Chapter Twenty-Eight
Li Nan frowned and said, "Actually, I don't really approve of getting caught in the rain. It's a bit like taking the blame when you're not in the situation. Although it may seem like getting caught in the rain will only cause a minor cold, it can actually have many long-term consequences, even if they don't manifest immediately."
People should learn to cherish and protect their bodies. It's foolish to go out in the rain when you have an umbrella. If you really like the rain, you can use a transparent umbrella and enjoy the atmosphere.
Some mistakes stem from a lack of proper understanding. People often think that doing something is harmless, but in reality, it has far-reaching consequences. It's like driving a car: first, you need to release the handbrake. If you forget to release it, no matter how well you do the other steps, you won't be able to start the car successfully.
People who don't cherish their health can't blame others when they develop health problems; they can only blame themselves. I think words can be quite powerful.
If someone constantly complains to others and vents their negative emotions, will they really find relief? I think probably not.
It's childish of you to try to vent your emotions by getting soaked in the rain. Is getting soaked in the rain your only hobby? I don't believe it.
You certainly have other, healthier ways to release negative emotions, but you just prefer to adopt this one. So why make this principle?
I think it's self-harm. When you're in too much pain, you choose this extreme way to relieve stress, just like many people who are under too much pressure like to jump high.
What I enjoy is the feeling of falling from a great height to a point of near death. Even if an accident were to actually happen and I were to die, I wouldn't feel fear; instead, I would accept it well.
Xu Weiwei frowned and said, "I might indeed have that mentality, just like how I always ship couples, it's a way for me to save myself."
Am I lacking love? Yes, I am. I've never had any friends growing up, nor have I ever been in a romantic relationship. My family members haven't loved me much either. I have neither friendship, romantic love, nor familial love.
I long to experience a truly good relationship, but sadly, this little wish of mine has never been fulfilled. Reality is so ugly.
I wasn't always this outgoing. I was very insecure and withdrawn. Many people disliked me and bullied me. I tried to fight back, but it was no use. There were many of them, but I was all alone.
Is the relationship between girls really that wonderful? When I was in school, I thought it was absolutely not. Ugly faces, even a pretty person could be a bully, and I will never forgive those who bullied me.
Fortunately, I became a live streamer by chance and met a pretty nice female boss who showed me that girls can indeed get along very well.
However, I never considered my boss a true friend because she was a woman, and I worried that one day she might betray me and hurt me, so I couldn't take that risk.
I think a really good person wouldn't mind that I don't consider her a friend, just like if someone doesn't consider me a friend, I don't care, it's normal and understandable.
I'm actually very afraid of entering into a close relationship, whether it's friendship or love. Like now, even though we've talked so much, I still don't consider you a friend, even though we've shared a lot of heartfelt things.
I don't want to start a relationship casually and end it hastily. If I start a relationship, I hope it can last a lifetime and not end halfway through.
But reality is often not as rosy as I imagine. Sometimes I actually feel that having an affair after marriage seems like a perfectly normal thing. Why is that?
Because marriage really does wear down feelings; the longer you're together, the more arguments you'll have, and the deeper the accumulated conflicts will become.
A couple who were deeply in love wanted to be together every day and night in the early stages of their relationship. However, later on, they felt uncomfortable, disgusted, and in pain whenever they were in the same space.
Love eventually turned into disgust. I hate you, I'm tired of you. But I used to love you the most, to the point that I would die for you. I may have made a promise to love you for a lifetime. Now, I've broken my promise.
What I find terrifying is that this is the norm in marriage. Love is like this; no one really decides to be together with the mindset that they're just playing around.
Most people love each other earnestly, thinking they can be together for a lifetime, but in the end they still lose to time. Just like some people say, as long as couples go to a temple to pray, they will break up, so it is very accurate.
In reality, the vast majority of couples break up. If you want to predict the future of a relationship, just say the worst, and you'll be able to get the prediction right about 99% of the time. Being able to love each other for a lifetime is the exception, very rare.
Therefore, all those so-called guidelines on love, how to date correctly, and how to love someone, are of no reference value whatsoever; they're just for entertainment.
If you actually believe that, your love life won't improve; it will only remain chaotic. It's like following the wrong textbook; you'll only learn incorrect knowledge, your efforts will be meaningless, and you'll be wasting your time and energy.
Sometimes I wonder, if I were a man, married, and utterly loathed my wife, even if I once loved her, would I take revenge on her by cheating? I don't know, but I'd probably.
I have this mindset: you've caused me so much pain, so I want to destroy myself and destroy you. I know cheating is wrong, shameful, and improper.
