I was moved.
It’s similar to Aqin’s feelings for Ajin - there’s no possibility for me and the person I like, but you happen to love me very much and I don’t hate you, so let’s give it a try.
A Jiang is the top match Ajin, and under normal circumstances, he is still the top match Sano.
B-qin's affection for Irie was very high in the early stages. Although she would complain about him, she also often praised him. She felt that it was easy for her to fall in love with Irie.
When they confirmed their relationship, they both wanted to be together well.
&, A Jiang is a dog to B Qin, and a perfect boyfriend, so he can defeat Sano and get B Qin's love.
Answer: 1. Irie can't be a lapdog, and B-qin won't let him be a lapdog.
2. Based on Irie's background, it would be as difficult for him to be a perfect boyfriend as it would be for Kotoko to win a Nobel Prize.
3. What's the point of defeating Sano? In the end, B-qin didn't want Sano. Many people are born without the need for love.
&, B Qin was forced by Irie to take tennis lessons/choose the nursing major which she did not like
Answer: During the tennis class, Irie's original words were "I'll go wherever you want to go." The rest of the sentence was just B-qin's imagination. She didn't understand Irie and seldom guessed what he was thinking. Her speculations should not be taken as facts.
B-qin is a nurse. She doesn't like all professions, but as an adult, she needs a career. When she was confused, Irie suggested she try nursing. Later, B-qin wanted to give it a try, but Irie respected her choice. Where is the pressure? Since nursing cares about patients, is asking her to study hard considered pressure?
Irie has low emotional intelligence and sometimes fails to consider B-qin's feelings, so he deserves to be scolded, but the tennis lessons and career choices seem a bit unfair to him.
&, Irie brought great mental torture to Bqin
Answer: You really overestimated Irie and underestimated Bqin.
After the breakdown (after learning that Sano has a girlfriend), if she wants to be quiet, she releases a pigeon into Irie. If she doesn't want to accompany Irie to Kobe, she confronts him head-on. If she doesn't want to take Irie back to her hometown, she refuses to take him. If she wants to attend Professor xx's lecture, she will definitely go. If she doesn't want to care about Irie, she doesn't care. She doesn't even give Irie a reason to reject his proposal. She doesn't seem like a poor little girl who can be bullied.
If she could be forced, she would also face a lot of resistance in doing the above things, so how could she not compromise?
She was able to remain uncompromising, so how could she allow Irie to cause her great harm?
Readers may project their own anger onto B-qin, or regard her as the sad A-qin, but B-qin is different. She even recognizes and imitates Irie's indifference, and has no love, hatred or resentment towards him.
Until the end of the story, A Jiang is just an option that is "not so bad and not so desirable" to B Qin.
&, b piano passive
Answer: Bqin is proactive. Don’t mistake her tolerance for cowardice. Her kindness is sharp.
You can accommodate others in small matters, but you will definitely resist things that are unacceptable. There are many examples in the previous point, including breaking up with Irie.
In the early stage, B Qin wanted to understand Irie, but in the later stage, she no longer cared. She did not take the initiative to break up in order to have the best of both worlds, and she could afford to wait.
After Chapter 16, only Irie is left with internal friction, while B-qin's daily routine is busy with her career and playing with friends.
Although it is wrong for the supporting characters to interfere with the protagonist's feelings, their original intention was to hope that B Qin99 would be happy. If B Qin was really passive and willing to listen to the supporting characters, she would not have quarreled with Irie.
&, B Qin is unable to draw clear love from Irie, and has to face his mood swings.
Answer: B Qin just happened to have absorbed Irie's clear love, but she didn't understand his mood swings, so she was troubled.
If A Jiang Chun is a scumbag, why should B Qin care about his feelings? She can just dump him without any guilt.
&, Where does B Qin's pain come from?
Answer: It’s because of the supporting characters causing trouble, gossip, slander and pressure, it’s really annoying.
