Chapter 563 I Want to Be a Mother
Just like rheumatism, it will flare up every time it rains.
These memories come flooding back at special moments.
When children tell their parents these things, it’s not that they don’t remember the good things their parents did for them, but they want their parents to see their scars and hope that their parents can say “I’m sorry” to them to heal their scars so that they won’t hurt anymore.
It’s a pity that parents do things that hurt their children, but cannot accept that their children hate them. Instead, they hope that their children can be grateful to them and be filial to them.
It is said that parental love is selfless, but in fact, children's love is selfless. Even if parents are not good to their children, children will still love their parents and will not be willing to hurt their parents. Parents raise their children because they hope that their children will repay them and become their support when they are old.
While waiting for the food, Yaya discussed this issue with Huo Jiusi. Although both of them had happy families, they did not face those problems.
But they both have a very consistent view on this issue, which is that most people don’t know how to be parents.
A person needs to take an exam to evaluate his professional title, and he will choose carefully even when picking a scallion or a cabbage, but he is very careless when dealing with interpersonal relationships. Women can marry anyone casually and become parents casually.
In fact, parents are the ones who need to take exams the most. Only after passing the exams can they become parents.
Many children are now found to have various problems, and the child’s problem is not just the child’s, but the whole family is sick. The child is the most sensitive and fragile one among them, and then all the problems are reflected on the child.
"When we are both mature enough, we can become parents."
Yaya hugged Huo Jiusi's arm. Huo Jiusi stiffened for a moment. Yaya felt it and she tilted her head to look at him in confusion.
Huo Jiusi put down his chopsticks: "Yaya, do you really want to be a mother?"
"The pregnancy process is very damaging to the body, and there are various dangers."
Yaya knew what Huo Jiusi was worried about, so she told him the truth: "I don't know if I will change my mind for any reason in the future, but now I want a child."
"You are talking about the probability of occurrence. If there is a problem with the previous examination, then stop the process in time. I will not joke with my own body."
She doesn't have to have a child, she wants a child, but she wants to be a mother and she wants to experience this role in life.
Of course, she has realized this now, as she has raised so many furry children.
She has the financial ability and believes that she will be a good mother. If there are no problems, she also wants to have a child of her own.
But this is a choice she makes, not a necessary choice in life. If her future conditions do not allow it, either financially or physically, then she can give up this choice.
Her life doesn't mean she has to become a mother, she just chooses to be a mother.
"But I don't want you to suffer."
Huo Jiusi has watched a related childbirth documentary, which records the entire process from pregnancy to delivery for more than a dozen women.
Because everyone has different physical conditions, pregnancy will have different reactions.
Some people have severe morning sickness, which may last for seven months. During these seven months, they really vomit after eating, and may even vomit while eating.
Some people do not have any reaction during pregnancy, but will face various problems during childbirth, such as malposition of the fetus, difficult labor, and the need for a caesarean section. Others will have other problems during childbirth that may be life-threatening.
The pain does not end after giving birth. The pregnancy process will expand the uterus and abdomen, and all the internal organs will be squeezed. After giving birth, the belly will become wrinkled like a balloon that has been inflated and then deflated.
They will also experience pubic pain, which may take several years to recover, or even never recover. This is what people say about a woman's hips getting bigger after giving birth.
Then there are various sequelae, of course, those are caused by not getting enough rest after giving birth.
Having a child seems to be a woman's own business, but the fact that women face so many problems is actually related to their husbands' inaction.
What a woman needs most after giving birth is to rest. Usually at this time it should be men or other people who take care of the child so that the mother can get a good rest. However, all the other people in the family disappear, leaving the mother to take care of the child with a tired body.
That will inevitably leave many chronic diseases, which are what people call postpartum diseases.
At this time, some people would say that it is because women do not take good care of themselves during the confinement period that they develop these diseases.
Then put the blame on the woman who had just given birth.
Huo Jiusi knew all these things, and Yaya knew them even better. She and Dong Hesong treated villagers at that time and had seen many women in labor.
She was still young at that time, but she understood a lot of things.
When leaving, Dong Hesong would also tell her these things. At that time, he did not regard her as a child, but as his apprentice who would become a doctor in the future.
Doctors must understand these things. Dong Hesong is good at general practice, but some people in their branch are good at gynecology.
Dong Hesong showed all those books to Yaya, one purpose was to let her learn how to protect herself, and the other was to help others.
"Let's talk about this later." Huo Jiusi put the roasted meat on Yaya's plate.
Yaya is responsible for eating, and Huo Jiusi is responsible for roasting.
Huo Jiusi’s barbecue skills are quite good, and Yaya especially likes the barbecue he makes.
Sometimes at home, Huo Jiusi would also make it for Yaya.
Add grilled meat to rice, add some vegetables, wrap it with vegetable leaves, and eat it in one bite. It is nutritious and delicious.
"Look at other people, men bake and women eat."
The woman at the table across from them grumbled quietly because she was the one grilling while her husband ate.
And she also has to take care of the other child.
One of the father and son was holding a book, while the other was holding a cell phone and seemed to be playing games. Neither of them helped the woman. Instead, they acted as if they were the boss and waited for the woman to serve them.
However, even though the woman complained, she did not stop her actions.
"Look at how old she is and how old you are." The man looked at Yaya, then at the woman, his eyes showing undisguised disdain: "You are quite old, so don't act like a little girl and be so delicate."
"You are a mother now, you have to take care of the child."
The woman couldn't help but retort: "I am a mother taking care of the children, why should I take care of you?"
"I'm tired from making money, what's wrong with you taking care of me?"
"If you didn't insist on eating this barbecue, I would have brought you here. This barbecue is so expensive. Is it easy for me to make money? You loser old woman."
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