Chapter Eleven

Xu Weiwei shook her head and whispered, "It's just a matter of incompatible personalities. Some people hate it while others like it. Every time I do a live stream, there are always haters who jump around and say all sorts of nonsense."

I saw it, but I ignored it. I can calmly accept others' unreasonable accusations and cyberbullying against me, since these people must be having a very unhappy life in real life anyway.

After all, people who are truly doing well in real life don't have time to vent their frustrations or badmouth others online. Maintaining emotional stability is indeed a skill in itself.

If a person is constantly angry, full of resentment, and feels that everyone has wronged them, their life will not improve; instead, it will only get worse.

Just like you might want to vent your bad emotions by swearing, but in fact this approach is not advisable. Your emotions will not be relieved at all, but will instead be aggravated.

It's like when you're cursing, you just can't seem to stop, and it gets incredibly intense. You bring up things you'd already let go of, and it does nothing but harm.

A sign that a person's luck is turning around is a subtle change in their personality. Someone who used to be petty and calculating now learns to be tolerant. Being able to let go of everything is not weakness, but a kind of wisdom.

Just like some couples who have been married for ten years without having children, they adopt a child and miraculously become pregnant less than six months after adoption.

This could certainly be considered a coincidence, but it's also possible that the child already had siblings, which is why the baby was born into this family. Blindly believing in superstitions is definitely not advisable, but there are indeed things in this situation that you can't explain.

Just like love, who you fall in love with isn't really up to you. I especially love following celebrities, and the reason I can calmly accept the downfall of someone I like is because I believe that even if it's a tragic fate, if you encounter it, you can't avoid it.

I don't really care if my idol is dating, or even if they get married and have kids, as long as they don't cheat, don't have casual relationships, and it's a one-on-one relationship, and they don't go looking for a hookup.

I became a solo fan of my idol because I was a "mom fan," a "career fan," and a "stage fan." I've never been a "girlfriend fan." It's okay for him to date guys, and it's okay for him to date girls.

As long as you don't mess around, don't be greedy, and your partner must be relatively outstanding, not the kind of person who looks trash.

Preventing people from dating is actually quite inhumane. I don't believe any idol has that much self-control. Anyway, I think if you meet the right person and love them very much, you will definitely date.

Many things don't go according to plan. I believe there are idols who might be very considerate of their fans' feelings and initially have the intention not to date, but then they actually meet their true love.

Do you know what that feeling is like? It's the feeling of being able to abandon the whole world. That moment is intoxicating; that fatal attraction is hard to resist.

Perhaps the reason I'm so lenient with the celebrities I admire is that I only give 30% of my heart to them; even if I really like a celebrity, I won't completely entrust them to me.

I believe that idolizing celebrities should help you become a better person, not a worse one. I once met someone with depression who became a fan of a celebrity, and their condition worsened as a result. I felt that this was unacceptable.

However, I know I can't persuade her. I can only watch. You can't say it's wrong to do this. After all, she's an adult. It's her right to want to follow celebrities. No one has the right to interfere in her life.

I became a fan with a clear mind. I knew that sooner or later, the celebrity I liked might have a scandal, but until that happens, I still thought he was a good person and was willing to like him.

Moreover, after witnessing his downfall, I couldn't help but feel sad for several hours, after all, they were people I once liked with all my heart.

People who are willing to give their whole heart to become fans are actually very brave, and I hope their sincerity can be treated well.

Human hearts are unpredictable. Just like your best friend from childhood might become a distant acquaintance as an adult. You can't say either of you is at fault; you can only say that you weren't meant to be.

It's the same with idol worship: a one-sided, great effort that only yields a small return. I know your name, but you don't know mine.

This is clearly unfair, but that's life; you'll encounter many unfair things like this. My pessimism has forged my inner strength.

I always think of the worst in everything that happens to me, so even if things really do turn out the worst, I won't be surprised; in fact, I'll be perfectly used to it.

Li Nan frowned and said, "Being so pessimistic isn't good. I think people should be more optimistic. We've been lucky enough to achieve so much; we've already surpassed so many people."

To be honest, you're quite magnanimous. I've never been a fan of any celebrity, but if I were to become a fan of one, I would absolutely not allow them to date. If they did, I would unfollow them and turn against them.