Because of the pain of counterattack, the process of progress is unhappy, so it is called hard work.
Due to the difficult adjustment, it is difficult to understand and get along with people in the river.
But the above are all okay and fall within the acceptable range.
The most painful thing is that it comes from self-moral judgment. Although Bqin has done bad things, she is undoubtedly a good person, so she feels guilty.
&, The supporting characters all stood on Irie's side, no one supported B-qin, no wonder Irie hurt B-qin unscrupulously, it was the people around him who fanned the flames
Answer: B-qin is Irie plus in the later period. Some of her words and deeds are a complete replica of Irie. Should she really be supported?
When the supporting character says she is wrong, does that mean he is supporting Irie?
At the end, Yuki also said that Irie was wrong. Does this mean that Yuki is on B-qin's side? Can we say that he condoned B-qin's harm to his brother?
The family members were even more wronged. After all, their friends were the verbal judges, but among the family members, except for Yuki and Kotoko's father at the end, no one stood on Irie's side 0 times.
&, Why does the supporting character always make trouble?
Answer: The supporting role is the atmosphere group.
Friends and relatives mean well but do bad things, but passersby are indeed full of malice, because it is human nature to like to match values and to pull others down.
&、Why is it said that Irie is difficult to get along with, and is it within the acceptable range of B Qin?
Answer: Because I don’t love you and have no expectations.
Irie has a sharp tongue, but he makes up for it quite well by being aloof and quiet.
Irie is flirting with a girl, helping his cousin instead of his girlfriend, B Qin wishes him 99.
Irie would explode in anger and scold B-qin, which was too much and she couldn't tolerate it. B-qin would fight back on the spot and win every time.
Irie's presence can also reduce the pain of B-qin's counterattack, and it's pretty good when she's not going crazy, so after a comprehensive evaluation, it's acceptable.
&、B Qin is a good person, how could she do something bad?
Answer: Because Bqin had no subjective malice.
In the early stage, it hurts Irie's heart because of what Irie said to A-qin, "I'm not good at getting along with you." B-qin is not good at getting along with Irie either, and always hurts him unintentionally. She doesn't want Irie to feel bad, so she tries to understand him, but fails.
Later on, Irie became more and more strange. Even though B-qin didn't understand, he could realize that Irie was suffering because of her. She felt guilty, but apart from escaping, she couldn't think of a more perfect solution.
Including beautifying Sano, these are all ways for Bqin to escape reality, reduce guilt, and protect herself, but hurting Irie is not her purpose.
&、I like B Qin, I don't think she is a scumbag
Answer: In the later period, B Qin's setting is Irie plus. Many of her ways of hurting Irie were learned from Irie, and he used them to hurt A Qin.
The purpose of my design is to make A Jiang and A Qin empathize with me, but I personally do not approve of this behavior.
I believe a healthy relationship requires mutual giving. The person who's reluctant to give is certainly clear-headed, but it's never right, and it also makes the other person who's giving one-way look like a clown. So, let's not be clowns, let's not be like Irie and B-Kon, okay? Okay.
&, b Qin is like the original Irie with full communication skills, which is terrifying
Answer: Because Irie taught me personally.
The ignorant Bqin was fine in the early stage, but he was led astray by Irie in the later stage, and Irie reaped the consequences of his own actions.
Putting aside love, Bqin is a little angel just like Aqin.
&, B-qin is completely different from A-qin. Irie is not good at A-qin, but is okay at B-qin. B-qin is really hard to evaluate.
A: B-qin is similar to A-qin. It's because she remembers Irie's kindness that she's affected by his pain. Do completely selfish scumbags care about the lives of others?
Irie treats B-qin okay, but there are also some areas where he isn't as good. B-qin doesn't care about Irie, but there are times when she cares about him. Don't ignore the hurt suffered by either party, and don't neglect the efforts of either party. You will find that neither of them is entirely to blame. Ultimately, both of them are immature.
And Aqin also has a cold side, but she won't use it on Irie.
