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In the mediation room, Jiang Feng looked at Kang Buping and the other two and said, "After my evaluation, there are too many problems between you and your mother-in-law that have accumulated over the years. The difficulty of mediation is high-level, and a mediation fee of 100,000 will be charged. You can discuss whether to accept the mediation first, and call me after the discussion is completed."

After saying that, Jiang Feng opened the door and walked out.

As soon as Jiang Feng closed the door, Hu Jinhua couldn't help it and stared at Liu Lian with anger, "It's all your fault. One hundred thousand yuan in mediation fees. How many years did my son have to work hard to save this money?"

Liu Lian was instantly furious when she heard this. "You only blame me for everything. Is this just my problem? If you acted like a mother-in-law, would we have come to this point today?"

Hu Jinhua immediately retorted: "Do you still have me as your mother-in-law in your eyes? If you behaved like a daughter-in-law and respected me a little, we wouldn't have come to this point today. This is the case in this era. If it were in the past, a daughter-in-law like you would definitely not have a good ending."

Liu Lian refused to give in and said, "Respect is mutual. If you don't respect me, why should I respect you? You also know that this is a new era. Don't hold on to the feudal ideas of the past. I won't buy into that."

Seeing the two of them quarreling again regardless of the occasion, Kang Buping's forehead veins kept throbbing, and he growled in a low voice: "Can you two stop quarreling? It's fine if you quarrel at home, but you're still quarreling here, aren't you ashamed?"

Hu Jinhua opened her mouth and wanted to say something, but finally swallowed it back.

Liu Lian glanced at her husband, then looked at the crowd in the hall outside through the frosted glass, and tactfully shut up. This was definitely not the place to have an argument.

"I can't do anything about you anymore. I think there's no need to discuss it anymore. I'll go out and pay the money to accept mediation right away, otherwise our family will break up sooner or later." Kang Buping said while holding his breath.

Hu Jinhua thought about it and still couldn't bear to part with such a large sum of money, so she quickly said, "Forget it. Even if you work hard for three years, you may not be able to save so much money. It's not worth it to use it for mediation. Let's go back. Since she doesn't like me, I'll go back and pack up my things and go back to my hometown in Guangdong Province to live."

Liu Lian wanted to retort after hearing this, but finally held back.

Kang Buping shook his head and said, "Mom, the house in my hometown in Guangdong Province has long been dilapidated and cannot be lived in. How can I feel at ease if you go back alone? Let's pay for mediation. As long as you can get along well, I will work hard and not be tired."

Hu Jinhua also knew that it was indeed unrealistic for her to return to her hometown in Guangdong Province to live alone.

After all, the Kang family had moved from Guangdong Province to Jiangxi Province several decades ago, and the house in their hometown was indeed too dilapidated to be lived in. When Kang Buping's grandfather and father were alive, they would stay at their uncle's house when they occasionally went back.

Ever since their grandfather and father passed away, their family rarely returned to their hometown in Guangdong Province. The last time they went back was when Kang Buping got married.

It's acceptable to go back and stay at your uncle's house occasionally, but it's definitely not okay to live there for a long time.

Is it really necessary to spend this money?

It’s all because of this prodigal daughter-in-law. The more Hu Jinhua thought about it, the angrier she became, and she disliked Liu Lian as her daughter-in-law more and more!

Liu Lian also felt sorry for the money. She also attributed it to her mother-in-law and disliked her.

Kang Buping was in great pain seeing this, but he had no other choice but to turn to Master Jiang for help, hoping that his mediation would work, otherwise this family would be ruined by his mother and wife sooner or later.

So, he didn't ask for their opinions anymore, but pushed the glass door open and said to Jiang Feng who was sitting in front of the computer, "Master Jiang, we have already discussed it. Please come in."

When Jiang Feng entered the mediation room, Kang Buping directly stated his decision, "Master Jiang, we are willing to accept mediation. What should we do?"

Jiang Feng nodded and said, "As usual, let's go one by one, starting with Ms. Hu!"

Upon hearing this, Kang Buping and the Liu Lian couple pushed the door open and went out to wait without Jiang Feng saying anything.

