Chapter 472 What you might experience when giving birth

The children have almost finished eating and the adults’ meals are ready.

The children sat in the children's chair at the dining table. They changed from being fed by others to wearing a bib and eating some easy-to-hold food. They ate and played at the same time, and I ate with them.

During the meal, whether it was Qin Liang or Yu Juan, their eyes were basically on the children.

After dinner, Xu Mo and Qin Liang left.

Jiang Xue stayed at Yu Juan's house.

At around eight or nine o'clock in the evening, Jiang Xue was in the living room. Yu Juan washed and fed the child, then went to the bedroom to coax him to sleep.

Jiang Xue glanced at the bedroom and saw a large guardrail on the bed.

On the bay window and on the bedside table there are children's toys, books, diapers, and small blankets. The bedroom has also been invaded by children, with children's things everywhere.

For a child who is just over one year old, there are still many bedtime rituals. He has to turn off the lights, cover himself with a specific quilt, and sleep in a specific position.

Then there could be no other sound, as Juan held me in my arms and patted me gently, and I slowly fell asleep.

After a while, after coaxing the child to sleep, the two sat back on the sofa in the living room and started chatting.

The topic still revolves around children.

"Can she sleep till dawn?" Jiang Xue asked.

"She still wakes up now, and when she wakes up she may cry or whimper and need to be comforted before she can go back to sleep. But I have stopped her from feeding at night. Before I stopped her, it was annoying. I had to get up to make milk for her. Sometimes I would wait too long to drink milk and she would be completely exhausted. She had to get up to play in the middle of the night several times."

"It's too hard." Jiang Xue sighed.

Yu Juan seemed to have opened up and continued to talk about what she had experienced during the time Jiang Xue was away.

"I was planning to breastfeed her at first, but I didn't know better and let her drink from the bottle in advance. She stopped drinking from me."

"Very stubborn."

"Then the hospital said that the baby's resistance would be better if she drank some breast milk, so I set the alarm to express milk every two or three hours, pouring the milk from the breast pump into a milk storage bag, and then reheating it for her when she woke up in the middle of the night.

Newborns eat very frequently, and it is impossible to give them breast milk at a fixed time and in a fixed quantity. They have to be fed whenever they cry, and the breast milk may need to be reheated several times overnight.

At that time, my nanny and I were so exhausted every day.

I get up frequently during the night and can't sleep well. ”

"Later, I had to work very hard to hold it in so that she could eat it directly."

“I didn’t expect there would be a more painful experience.”

"Babies drinking milk and breast pumping are different. Sometimes they fall asleep after drinking from one side, and I have to suck out the milk from the other side. Then when she wakes up, she still wants to eat. If she can't get enough milk or is not full, she will suck very hard, with enough force to break the skin."

"I was crying in pain while feeding myself."

"I continued breastfeeding for several months before I figured out the pattern and it no longer hurt to breastfeed."

"She was so weak when she was little. If she didn't wake up after I woke up, I would feel her breathing to see if she was still breathing. I've seen a lot of news reports that if a baby spits up milk or chokes on milk, a corner of the quilt could suffocate the baby to death."

"When she was a baby, she would just cry. She would cry when she was hungry, when she was sleepy, when she had poop, and even when she wanted someone to hold her."

“After finally growing up a little, she rolled over and fell off the bed, and I was terrified.

When she gets bitten by mosquitoes while playing outside, she cries because it itches. She also cries when it hurts when she scratches. Before I gave birth to my child, I didn’t know that children could have eczema and red buttocks. I was even taken to the emergency room when I was more than six months old.

The child would have a fever and get sick. I once had the experience of taking my child to the hospital twice in one night. Because I had never experienced this and didn't know anything, I searched everywhere on my phone for other people's guides. The Internet said that there was no need to worry about pediatric emergencies, but seeing the child's face red from the fever and the unconsciousness, I was still scared to death.

I had no choice but to take him to the hospital. The doctor said he was fine, but I was worried if the fever didn't go down.

I'm just afraid that she'll get hurt from the burn or become stupid. ”

"It was also because of that illness that Qin Liang began to take part in raising the baby as a father, and has been doing so until now." When she said this, she couldn't help but fall into memories.

Sometimes when Yu Juan recalls the past, she feels sorry for Qin Liang.

After he learned that she was pregnant and that she wanted to give birth to the child, he proposed to her for the sake of the child.

Yu Juan explicitly rejected him, feeling that there was no emotional basis between the two of them.

Not suitable for marriage.

At the same time, it shows that she wanted to have the child, and that the birth of the child had nothing to do with him, and he did not need to be responsible or participate in raising the child.

He doesn't agree.

Yu Juan insisted on avoiding him during her prenatal checkups and childbirth.

I moved and blocked all contact information, and he finally compromised.

Then Qin Liang was passively involved because she wanted to give birth to a child. As the biological father of the child, he had to be involved because of the bond of the child.

He speaks very little and cannot do many things for the children well, but he still participates without complaints.

Yu Juan has no other family members, and her only close friend is Jiang Xue, who has gone abroad.

The confinement nanny will be laid off, the childcare nanny will resign, the babysitter will be dissatisfied with her job, and the child's blood-related father.

Even though he was clumsy at the time, he became the only person she and her child could rely on and trust.

Yu Juan told Jiang Xue about her and Qin Liang. After listening, Jiang Xue directly pointed out the problem, "Do you like him?"

Hearing the question, Yu Juan was in a daze. Although she didn't want to admit it, she still liked him.

She's just feeling inferior and feels that she's not worthy of him. She's afraid that he's with her out of responsibility and she doesn't want to use responsibility and the child to tie him to her and her daughter.

She felt that she was extremely selfish, so when Jiang Xue asked her about her relationship with Qin Liang, she didn't know how to explain.

"I like him, but there is a huge gap between us," said Yu Juan.

Jiang Xue was surprised, seeing her inferiority complex, and then deliberately said, "There is a big gap between you two."

Yu Juan heard her say that, and Jiang Xue continued, "First of all, you have a house, and he is still a student, living in a dormitory."

"By the time he starts working, the price of housing in Kyoto will have risen to an unknown level. By that time, it may take several years to save enough for a down payment."

"You are a shareholder of Youcha. Although your equity has been diluted a lot in the following rounds of financing, it is true that the more financing you get, the more valuable you are. Youcha is preparing to go public, and your net worth will increase several times after the listing."

"There are also food factories and steamed bun brands that we cooperate with. The dividends you get every year are far greater than what he can get even if he has a PhD, has a good future, and earns a million a year."

"His family is from a second- or third-tier city. I heard that his parents are just ordinary office workers with limited wages. His parents won't be able to help him much in the future. If you compare their incomes, he really doesn't deserve you."