&, B Qin didn't love A Jiang, but at least she gave him a name and companionship, so why should she feel guilty?
Answer: Because the person being abused is the annoying Jiang, some unreasonable opinions become strangely reasonable.
Including but not limited to:
1. A Jiang was tolerant, considerate and attentive on his own, but B Qin didn't need it. He was moved by himself and felt wronged, as if B Qin had let him down.
2. If B Qin doesn't love A Jiang, she doesn't need to treat him well. He deserves whatever he gets treated like.
3. Why is A Jiang angry at B Qin for being hurt? It's his fault that he can't get B Qin's love and is only worthy of being a licker.
Replace "bqin" in this viewpoint and the above sentences with "ajiang who has never loved aqin", "ajiang" with "aqin", and the supporting role with "Irie's mother". You will know how outrageous it is.
Kotoko Irie is not a complete scumbag, and would not have such thoughts. No matter how excessive a Jiang b Qin is, they will reflect on themselves.
&, The crematorium also tortured Kotoko, but not Irie. Irie was always bullying Kotoko and making her feel wronged.
Answer: Your point of abuse and my point of abuse seem to be different.
So I tried to completely swap the roles of B-qin and Irie.
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Bqin has the ability to love Aqin, and deeply loves Ajiang after traveling through time. Ajiang loves Aqin, and he also knows that it is a space travel, and Aqin and Bqin are two people, but he can't go back, so he is moved by Bqin and starts dating Bqin.
B-qin found out that Irie didn't love her, so she broke down and started to use cold violence. Irie took the initiative to coax her back, and the two of them were very sweet for a while.
B-qin found out that Irie loved A-qin, and she broke down and started to use cold violence. Her friends advised Irie to comfort her, but Irie was annoyed and didn't want to pay attention. She felt that B-qin was willful and could not compare to A-qin.
After that, the above issues continued to be argued over and over again, causing both of them pain.
B-qin is tired and wants to get married, but Irie refuses because he doesn't like B-qin who is always crazy.
Irie wants to break up, but doesn't want to be called a scumbag or blamed by his mother, so he uses cold violence against B-qin, hoping that she will take the initiative to be the bad guy.
B-qin is extremely crazy and is extremely cold and indifferent to Irie, speaking bad words to him. Keita has a conflict with Irie, but B-qin helps Keita and ignores Irie, and even has an ambiguous relationship with Keita.
Irie was overjoyed and discussed with Keita, saying, "I'll give Kotoko to you."
B Qin went completely crazy after finding out. Irie quarreled with her and ran away from home. He found a way to go back to time and space A, so he broke up with B Qin and traveled back to time and space A.
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Irie is not worthy of being swapped with Kotoko, he is not worthy of being equal to Kotoko, he deserves to be tortured by Kotoko, he is not worthy of being with Kotoko
Answer: I think they are a good match. I am a fan of CP.
So I say that those who are against this marriage don’t have to pay attention to me, there is no point in talking to me if we don’t agree.
&, B Qin and A Jiang started dating, but they knew they were not suitable for each other, so why didn't they break up? This made both of them unhappy.
Answer: B Qin doesn’t want to be a bad person, and she doesn’t have the ability to solve the problem perfectly.
A Jiang is a paranoid and damp male ghost.
Besides, they had been happy before. Usually things would go bad out of nowhere and get better again.
Because people feel bad about sunk costs, they always have a lucky mentality: What if? What if the future gets better?
&, Irie's family is very strange, making them torture each other for so many years
Answer: Chasing Wife at the Crematorium only focuses on describing conflicts. A conflict on a certain day can be written into a chapter or two, but a few months of harmony and warmth can be covered in two sentences.
We, with our God's perspective, know the hidden story behind the conflict and the protagonist's struggle, but the characters in the text do not know.
In the eyes of parents, young couples are great when they are getting along well, and conflicts are also a necessary part of getting along. Which couple doesn’t quarrel?
