Commander Lin was truly relieved, a huge burden lifted from his heart. He wasn't afraid of raising a child; it was his responsibility to raise his own son. But the boy was quiet and didn't have any playmates, which was what worried him the most. He was afraid that the boy might develop some kind of problem from keeping quiet.
He's now acting like a typical father. Although he's past the peak of his excitement, he still gets excited when he talks about it, which surprised Qin Qinghuai.
With the two of them working together, Commander Lin had far fewer worries, and their work went much more smoothly, which was certainly a good thing. However, he had no idea that his mischievous sons at home could be so capable, especially that kid Qin Heng, who somehow got along well with Xiao An.
To put it simply, although it was unintentional, it was a divine intervention.
However, Qin Qinghuai also intended to reiterate that, as a political commissar, addressing this issue was indeed part of his job responsibilities.
"Half of the child's problem has been solved. Once the kindergarten is up and running, the other half will be almost done. But, team leader, the child can't rely on these things alone. The family atmosphere is very important. In other words, your personal issues will directly affect the child's personality and attitude. You can't expect your child to be cheerful and confident outside, but quiet and poor at communication at home, can you?"
Commander Lin paused for a moment,
Is it that serious?
"have,"
Qin Qinghuai nodded without hesitation.
“If you can take care of the child’s life by yourself, you can’t say that. If it’s just about eating and drinking, then Xiao An will definitely be fine. But children need more than just being fed and watered. Xiao An is still so young and needs his parents’ company. If you let the child grow up so carelessly with him by your side, it’s not right to do that.”
If you have the time and energy to balance family life, I wouldn't advise you against it.
But needless to say, from the past to the present, and going forward, as things get bigger and bigger here, yes, you can ignore the living conditions and logistics, but as the leader of this area, you have to manage the training, patrols, security, and the situation at the border outposts. And there are always unexpected incidents. How much time do you have? You can't even guarantee that you'll be able to go home on time. How will you spend with your children?
I never thought about this much before, but now that I see my second brother and sister-in-law even willingly leave little Qin Heng here, and Qin Jing taking care of them all day long, and the old lady also having to worry about this and that, afraid that the child will get sick, afraid that the child will miss home, afraid that the child will get hurt, I realize that raising children is not so easy after all.
My wife isn't afraid to hunt wild boars; I thought she was omnipotent. She also says she's worried about raising our child, saying that a child isn't an object, but rather someone you're responsible for—their food, drink, and every step of their growth. When they're little, you hope they're healthy and don't get sick; when they grow up, you hope they'll be an upright person. This isn't something that happens overnight; becoming a parent means a lifetime of worry.
Commander Lin remained silent for a long time. Having lived half his life, what principle didn't he understand?
It's just that I'm worried.
"Hey, you're right about everything, but tell me, what kind of person would treat someone who isn't their own child well?"
I don't expect her to treat Xiao An like her own child. To be conservative, if she really doesn't talk, then this person needs to be careful and patient.
Most importantly, I can't hit or scold him, not even a little bit. This child is already pitiful enough; I'm his only support. I can't just give him a warm home and push him into an even colder place instead.
This concern is not unfounded. Since ancient times, being a stepmother has been difficult, and the reputation of stepmothers has been tarnished, with many being accused of beating, scolding, and abusing children. Especially now that Commander Lin is of age, if he really remarries, there is a high possibility that his wife will get pregnant again.
At that time, the situation at home will become more complicated, and no one can guarantee Xiao An's future.
Hearing him say that, Qin Qinghuai didn't know how to advise him. People's hearts are the most unpredictable thing.
It is said that people are simple and honest at this time. At the beginning, no one will treat the child badly. But life goes on slowly. There are daily necessities and trivial matters. I wonder if this patience will be worn down. Who can guarantee that this mindset will remain unchanged and consistent?
Despite his advice, Qin Qinghuai still admired Commander Lin for thinking of these things, for not neglecting his child for his own indulgence.
This is something many men cannot do.
However, while we may have these thoughts, we ultimately have to face reality.
"So you're planning to stay single forever? Whether you admit it or not, there are times when you can't take care of your child alone. Or are you still hung up on your ex-wife?"
Looking at the distant mountains, he remained silent for a long time before finally speaking.
"If nothing unexpected happens, I should be living out my days here. I've lived half my life and survived the hardest times. Xiao An, I may not have taken good care of you, but I'm not comfortable entrusting you to someone else. Isn't that a contradiction?"
"To be honest, there's nothing I can't let go of. It's just that I feel pretty good as things are now. Things are getting better and better here. We can eat our fill, and our children can go to school and aren't illiterate. I don't ask for anything else. For the rest of my life, I'll just stay here on this little plot of land, raise my children well, and I'll be content."
This is the most basic wish of ordinary people, but the vast majority of ordinary people cannot even realize one of them.
Since the topic had come up, Qin Qinghuai couldn't offer any more advice. He stepped forward, patted him on the shoulder, and
“You are not alone. You have me and your brothers. Xiao An is also our child.”
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