After they left, Jiang Feng looked at Hu Jinhua and said, "Ms. Hu, from what you said before, I can tell that you are really dissatisfied with your daughter-in-law. You think she doesn't know how to manage the household and you don't like her behavior. Maybe you meant for their own good, but from my point of view, I think you did something wrong!"

Hu Jinhua was a little dissatisfied and said, "Master Jiang, can you tell me where I went wrong?"

"Ms. Hu, there is a saying that goes 'the first ten years depend on the mother-in-law, the last ten years depend on the daughter-in-law'. You must have heard of this saying, right?"

Jiang Feng looked at Hu Jinhua and said calmly, "The first ten years can be said to be the most difficult time for a new daughter-in-law, when she is new here, unfamiliar with the place, helpless, and living in a different environment and with different people. She is a new wife, a new daughter-in-law, and a new mother, and everything starts from scratch.

At this time, as a mother-in-law, you should be more considerate and tolerant and try your best to help your daughter-in-law integrate into the family.

For example, regarding eating habits, since what you cook doesn't suit her taste and she can't cook it herself, you shouldn't be too demanding if she orders takeout.

Put yourself in their shoes. If you were the daughter-in-law and she was the mother-in-law, and she cooked local spicy dishes, but you couldn't eat spicy food, and you spent money to order takeout, and she accused you of wasting money, how would you feel? "

Hu Jinhua listened in silence for a while, and was somewhat touched in her heart. After all, she was also a daughter-in-law who had become a mother-in-law after many years, and she also experienced how difficult it was to be a daughter-in-law.

When she was going through the most difficult time and felt the most wronged, she secretly swore in her heart that she would never make things difficult for her daughter-in-law or let her suffer any injustice in the future.

But when she really becomes a mother-in-law, the conflicts between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law will still arise...

"And then there's the issue of taking care of the child. This is definitely the number one conflict between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. According to your daughter-in-law, although you did a lot for her during her confinement, she didn't appreciate your kindness. Do you know why?"

Jiang Feng didn't wait for her to answer, and directly gave the answer, "Because you didn't find the right direction, so no matter how much you do, it's useless. At that time, what you should do is to take care of the children more, so that your daughter-in-law can have a good rest and recover.

Instead of spending a lot of time every day shopping for groceries, cooking and cleaning. "

Hu Jinhua said with a face full of grievance: "The child was young at that time. She slept when she was full and ate when she woke up. She didn't need to be taken care of at all. I took great pains to make delicious food for her so that her body could recover soon. Can you blame me for this?"

Jiang Feng sighed, "Ms. Hu, this is the difference in concepts between the two generations, and also the difference in the times. When you were in confinement, you might not only have to take care of the child yourself, but you might also have to do other things.

So, when your daughter-in-law is in confinement after childbirth, you finish all the tasks and even help take care of the child when you are free. You feel that this is the best you can do, and your daughter-in-law should be grateful to you instead of complaining about you.

This doesn't mean you are wrong, it just means you don't understand your daughter-in-law's mind.

This is just like cooking. If you work hard to make a table full of dishes that your guests don’t like, the effect is not as good as making just one dish that your guests like.”

Hu Jinhua didn't understand at first, until she heard the cooking metaphor at the end, then she suddenly realized it.

"There is also the concept of parenting, which is also a major source of conflict. The mother-in-law and daughter-in-law cannot stand each other's way of raising children and the ideas they instill in their children. Or if the other party brings up the child well, they will not be grateful at all, while if the other party does not bring up the child well, they will only blame and scold.

The daughter-in-law can't stand the mother-in-law spoiling the child, the mother-in-law can't stand the daughter-in-law being strict with the child, and so on.

This is a problem that exists in many families. The mother-in-law and daughter-in-law can only understand and tolerate each other. After all, the goals of both parties are the same, which is for the good of the children. "

At this point, Jiang Feng felt that he had said enough, so he made a final summary: "Ms. Hu, in short, you must remember this sentence: the first ten years depend on the mother-in-law, and the last ten years depend on the daughter-in-law. If you help me when I was young and ignorant, I will make sure you have no worries when you are old. If you bully me when I was young and ignorant, I will make sure you have no one to rely on when you are old."

Jiang Feng said this in a powerful voice, and Hu Jinhua was moved.