Moreover, both of them are adults with good judgment, and there are no issues of principle. It is not the parents' turn to break up the couple.
&, Irie's mother said that she knew B-qin and Irie were not suitable, but because Irie liked B-qin too much, she didn't break up the couple. It seems like her mother doesn't care about B-qin's feelings.
Answer: The mother doesn’t break up the couple because she doesn’t have a God’s perspective. The problems she sees are far less serious than what the readers see.
She intuitively sensed that the two children were not suitable, but she didn't know the reason.
When faced with a problem, most people first think about how to solve it. Readers who believe B-qin hates Irie will try to find a way out of this relationship, and so will her mother.
She also knew that Bqin didn't hate Irie, and she had seen many scenes of the two of them getting along harmoniously. In addition, her mother was an optimistic person, so she didn't realize the seriousness of the problem.
This is also how my mother got the bad habit of pressing her head.
&, About Irie's mother pressing her head
Answer: Pressing the child's head is the mother's shortcoming. It is not worth promoting that she means well but ends up doing something bad. However, there is no need to condemn her excessively. The mother is such a good person. Should we completely deny her love for her child just because of one or two shortcomings?
I always see people scolding Irie's mother for being self-righteous and not considering Kotoko's feelings.
Kotoko is grateful and tolerant. Her mother gave her the maternal love she lacked. Even if she no longer loves Irie, she will always love her mother. Wouldn't she be angry and sad when others insult her mother in her name? Those who insult others are the most self-righteous, aren't they?
&、I don't like Irie's mother
A: I don’t like this kind of talk.
Irie's mother is Irie's mother, and she doesn't owe Kotoko anything. She has shortcomings, but she has been good enough to Kotoko. The original fan works are all good and do not ask for anything in return, so why blame her anymore.
&, Irie's mother's character is too ideal. She is Irie's mother. She should only like Aqin who loves Zhishu deeply, and would not like Bqin who treats Zhishu indifferently.
Answer: I can’t define what kind of Kotoko the original mother loves, because A-Kotoko would not treat Irie indifferently.
But in the fan fiction world, I created an ideal mother.
The mother in world b loves Kotoko and Irie, it has nothing to do with each other, they just get along very well. The mother wants a daughter, and Kotoko is her ideal daughter. Even if Kotoko and Irie are separated, they will still keep in touch secretly.
After all, B-qin wasn't nice to Irie, but she was very nice to others...
&、B Qin is not good to Irie, it's Irie's fault
Answer: The cause and effect are reversed.
Irie acted like a troublemaker because Bqin was not nice to him.
Their relationship model is:
1. The two of them are fine
2. B Qin suddenly hurts Irie
3. Entering the river and breaking the defense and going crazy
4. B Qin coaxes / Irie coaxes herself
Two people 12341234123412... endlessly.
&, B Qin hurt Irie. Irie didn't have a mouth so he could only give her the cold shoulder. He deserved it.
Answer: He deserves it, but communication cannot solve the problems he cares about.
Can communication make Kotoko fall in love with him? Can it make Kotoko stop loving Sano? Can it turn B-qin into A-qin?
Problems that cannot be solved through communication will only end in breakup.
&、A How did Jiang change later? He was still the same dead face.
A: Because Jiang A has reproduced every infuriating scene from the original novel, so everyone thinks he has made no progress.
But his motive for doing evil is different from that in the original book. In essence, he was broken down after being severely hurt.
When B Qin didn't plunge into the middle of the river, I thought he performed well and was able to live happily with A Qin, and he did make efforts.
As to whether his good and bad can offset each other, it is the most difficult problem to solve in the crematorium. Everyone has his own criteria, and I respect everyone's ideas.
&、b琴／a江 is so unlucky, we have been entangled for so long
Answer: The crematorium for chasing wives is just a meeting for unlucky people.
B Qin and A Jiang gained a lot from each other after all, which has its pros and cons.
