After listening, the woman frowned and asked, "Don't you think the problem is actually your own? If you hadn't valued relationships so much and kept giving so much, you wouldn't have gotten the results you didn't want."
Moreover, friendships are meant to be platonic and pure, so trying to have any connection with him or get involved with him is actually a very foolish thing to do.
Furthermore, wanting someone who will never leave you for life is unrealistic, because there are many things in life that you can't predict, and things that seem good now may not be good in time.
What seems bad now might turn into something good in the near future; we can't change things. So why do you only think about changing others instead of changing yourself? In the end, we can't blame anyone but ourselves for making such a foolish decision, one that wasn't even the right decision for us.
Don't you think all your actions stem from being too dependent on the other person? They are just your friends, not people you can spend your whole life with. Even if it's your wife, no matter how loving you are with her, you will eventually lose her.
These are all unreliable things. Why do you want to rely on others? Can you guarantee that even after you get married and find your life partner, you'll still be able to rely on them?
"Will she never leave you? That's incredibly foolish. Many things in this world are unpredictable; it's possible you'll leave first, or the other person will."
The man sighed, "I just feel that I've been too lonely growing up. When I was a child, I longed to have a really good friend because I saw many people who had their own good friends and their relationships were so close."
They're like brothers, but I not only don't have any brothers, I also don't have any good friends. I always feel that I'm very pitiful.
But after so much time has passed, I realized it wasn't what I imagined. Maybe I was too fixated on it, but there was no reason for me to do this. If he didn't want to be my best friend for life, he could have told me from the beginning why he waited until I had given so much to tell me.
They only see me as a regular friend, nothing more. They don't think I'm anything special or unique. Is all of this my fault?
Don't they have any faults of their own? I never believe that no matter what kind of relationship there is between two people, it's always the other person's fault. They must also have their own faults. And those who can blame everything on the other person are actually the most vicious people in this world.
I don't think these are reasonable excuses. In the beginning, if you realized that the other person valued you highly and you were unwilling, you should have told them instead of letting them misunderstand your intentions.
He ended up giving too much to you, giving a lot that he shouldn't have, and you felt it was completely unnecessary, but it was very hurtful.
I think people who do this are incredibly irresponsible. I simply cannot accept it, and I will never become one of them.
The woman shook her head and said, "Actually, many people don't have much of a purpose when making friends. They just feel that the other person's personality is similar to their own, and they also have many similar interests."
People tend to befriend those they feel they can get along with, but they don't think about having a long-term relationship with that person or becoming best friends with them for life. Nobody believes this, and this is the true thought in most people's minds.
And it's also a very normal thing. If you put all your heart into the other person, and you feel that as long as you have them, you can lose everything, or you can give up anything you want or anything that is very difficult to obtain for them, then you feel that it is very noble.
However, others don't understand why you do this. It's because you don't take yourself seriously. You always place too much hope in others, thus forming all sorts of fantasies about them. Your life is entirely based on your fantasies, which is why you are so depressed and idle every day.
Placing all your emotions on someone else might lead you to later feel that it's their fault, because they let you down. You might think that because you're devoted to someone, they should reciprocate, but is that what they expect? Did they even want you to do that?
But you don't think he doesn't want it, that he really doesn't want it. Instead, you feel bad for him. You only give according to your own ideas, but never consider the other person's feelings. So in the end, the other person feels confused, but you think the other person is a particularly heartless person who doesn't care about feelings at all.
You feel that it's all because the other person was heartless and ungrateful that you ended up like this, but the world doesn't say that you have to pay for things like houses. I always know that you may have your own mistakes, but I can't not help you. I help you not because I think you're so great.
This is the situation I'm facing now, so I'll ask for your help as long as I need it. But if one day I don't need your help anymore, but you still help me, I'll just feel very grateful to you.
But I genuinely don't need it. However, if it were you, you would feel that since I helped you, you should repay me double. This kind of thinking is particularly dangerous and terrifying. I'm also very afraid of this kind of person. If I encountered someone like that, I would only feel that I had met the wrong person, and I would be very careful to avoid them.
I just can't break off these connections with you right now, because I really need your help. But if you keep going like this, maybe one day I'll realize that no matter how difficult it is for me, I won't hurt anyone else because of you. Actually, I used to be a con artist.
But I'm not the kind of person who lies to just anyone. I wouldn't lie to an innocent person like this. In fact, I only lie to people I consider bad; I wouldn't deceive good people. This girl doesn't look like a bad person at all, and I think she's quite innocent.
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