However, if you have a cheating husband, it will definitely not look good to others. Some people will think that you are not attractive enough to attract your husband.
Some people will laugh at you, thinking your husband has cheated on you, and they'll generally look down on you. Of course, some people will also sympathize with you and criticize me.
As for me, I accept the criticism. I did it on purpose, to retaliate against you. If it hurt you, then I would be very happy.
In the end, I genuinely felt that such an ugly scene would unfold, but I wouldn't empathize with myself in that state, and I felt it should be criticized.
When love turns into hatred, there's a real urge to seek revenge; you just can't feel at ease unless you get back at the other person. Someone you once loved becomes the person you hate most, and you might even regret ever having loved them.
I find this kind of love so pathetic, yet it actually happens. I've never seen a sweet romance from beginning to end, so I don't believe that kind of love exists.
Also, I don't understand why many people hand over their salary cards after getting married. If I were a man, I would find it completely unacceptable that I have to hand over all my money after getting married and wait for pocket money.
Why should I? If you love me, you should trust me. So why confiscate my money? Besides, even if I work myself to the bone to support my family, my children might not love me much.
Because I'm already so tired every day, I don't have time to care for my child when I get home. I just give them money and there's not much communication. How can we develop a deep bond like that?
Of course, it's also hard for my wife to stay home as a full-time mother, but I think the child will have a better relationship with her. I'm not saying it's wrong, but I only provide money, and my wife takes care of the child and provides emotional support. She gives so much, so the child should love her more.
But then what's the difference between me and an ATM? I feel that this kind of marriage won't bring me happiness, but rather endless burdens.
If I lost my job, I would be completely ruined. My wife and children are all waiting for me to earn money, and I would be under tremendous pressure to support them. I feel that under such heavy pressure, even if I loved my wife very much back then, I would not choose to get married again if I had to do it all over again.
It's quite nice to live alone. Playing games is fun, enjoyable, and carefree. If I have money, I can buy whatever I like. I can have any hobby I want.
But after getting married, personal preferences become less important, and there's not much spare money to spend on them. So, am I living for myself or for others?
Why would I want to make myself look so pathetic? If I were handsome and found a rich woman for money, I would be living off her. The rich woman would think she's so great for providing so much money, and probably wouldn't respect me much.
Would I be happy with a woman like that? Even if I could just lie around spending money and not have to work hard, I don't think I would be happy.
Having experienced the hardships of marriage, I've come to appreciate the joys of being alone. I truly believe marriage is terrifying, especially for women.
Having a child doesn't guarantee the child will take your surname. Even if they do, it's usually the father's. Besides, most families with the father's surname don't really value a child who shares their surname.
It's like raising someone else's child. It's similar to families that favor sons over daughters. If you have a daughter, you don't have to work hard. You can just lie back and be a couch potato because you don't need a house or a car when your daughter gets married. You can just lie back and collect the bride price.
Having a son means working yourself to the bone to earn enough for a house and a car so your son can get married. Now, your back doesn't ache, your legs don't hurt, and you have plenty of energy for everything.
If you get married, it's very difficult for a woman to stick to being childless. I've seen too many prenuptial agreements not to have children, but after marriage, the man goes back on his word and forces the woman to have children.
This is the demolition effect. If you want to demolish someone's window, and you directly say that you want to demolish the window, you will definitely be refused. But if you first say that you want to demolish the house, and after being refused, you take a step back and say that you really want to demolish the window, the other person will feel embarrassed to refuse you a second time and will agree.
The same applies to marriage. The man thinks that since the woman is already married to him, divorce is too troublesome, so he first deceives her and then reveals his true thoughts after he has her.
Deep down, the man didn't approve of the woman's so-called childless lifestyle, but he couldn't bear to let go of such a good girlfriend, so he kept lying and saying that he also supported childless lifestyles.
I think love is full of lies and deception, so I can understand why some people are unwilling to believe someone who says they love them, because they are afraid to easily give their true feelings.
The same applies to sales. Many companies offer free samples or trials under the guise of free products, but if you actually get a free deal and expect to walk away unscathed, do you think that's possible?
Some people, once you've used it, will start making excuses, saying that the first copy is free and they'll start charging for the second copy. In short, it's all kinds of deception.
Similarly, many scams do happen, big or small. It feels like life is like that, full of lies. We are all dishonest, yet we pray that we will meet someone who will never lie to us.
How could that possibly happen? Expecting someone else to do something you yourself can't even do is wishful thinking and unlikely to succeed.
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