&, What did B Qin gain from A Jiang? How was A Jiang good to her? B Qin's condition was not much better than A Qin. Before she got rid of Ru Jiang, she was always pushed around.
Answer: I think B-qin’s growth is partly due to A-jiang, so I wrote B-qin’s gratitude to Irie in the extra chapter B.
Kotoko was pushed around because she had no plan and didn't know where to go. Irie, however, has a strong ability to learn and plan, preventing her from taking detours and guiding her forward. This is his strength.
The purpose of designing the relationship between B-qin and Irie is that I hope B-qin can help Irie change her personality, and Irie can lead the confused B-qin forward and pave the way for her future. The two of them grow together and finally part ways without owing each other anything.
Some people dismiss this, thinking that Kotoko doesn't need to move up, and can just use her lover's ability to exchange for a good man who will take care of her for the rest of her life. Or perhaps moving up is simple, and Kotoko can still learn easily without Irie.
This assumption is similar to "If Irie leaves Kotoko, he can find a woman who is better than Kotoko and loves him more."
&, Keita and Kin are both doing well, and Kotoko has found someone who loves her
Answer: The statement “Kotoko will be happy with anyone” is really harmful.
Kotoko is happy only when she is with the one she loves, but even if everyone loves her, she will not love everyone.
A-qin can be friends with Akin Keita, but she resists Akin's kiss, and is stiff and awkward when facing Keita's confession. Even if there are other options, A-qin only chooses Irie from beginning to end. Isn't it obvious who she loves?
&、That's Aqin's love brain. All her work revolves around Irie. She has no self at all.
A: If Aqin had a dream but gave it up for Irie, that would be called a lack of self. Just like if she had her own direction but was pushed off track by Irie, that would be called passive.
But she didn't have an ideal job in the first place. Choosing to be a nurse at least had the advantage of being able to see Irie, so she naturally chose it. Did she have to torture herself by choosing a career with no benefits at all?
Besides, it's normal to have no ideal job and no direction. Whoever likes to work has been confused when they were young.
&, A Qin is not as independent/personal/clear/normal as B Qin
Answer: Both the A and B guitars have their own strengths, but they just have different life pursuits, so there is no need to compare them.
B-qin pursues freedom, while A-qin seeks a happy family. There is no difference between them. It is because Irie is immature that A-qin's choice seems unwise, but Irie is also growing up.
The cousin episode also shows that if Irie touches Aqin's bottom line, she has the courage to leave Irie and start a new life. It's just that Irie controls the scale of willfulness, so she is forgiven again and again.
&, b Jiang and b Qin, is it possible?
A: Impossible. B Qin doesn't like A Jiang, so how could he possibly like B Jiang? If they really have to be together, then B Jiang should also be modified into a genius version of A Qin. Although this modified couple is extremely ooc, they are also extremely sweet.
&, In Extra B, the comment said that if I deny the love brain, I am denying A-Qin and Irie's efforts.
Answer: Although I do not support the one-way love-brain, but in the article, I obviously deny the non-love-brain ajiang.
And I have never denied Irie's efforts. It is the readers who deny him.
B Qin was grateful to Irie from beginning to end, but few people saw his efforts, whether they were readers who scolded Irie or those who did not.
&、About the ending of B Qin
Answer: B-Qin's ending is the most criticized part, but most people still gave it very high praise, and everyone's comments elevated the entire ending.
Actually, when I was writing, I didn’t intend to be feminist. I was just pushed by the plot.
Because through failed relationships and the shattering of her fantasy about Sano, it has been proven that Bqin's personality is not suitable for intimate relationships.
Since she can't rely on others, the only way left for her is to be self-reliant.
I hope that no matter which path Kotoko takes, she can live a happy life, so let’s make some changes.
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I revised countless versions of the chat show because I had a lot to say but didn't know where to start, so the first version was quite confusing. I tried to make it look more concise, coherent and clear, so I kept deleting and reducing it.
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