Having seen so many bad people in the industry, I'll never become a fan of anyone. I like idols who are completely without flaws, but obviously, such people don't exist in the entertainment industry.

It's hard to give your heart and love in a chaotic environment; your heart is in turmoil and can't find peace. Love is the same; if it's too complicated, you'll eventually succumb together.

Do you think there's real love between a handsome 21-year-old boy and a 49-year-old woman? I don't think so.

First, one is at the peak of their appearance, while the other is declining in appearance; their looks are not equal. Second, the age gap is too large, their experiences are completely different, and their values ​​are seriously different.

Even if two people with such a significant difference in personality truly love each other, I think it might not be love, but rather the man lacking maternal love. Anyway, I always feel that his motives are impure, or that he's after money.

If there's a significant age gap between a man and a woman, I think it's really hard for them to stay together. Age isn't the issue, gender isn't the issue, there are many other problems.

I'm a girl, and if I were to date another girl, I would feel very insecure because I always feel that maybe one day she will become heterosexual.

The feelings between us might just be friendship; she hasn't figured it out herself. Anyway, it's hard for me to truly believe she could love me. And the age gap is the same.

Just like people from different eras, their thoughts and ideas are completely different. If one of you is in kindergarten and the other is in college, can two people like that really stay together? I don't think so.

Love has many prerequisites, but when you truly fall in love, there's no reason needed. If you're unhappy with someone, I think even if you love each other deeply, it's all for naught.

Actually, we've talked a lot about love, but if someone is doing well on their own, their attitude towards love is quite casual.

It's okay to have it, but it's also okay not to have it. Love really only occupies a very small part of life. If I had to sacrifice too much for love, I would definitely be willing.

Human arrogance lies in the tendency to easily judge others and assume they are wrong, when in reality, they may be right.

Just like I sympathize with those fans who were betrayed by their idols, do those fans really need my sympathy? They don't. They probably think I'm crazy and self-righteous.

My so-called good intentions are a disturbance to them. Just like I can never truly empathize with those who are fans of celebrities, because the price I would have to pay for that kind of dedication is too high, and I'm definitely not willing to do that.

Did you know? I've also acted in bad movies. As an actor, I initially received a script that I really liked, so I accepted it. But once I got to the set, the script was completely changed. However, the contract had already been signed, and I couldn't break it.

So what can we do? We have no choice but to keep filming. It's bad enough that we're making bad movies, but the crew is also terrible. The male lead in the movie I'm filming is a rising star actor who's quite popular.

His fans actually went so far as to seduce and sleep with crew members for free just to get a chance to see him on set. I was utterly shocked when I heard this. Why would anyone go to such lengths? Have they lost all their dignity?

Can't you love yourself a little more? I don't quite understand why fans would go to such lengths for their idols? Maybe this is what they call love.

I have no right to sympathize with this fan, since she did it all voluntarily. Nor can I say her behavior was wrong; I have no right to judge her.

I just can't understand it, but reality is just that absurd; there are far more outrageous things than this. Will I get used to it after seeing so many? I can only say, I won't.

Actually, I deliberately avoided these things later on because I felt powerless to do anything about them; I couldn't control them, nor did I have the right to.

Seeing it makes me feel better, and it also leads me to the conclusion that there are so many bad things in the world. That's all. There's no benefit to be gained, only endless harm and negative impact.

I can't change others, so I can only change myself. I deliberately avoid paying attention to these messy things, and even when we're gossiping, I steer the conversation in an interesting and fun direction.

Later, I learned about many inspiring stories. For example, there was a girl who went to work in a factory after graduating from junior high school. Later, she taught herself makeup skills and started making makeup videos online.

Gradually, she gained some popularity, and people started asking her to do their makeup. After she became famous, even some minor celebrities asked her to do their makeup. Eventually, she became a top makeup artist.

She gained the admiration of countless celebrities in the industry and, through her own efforts, transformed herself from a girl with no background into a famous makeup artist who could earn a lot of money.

There are many similar stories of people achieving success through their own efforts; there are truly numerous such rags-to-riches tales within the industry.

The kind of "face-slapping" plot, similar to that in a wish-fulfillment novel, also happens. There was once a minor actor who was deliberately harassed by the host on a variety show. Later, after the actor became famous, the host actually knelt down at a dinner party and begged the actor for forgiveness.